Lost my dad today (battle with leukemia so knew it was coming)

I've had tons of support from friends, that's been a huge plus.

But anyone got any good strategies? Or is it a personal thing?

Different for every person, but a grief counsellor will go a long way to helping to growing with your loss.

First, I want to echo Silver's point about grief being different for everyone. I think you're also doing the smart thing by seeking support from your friends. Being able to get different perspectives is going to help a lot.

It's also important to remember that grief, just like every other psychological thing, isn't a straight line. One of the trickiest parts is responding to what your grief is in the moment, not what it was or what you expect it to be or what you'd like it to be. Feeling it more intensely is not a sign that something is going wrong. It's just part of the process.

As for me, just to give an example, when my grandmother died several years ago, I went through all her books and collected her bookmarks. I felt like that was an interesting way to get to know her better, because she used all kinds of stuff: receipts, mail, personal notes, coupons. So that was a quiet, reflective thing that I felt I could do to organize my thoughts about her and learn things about her that I may not have known while she was alive. But, like, that was something that was unique to my personality and her life. So you, too, will probably do best if you can find something that's unique to your personality and his life. It doesn't have to be something that captures every part of him or that satisfies every part of you. Just so long as you make a connection, I think that's what counts.

Anyway, you have my condolences, and I wish you luck in the days and weeks to come

So sorry for your loss, i would also say it is different for everyone and a very personal thing.
I didn't have close friends to help me through it, but as Silver_sea said, grief counselling was a massive help x

In my experiance, bottling emotions up is the worst thing to do. Chatting is great therapy.

My advice would be to remember that it's your grief, not anyone else's. Your relationship with your dad was unique to you, so you will grieve him in a way that is unique to you too. Don't try and fight it, let it take it's course. Some days you will feel absolutely rubbish, and that's fine. Other days you'll feel ok, and that's fine too. Talking to people can really help, not necessarily experts but just people you feel comfortable with.

For me it's the price I pay for loving the person

Losing a dad is something I haven't experienced yet but I will was with my dad in car today and witnessed two cars crash into each other.

I'd think of the best memories you have had with him and honor him. Do things that help you personally through it. Seems vague but for me it's small moments of deep appreciation for being alive in moments I got to experience the first time.

God! When I felt overpowered with grief, I turn to God. That's the best advice I can give. You do have my condolences. I lost my mom 7 years ago, and that was the hardest thing I've gone through.

You've received very good advice here. I've now lost both of my parents after long well-lived lives. A couple of things that helped me

My cousin told me that when you feel like crying, do it. Even if you're driving along, pull over and let it out.

My Father always told me that when you feel down, go do something fun that you enjoy.

I had a realization that my father was still alive as a part of me. He will always be with me by virtue of raising and shaping me. He lives through me. Having had a good relationship with him, this was very comforting. I'm sure it's a terrible thought if a father was not good..

You'll probably have dreams about him. I chose to believe he was visiting me in these dreams and it always felt really good after having a chance to interact with him again.

It gets better. Bless you.

firstly in so very sorry for your loss..
i lost my dad 20 + years and my best friend last year..
all i can say is time...
it hurts like hell
but it does get easier trust me
counselling will help but that you have make your mind up on
i never did... wright or wrong i have no idea..
i still miss them both very much
my love will never die for them

It's a whole new world we have to figure out how to live in when we lose someone. I'm sorry for your loss.

Losing a parent is one of those turning points in life.
Nothing prepares you for it.
The loss will always be there but will be increasingly balanced against all the good things that go on too.
Remember those gone, enjoy those still around, and very best wishes to you.
Peter