I will be truly honest with you. I am new to wam. it was always a fantasy of mine but I never knew how to start actually messing myself.
That's when I met my girlfriend 2 years ago and opened up about my kinks, she was very supportive and said let's do it and we had our first session with shaving cream tub, she even liked it. She is not as into it as me but she really enjoys it when she is is the mood.
We had 4 shaving cream tub sessions in total, it was really awesome. We watched many WAM videos Looking for substances we could try out. She really likes the idea of mud but it's really hard to find anything outside near us.
She said which substances and consistencies are a no go and I respect it so we tried looking for something that we would both like.


So let me get to the point. I don't know how to find fun substances. I've tried looking for recipes but it's really hard to find anything, I've tried chat gpt but he will agree with anything you say even if it's nonsense (it said flour and water is a fluffy engulfing mix)

Sometimes I see a great wam video and want to replicate the substance but I don't even know what is it exactly so lol.
I saw a really great buttercream video and tried to replicate it but it was a total disaster, it melted, didn't hold and it wasn't enjoyable.
Sometimes I ask on messy forum how to make for example a good pie filling but I rarely get any answers, and if I do it turns out the supplies are not available in Europe.
I wish I had the knowledge of veteran producers but of course I have to start from somewhere to achieve it
I just don't know know where to start from.
So that's it. Sorry for my chaotic style of writing, English is my third language

Firstly, well done on opening up to your girlfriend early about your kinks. Personally, I think that's the best way to do it and sound like you've also seen positive results from doing so.

If you search the right things on the forums there are a few recipes out there. You might hit the same problem of US only ingredients, but that isn't always the case.

The first post in this thread has a pie filling recipe which can be made with ingredients available in the UK, so you might have a slightly better chance of finding the same in Europe. One of them (the really important one) you'll probably need to look at food catering suppliers online. It was perfected over many months by someone experiencing a similar problem. I'll also link a video of my partner taking a pair of them.

https://umd.net/forums/time-to-go

https://umd.net/profile/i/cheekyluna/section/videos/video/cheekylunas-pie-sandwich-with-messyrob19

Mud is another area where most are secretive about their spots, but then it has been know that people haven't treated them with respect and have left litter, clothing or trashed the place in other ways. Searching satellite maps is a good start. Tidal river banks, shallow lakes and certain quarries are what you want to be looking for ideally for lots of "clean" mud. Depending where in Europe you are may dictate how easy it is to find each of those. All of those locations carry different risks to be aware of, so if you spot somewhere, find some posts on here about what to be aware of for each location type before heading out.

The other option for mud is to make your own mud pit at home. We use messy supplies in the UK, but I've seen others speak on here about being able to get clay powder from art suppliers, so that could be an option.

I wish you luck in your future experiments.

Thanks, the Sosa paste is unfortunately sold out in every Polish online Shop but I'll try to get it because the pies look amazing.

And regarding mud, i don't know of any other wammers that live in northern Poland, so people being secretive is not a Problem because there is nobody that I know of that would have the info anyway.
In theory there is an area known for wetlands because a river gives a lot of sediment. But it makes the soil so damn good that every inch is turned into a farmland.

And about home mud, it's actually a good idea, I just have to find good clay to buy, because I know some give really watery effect and we are looking for creamy and engulfing
(again the problem that I am new to all of this and would need to get the knowledge somehow which clay gives which results)

Overall, thank you for your response, I really appreciate it!