Just read this back and wow was it poorly written on my behalf

Basically what I was trying to say (also forgot to mention this was scouts too) was the 2nd public gunging was worse because it was with a group of girls I'd never met before and straight off the bat I got the vibe that most of them didn't like me. I was a lot younger than them and it felt like they had to babysit me and that annoyed them.
One of the girls was really nice and the head girl seemed quite friendly too (although once again she was the one who gunged me) but the rest of the group were so unwelcoming that was just humilating and it felt personal.

Also forgot to mention the lack of understanding of why it was happening. First time I knew I was being gunged as forfeit for being the captain of a losing side.
Second time I just had no idea what was going on. Felt like they just randomly ganged up on me and tied me to a fence and started putting stuff on my face (they initially put make up on me before wiping it off) then I saw the head girl arrive at the scene and I was certain she'd put a stop to it all but instead she gunged me whilst the group of girls who were very unwelcoming towards me laughed. Needless to say I thought they were doing this cos they simply didn't like me.

I found out later that it was actually my intitation into their group. I knew initiations at that point to either be singing a song or telling a joke but apparently since I was a boy and they were a girl group, they liked to humiliate boys in a "playful and fun manner" for their initiations. That's what they told me afterwards at least.

But yeah the two situations were very similar in a lot of ways (public park, only boy amongst a group of girls, tied up and gunged by an attractive head girl) but the vibe of the two were so different that one was humilating but somewhat fun and the other was just humilating.

Wrote way more there than intended but reading back that original comment I realised it made no sense so I probably gave too much context to compensate

Context, yes, but what were you gunged with?!

When I was there early on they used to use foods but got massive backlash from parents since it was ruining their kids hair and they also felt it was a huge waste of food. So with the exception of one occasion anytime I was gunged it was with an As Seen on TV gunge powder that was donated to most groups

I am really glad to find that others share my hangups about being seen muddy in public. I've loved getting soaked at least since high school and starting mudding in college, but always had to hide it. We only have good mud where I live for 1-2 months a year, so my mudding opportunities are limited.

One way I deal with the problem is by posting synthetics. When I get the urge to get muddy or greasy, I do it with AI and post it here. Fortunately I've got some pretty good computer skills. It's not as good as getting muddy and greasy myself, but most of the time, it's the only way I can do it. I've posted quite a few and am getting better at it. It is fun, just not as much fun as doing it myself, but most of the time, it's my only option.

Self-promo: check out my "Jake's very dirty job" and "Tito & Jake" albums. They have lots of synthetic mud and grease that's been fun to create. I'm still adding to them.

One problem I have is that I have friends and acquaintance who talk pretty derisively about us mud lovers. One example is a muddy Burning Man several years ago. I wasn't there, but I heard about the mud while it was happening and wished I'd gone, but then friends who were there ridiculed the people who got muddy as weirdos. It reinforced my lifelong fears about being seen muddy.

An additional problem is that I'm involved with several organizations that deal with local parks, and I have a leadership position in one. It would not look good for me to be recognized while wallowing in mud.

I also love grease. I've worked on my cars all my life and love getting greasy, but I rent a room in a house on a private road surrounded by millionaires who don't want to see some greasy guy working on his 4wd truck, so I hide that too (I love the feel of black drain oil soaking into my tee shirt, but can't let anyone see it). In the past, I've gotten pretty greasy. I wish I had photos. I'm really envious seeing Jake and Tito getting messy working in that auto dismantling yard in my synthetics.

So I post synthetics about folks getting muddy and greasy and wish it was me, and on the rare occasions I can do it myself, I do. I just wish I could relax and do it in public more often.