I know some people get nervous about when they should bring up their kinks when starting a new relationship. Too soon and you might scare the person off, but if you wait to late you might end up putting time into a relationship that just isn't going to be sexually satisfying for either partner.

Personally I never bring up kink stuff until I know the person is into me and wants a sexual relationship. I like to bring it up while fooling around but before having sex for the first time. That way the person knows what they are getting themselves into and if they are so weirded out by it that they don't want to have sex with me then it clearly wouldn't have worked out anyway.

Curious what other people think about this, do you wait till you know the person better or just say fuck it and go for it?

I have told all my partners (eventually). I am fortunate enough to have 3 that are very understanding of my kink and non-judgmental (They are into BDSM and other things, so it helps). I don't ever expect them to do anything with me but they respect that I told them, especially as it's something so intimate and hard to share.

I actually have written a document explaining sploshing which I have sent to TV production companies that I have chatted too, but it also helped my partners get a grasp and ask if they have any more questions.

As for when to tell them; normally after we have had sex a few times as to me it is odd to discuss kinks beforehand but it depends on the person and how the relationship is progressing. My last partner actually found out by following another partner on fetlife and seeing my profile! Turns out she is also dating a friend of mine who is also an occasional splosher (though she doesn't really like it that much).

I have the same problem. I've been on innumerable dates since my last relationship 5 years ago. In my experience, women who enjoy wam tend to be few and far between. It's genuinely depressing for me anyways because I feel like I have a lot to offer on a relationship, but I need to be compatible with the person I could potentially be in a relationship with.

This is compounded by the fact that despite me being 22, I primarily go for older women. You should be proud of what you have. It might feel like a curse, but I promise you there are thousands of men who would be thrilled to have you I'm sure!

If you meet a guy who isn't into what you're into, by all means talk about it with him. Some guys will go for it some won't. I know I would be thrilled to have a normal vanilla relationship with someone I knew would have me tied to a chair and pelting me with pies later (or vice versa).

Just my two cents.

My girlfriend know about my attraction to feet from the beginning, and was very accepting of it. However, it took me a little longer to admit to mer my WAM attraction. Still, she was accepting of that, as well, and we've done quite a few WAM things together.

"Personally I never bring up kink stuff until I know the person is into me and wants a sexual relationship. I like to bring it up while fooling around but before having sex for the first time. That way the person knows what they are getting themselves into and if they are so weirded out by it that they don't want to have sex with me then it clearly wouldn't have worked out anyway. "

This paragraph is where I lean when it comes to talking to someone with mutual interest. I've never got messy ever but I am curious about it since it correlates with my foot fetish. I make sure I tell beforehand about how versatile my foot fetish is and what I'm curious about exploring the dirtier and messier sides of it. I've had mixed results when confiding but nothing happening concerning said sides.

I've been married for almost four years, but somehow left it until a few days ago to talk to my wife about my enthusiasm for mud other thick gloopy substances. I think this was due to me not being totally at ease with it myself rather than fear of her reaction, as I know she's very open minded and has had her own kinks going on at times.
I'd been keeping it to myself, and playing with custard or yoghurt in the tub now and again when she was out. A couple of times when camping near rivers, I'd say that I was going for a walk and a dip in the river (which I enjoy doing anyway), but went looking mud for a quick wallow before cleaning off in the river without telling her.
I'd been thinking things through in the last few weeks and figured the stress of keeping things secret was doing me no good, that I should try and stop being hung up about what is a pretty harmless kink and just let her know. She has been totally supportive, and if anything we've enjoyed opening up to each other. She's even suggested we might play around with some clay some time (she used to do pottery classes and enjoys the feel of it even if it's not a turn-on for her).
It feels like a huge weight off my shoulders and I should really have thought of it earlier. It also means that since I don't have to be so furtive about things, I've picked up a couple of packs of gunge to have a play with for the first time. I'll have to do that while our teenage kid is out at college in the daytime, but they'll be living in student accommodation next year which should make things easier. I'm going to make some up and have a little session in the bathtub tomorrow, which I'm kind of excited about...

HOORAY!! I love success stories! Hope you two have lots of fun!

It's something I do worry about a bit since WAM is a fairly esoteric fetish. I've only admitted my kinks to a handful of women and most have thankfully just found it funny rather than disturbing. I'm hoping I can meet a woman who has her own kinks (that way we can bargain and indulge each other's desires) or is just really open-minded and doesn't mind getting messy once in a while.