That's a tough one. Have had that same issue when meeting other people that have other kinks. We describe it as a sensual sensation on the body that allows our minds to imagine the most perverted, exotic fantasy we can envision that provides us pleasure. (At least for us.)
My go to is to start with things that people can at least understand from older pop media, like mudwrestling in the 80s. "You know how mudwrestling was a big thing back in the day and guys loved it? They still do, plus other messy things too". Something along those lines.
Not that I've talked to many people about it, but I've had moderate success talking about the tactile sensations, how things feel pouring over my body, how wet or messy clothes feel clinging to me, how skirts or loose pant legs feel swirling around while in the water. The as-still fantasy of being with a partner and licking chocolate syrup or whipped cream off of each other is also understood. Much less successful is explanation of how it is a turn on visually...could never explain why I spend hours a week on UMD.
I don't know how to actually explain it to myself!! I've wondered that for many years.
But for explaining it to others, I think it helps to first mention the more commonly "accepted" forms of WAM, such as the classic pie in the face, or mud wrestling. If I need to try to explain to somebody what turns ME on about WAM, it mostly centers on the embarrassment aspect of it for me - but then I can't explain WHY the embarrassment turns me on. So, I don't know!!
I dont explain, I just love doing it and I'm thrilled I can be on UMD and meet others that have and share the same desires. I went to a fetish "flea market" not long ago, and I didnt meet one person that understood or knew about wam Maybe it's not a bad thing
Muddawg said: I dont explain, I just love doing it and I'm thrilled I can be on UMD and meet others that have that share the same desires. I went to a fetish "flea market" not long ago, and I didnt meet one person that understood or knew about wam Maybe it's not a bad thing
That's fair. I think a lot of people are looking for ways to have the conversation with people they are interested in. If a conversation goes towards kink, most people get BDSM to some extent nowadays; WAM/sploshing on the other hand...not so much.
What does a "fetish flea market" look like? I'm imagining Mennonites selling inappropriately shaped baked goods, and a bunch of stalls with vintage gimp wear.
https://nelaonline.org/ The fetish flea market is held twice a year at a different hotel and conference center in the Boston area. About 3,000 people showed up for the last event and all the rooms were booked. Different workshops, BDSM, leather goods for sale, etc. When I went, I was secretly hoping and went dressed in my favorite jeans, workboots, tshirt, and leather jacket looking for the dunktank, believe me I would have been in it. Nothing on sploshing, watersports, or wam. I explained to experienced leather fetishists, they never heard of wam
Muddawg said: https://nelaonline.org/ The fetish flea market is held twice a year at a different hotel and conference center in the Boston area. About 3,000 people showed up for the last event and all the rooms were booked. Different workshops, BDSM, leather goods for sale, etc. When I went, I was secretly hoping and went dressed in my favorite jeans, workboots, tshirt, and leather jacket looking for the dunktank, believe me I would have been in it. Nothing on sploshing, watersports, or wam. I explained to experienced leather fetishists, they never heard of wam
It's going to take setting up booths and education forums at events like that for WAM to become more mainstream. I mean, there are aspects of WAM that appeal to people, playing with whip cream and chocolate and the like. But dipping into the more extreme side of things, most people don't even consider the possibility. The people I've talked with are pretty open to it. I did an interview with an Australian fetish magazine, which is being published very soon. Growth takes intentional outreach.
I showed to my girl, my video playlist, telling her why I love this and Which things I would love to do with her, she was really open and happy to know my fetishes and how to make me happy, also she started to enjoy WAM too