How many people can say that their spouse or significant other participate in their wam fetish?

Ex wife hated it but tried a couple times. Only once messy just with cans of vanilla pudding. Three times wetlook.

My wife has had many pie sessions with me over the years. Lately its been more of a 2 or 3 time a year thing, mainly to avoid cleanup. Its not something she particularly enjoys, but we like to please each other. She also will suck me while I watch some WAM or porn content which is a plus

My wife will throw a pie in my face but she really can't stand doing it. She's very practical so she sees it as a waste of food. I may have talked her into getting me messy for my bday next month though.

My wife tried a few times when we were dating and first married to shower and swim with me clothed. She really wanted to "please" me, but I could soon see she was not enjoying it at all, and from conversation found she really hated the feel of wet clothes. She can't stand the feel of wet shoes either, not even walking through dewy grass in flip-flops.

It's not the water, we've both enjoyed kissing and fondling in traditional swimwear in the ocean or a pool. She hates the wet clinginess of the clothing, both as it's swirling about in the water and even more so plastered against the body while climbing out. She has squealed in disgust when she's had to walk through mud, knows I'm into mess and does not understand it.

At risk of repeating myself, because I've talked about it in other discussions, but seems apropos in this conversation, we have a semi-open relationship, at least in theory. We're highly sexually compatible in vanilla space, but our kinks and fetishes don't line up at all. As such, we're not "poly" to the point of being allowed to pick up an opposite cis-gendered partner at a party or bar for hetero vanilla activity (though opportunities are negotiable...communication is key!) But we have blanket permission to get itches scratched that the other is not into.

How do you all cope with your desire for wam when your spouse has no interest in participating?

I WAM solo and sometimes it's about frolic, while sometimes it's sexual. When it's sexual, there's often masturbation. I would LOVE to do things with a partner. I would love that partner to be my wife, but I wouldn't enjoy forcing her into the situation. If I ever had the opportunity, our relationship is open enough that I could play with someone, whether in a frolic sense or sexually.

Problem is, I wasn't the smoothest guy asking a girl to the movies as a single, hetero guy in my 20s. Not exactly easier to ask someone to get messy as a married, bisexual in my 50s.

I mean, there's always divorce; that's what I did. No seriously, my ex was never into it but loved me and at least tried it. I also share a lot of the blame because I never brought it up until years after we got married. People really need to talk about their prospective spouses about sex more before tying the knot. Granted, some do, and things change years down the road too.

Now you said earlier that your wife would occasionally pie you but sees it as a waste of food. Well, you could always try something else. There's all kinds of things that aren't food you can get messy with. Aside from some of the obvious things like finding some mud mud to play in, you might want to try an approach she might like more. Does she like massage? How bout a full body massage? Naked? If she's on board so far, maybe look into nuru gel or oil and some vinyl sheets.

My girlfriend has been willing to indulge me. We've done a few chocolate sessions, and we're taken bubble baths with her wearing clothes. She's also gotten a couple dresses wet for me.

We did it now and then. We divorced over unrelated reasons, but it was something we incorporated into our lives and we both enjoyed it.

My girlfriend and I really enjoy to get wet with our clothes on, but also if it rains we love to play in the puddles and mud

Its my fetish but my wife enjoys seeing me so excited so we did it together a few times. But i still feel a big barrier in doing WAM together because its not something that she would do or fantasise about by herself

She's fulfilling your fantasy, which is a fantastic thing! You should allow her to do that in the same way you would for her.

My girlfriend isnt really into it, wish she was. But i wont force her to do things she doesn't wanna do . thats why i came here to possibly find a female " playmate " near my area ( toronto area ) to try n fulfill my fantasy or even just to cum play with me in the mud . she is leaving for 2 weeks with my son on july 9th, during this time would be optimal for me . most likely these 2 weeks would be my only opportunity to make my fantasy a reality . if i dont find a "playmate" im still gonna find a good muddy spot and "enjoy" myself

I would love to know how you talked your wife in to letting you have a messy session with someone else.

If only it would be that simple for me.

My wife is very active with my desires. We have established a set of circumstances where she will pie me or will let me pie her. Usually she will let me pie her all over so long as I buy special clothes that her not her own for the it and I do all the clean up. She will let me pie her when she is about to shower anyway so it doesn't mean she has to have extra showers. A good time to do it is when she gets home from the gym and is about to shower. Luckily for me she goes to gym several times a week. She will pie me whenever I wish but she often ask me daily if I want one or will usually surprise me. As a bonus she will also let me pie her very lightly whenever she is wearing a favourite outfit of mine such as leather trousers or skirts.

My ex used to get wet very often in her faux fur jacket, leather trousers and satin blouse and then she would give me a blowjob. I remember once she bought a full faux leather outfit and wore it out to the pub, and when we got home she cut a hole in the trousers and we had sex whilst she was wearing them. We would regularly have sex whilst she got wet in the shower fully clothed in leather. The odd time I would wear her clothes and get wet too. She also poured custard all over herself many years ago, again whilst wearing leather. She would also sleep in the clothes (dry) that had cum all over them. That's the one thing I miss from her but otherwise good riddance to her. Just got to get the new missus into it now.

My wife also lets me mess her with her old leather clothes when she no longer wears them. Sex in full leather is something we do quite regularly followed by a pie or two. Only this evening I have pies my wife in a old leather T-shirt dress she no longer wears then it's straight in the shower for her while I clean up. I'm lucky enough she lets me record it as it's all fully clothed but never allowed to share. Just for my eyes only.

My partner used to, which is why I used to have a lot more output of shoots, but she's lost interest the last couple of years, so I've not had anyone to do WAM with, which is kinda sucky.

I've been into wam sine I discovered a bucket of wallpaperpaste at the age of 8, 9 years old, while my parents were redecorating my elderly house.
The years after that I tried most sticky and savory items, to endulge my feelings .
When I met my girlfriend, later my wife, I hinted towards it, and she was really nterested in it. Why this was important to me and what I did, that sort of stuff. We tried it , and it was a faillure. We hated the sticky feeling, and specialy on her face.
So I did that alone for a while, in secret, but still gave her the full attention , how it is in a relationship.
We soon discovered that we love rough play, and that resulted in soft bondage. Then real bdsm and we grew in our realtionship, due to that. But my wam fetish was still not satisfied.
On one day I tied her on our bed, first made sure I got ylon sheets on it, and I pied her, while she was bound. Rubbed the pies over her body and poored a bucket of custard over my head. Then made love to her. She looked at me the whole time, and later told me she totaly enjoyed the sensation and experience.
We combine bdsm and wam a lot, her doing whatever I want, and does it with no hesitation.

At some point I got pics or vids on my phone sed by her, while I'm at work, in wich she ejoy's and mastrubates with honey and pudding. Totaly love that and I confronted her with it. She got used to wam and was doing it without me, and now loves the feeling.
That's how me and mrs.jurning grew into the wam fetish of mine. We still enjoy it alot, but have to plan everything, due to our daughter, that would be very awkward, when she would find out.

Also we ant to meet and play with another couple, who are like us bi-seksual and are into wam. To talk, enjoy life and maybe more. But that's a hard thing to find.

Greets, Jurning

My wife loves to trash her nice leather and expensive clothes

Ur wife have any north face jackets or vests that she will trash?

My wife has endulged me with shaving foam at times and has even reminded me it's been a while. While I am happy either way, I do wish it was a more frequent option but then again, having three little ones to plan around is a hindrance

my gf and all of my exs have let me get them messy some even really liked it. my current gf doesn't love it but when i got her messy last time i did a pussy check and she was really wet. usually now we have messy fun when she wants to give me a gift or when she really wants to make me see she is sorry for something. im lucky she does think the slime in her hair looks artsy and she does like frosting

My first girlfriend was into it - all the girlfriends since were never into it, and thought it was "Weird", zero participation. Which is ok I guess, its not for everyone.

Luckily im bisexual and find it SOOOOoooo much easier to find kinky men into wam than women.

My Wife indulges my fetish occasionally, usually as a birthday treat for example.

She isnt particularly into it herself but whenever she does get messy for me i always ensure she gets pleasured too and ultimately gets something out of it, so then its not just a thing for me!

I brought it up very early on in our relationship and my advise would be to try incorporating very subtle bits of mess into your foreplay... dont overdo it and dont push her to do what she doesnt want to, however if you can get a little bit of something into your sex life it may lead to more mess in the future! it did for me!

My examples for this would be give her a massage all over using lotion or oil, not loads, just enough for the massage itself and a tiny little extra, if you do it naked then its most likley to sex and use it as foreplay, she will see that the slipperyness of it is great lube... then you could always use little comments like, hey next time we do this we could use custard!

you can also use the champagne, strawberries and chocolate trick, take this to bed with you to spoil her and then use a tiny bit of chocolate on her nipples, then lick/suck it off... run a tiny bit off your finger onto her lips and kiss her, ask her if she will blow you with a little chocolate on your cock... make it fund and intimate for her and DONT use too much chocolate.

The whole idea is to gently introduce her to it and afterwards you can let her know this is kinda what your fetish is but yo just happen to like it a little more messy! and if she would ever feel comfortable trying a little more then just to let you know. And if you have used the love word already then you can of course say thats something that would make me want and love you more than i already do!

Hope these bits of info help, it certainly did for me! And id welcome any comments or update in the future on whether the advice works, or, if anyone else has thoughts on the subject!?

Good luck and I hope she gets super messy for you one day and gives you an epic messy blowjob or sex session sometime!

My husband is not into it at all but I am into the pies and wetlook. He's into bondage and I'm not but I'll tie him up and do things to him that he likes... and I'll buy pies and tell him to put them in my face and he'll do it (you can tell by the look on his face that he's not enjoying it at all, and that puts me out a bit).

He'll push me into a pool if I ask him and pie me if I buy the pies but he doesn't initiate any of these on his own (which I love them by surprise).

I basically have to ask him to do things to me, he'll comply but he doesn't enjoy them.

We did meet up with another couple from this site once and he did participate a little, but then sat out while the 3 of us played with the pudding, pies, and cakes (nothing sexual, that was already discussed).

It's not his thing.

My girlfriend won't even entertain the idea, I tried to ease her into it with maybe a bit of whip cream play but nope this is something that'll just have to remain a fantasy. It's alright though I still love her

So...what is she in to?