Keep at, the day may be dark but the sun is still there. You are going to pull through. All the things that your fellow classmates say about you being a nerd and a war freak is something that is going to get you through high school and take you all the way to university.
So keep at it.
P.S Kaylee from history is really into you. Invite her to the War memorial on your next visit.
A little piece of advice that long ago would change too much. The good that I have now is too good to let go, and the bad carved me into who I am. I have a lot of flaws, regret and things I would like to tweek. But... I'm me, and I unapologetically am damn proud of that.
Not sure I've gained much of a useful nature in the 24 and a bit years... The only what if I think I've had is "when she says she's close, go meet her"
Try not to worry so much, about what people say or do. You can't change them, and what is being told, well that's their problem. It's onely words, and though they are talking behind you're back, never miss the oppertunity to tell what you think. No matter what. People won't like it, so f*%^ them. You can't change the world. Don't follow others because that's "the way to do things". Like sheep in a heard. Make you're own way and the ones who are willing to go on that journey with you, they will stay. They are the ones you can trust with everything what's on you're mind, even you're fetishes!!!
Ow and go and work with mentaly disabled people from the beginning, that's you're true passion.
Simply............"you are a totally awesome individual, an amazing and loving human being and don't be afriad or scared of youself" Purely that simple! now.........
I was 15 in 84' with no internet and you had not a single clue you weren't alone and that's in a few life ways for me and not just on here.
RuPaul from drag race always does this gig on the episode before the final when they go for "dinner" of a sweet or a pea haha or something just as calorie free and it brings on all the tears because we all have a few things we wished we'd known back then, but if you think about it really would you?
I think I'm with PieFun and Leon and all the things life is now probably wouldn't of been if you'd known what you do now back then, so a bit of a sliding doors moment and you just never know it could of turned out worse but of course you'd never have known all at the same time
I know..........WTHeck!...........you can go round and round and round and round forever with this one and i lost a job at 16 on a YTS scheme in a really random incredibly, seriously incredibly unlucky way shall we say and that would of defo mean't my life would not be what it is today for absoulte sure! and I've not thought about this for years until I noticed this thread and it's now provoked a few thoughts of course, for about 10 seconds and then it's a nah.........I've got to here through all those bad times and I actually got kicked out of home (at 16) for it at the time and have never been back. Not sure proud of that is the right words, but the tough times and growing up fast or whatever we've all gone through has made us "US" today.
I totally love the idea and scentiment behind this and mental health is such a tough cookie for many of us and the rest of the peeps in this world too! but i know my life would of been soooooooo...........different knowing things i know now and I'm pretty sure i wouldn't of had my beautiful kids just the way they are
All the decisions we make during our lives are either:
- Consciously or unconsciously in pursuit of our goals - Consciously or unconsciously sabotaging ourselves in pursuit of those goals
And that's not to mention all the opportunities and setbacks we encounter on the way.
So, I think most people who've spoken so far have the right idea about this question. Yes, I could have given the 15 year old me back in that little northern seaside town in the 80s a lot of shortcuts and clues, but there are lots of chance in a billion good things that have happened - like my children being the exact people they are, and all that would have been different. Not to mention the several times I've escaped death and injury literally by seconds with everything just where it's supposed to be.
Your needs are just as important as everyone else's.
Let go of your attachment to outcomes and believe in possibility. There's so much you will never know or be able to control and so much unexpected goodness you never could have imagined.
Forgive yourself. Being on the other side of failure is profound. If something doesn't serve you, or isn't serving you any more, you can and should change course.
You deserve happiness and excitement and fulfillment. All people do.
besidethesea said: Don't be afraid, join the community and meet fellow kinksters as soon as you can. Join in.
This is most pertinent advice for then or now.
Despite our fetish's reputation for being anarchic and destructive, ironically, I can honestly say I've never met more gentle or respectful people than those whom I've encountered on this scene. Everyone gets it
Run. Take Matthew and run. Your mother will never get better, and your dad will not really realize how bad things are until it's far too late. He will always take her side. He will say he loves you (and he does), but his actions putting her first will cause you both immense suffering. Seek legal emancipation, use her arrest records to your advantage. Mom mom will take you in.
You WILL get very sick in a couple years. There's probably nothing you can do about it either. Your illness cannot be cured, and will stay with your your whole life. Take the best care of your body, mind, and soul as you can now and maybe it won't be as bad. See these doctors I've enclosed as soon as possible.
That girl you met on the church trip in Vermont...she is very special. First, she's not really a she, but they don't realize it yet. Their soul is filled with sadness, guilt, and doubt from their overly conservative parents. IF you get close, you WILL fall in love, and they will too. But it will be an ugly marriage as you untie the knots. You will pour out your everything for them to fill them, and help them realize they depth of their vessel. But you will be left a shattered cup that can't be pieced together. No one will be able to fill you up.
Your life will be filled with tragedy, sorrow, guilt, and pain with little to no reward if you take my path. Seek another.
kittenish said: Your needs are just as important as everyone else's.
Let go of your attachment to outcomes and believe in possibility. There's so much you will never know or be able to control and so much unexpected goodness you never could have imagined.
Forgive yourself. Being on the other side of failure is profound. If something doesn't serve you, or isn't serving you any more, you can and should change course.
You deserve happiness and excitement and fulfillment. All people do.
All of what Kittenish said plus: "Nobody is taking any of this as seriously as you."
If i knew what i knew now......i would of really told some people where to go and stayed away from a lot of people that i wish i never crossed paths with!!!
"You're not a weirdo. Or at least if you are a weirdo, there are a lot of weirdos out there like you.
When a girl rejects you, be rejected. Don't chase those who aren't interested. It makes you some damn good friends but you're actively avoiding relationships.
You're an artist. A writer. A singer. Own that.
Relationships aren't just for the pretty people.
You're a good person. Never forget that.
Most importantly... nerdy girls are far more fun to hang around with than nerdy boys!
Hey, chump! This is your future self speaking, shades of the time-travel movies you've watched as a dedicated sci-fi nerd.
I know all about the episodes of College Madhouse you've taped on VHS, cleverly labeled in Printy-Dater as "Looney Tunes." Also the messy stories you penned out in ball-point ink in spiral-bound notebooks and have stashed away in the drawer of your writing desk.
Hang in there! In two more years you're going to discover this thing called "the Internet" exists and there's actually an awesome community of like-minded folks out there who are into what you are.
Beyond that, a few miscellaneous tips:
-- By all means, stick with the youth group/volunteer school crossing guard/card-carrying member of the abstinence club schtick. No sense in throwing yourself into anything you're not ready for, but don't get all high and mighty. You're eventually going to have an arrest record and an employment record best described as "spotty," but this too shall pass and you'll live and learn.
-- That acne isn't gonna fade out by adulthood and you're gonna wind up as that 41yo who borrows her teen's Clearasil. In the long run, it's hardly the worst health problem you could wind up facing.
-- Kudos to you for sticking with what you believe in, but soon enough the "young Republican" schtick will come to a crashing halt and disillusionment will follow.
-- Love won't come easy, but it'll work out in the long run. You're going to be a late bloomer, but when you're 17 you'll finally work out the nerve to ask out a classmate. And then after prom, you'll drive down to the beach in his pickup and he'll nervously admit that marriage and children aren't something he's comfortable with. Return his utmost respect for you with the same, because admitting one was ace back in the day couldn't have been easy. And it'll happen all over again with your coworker at the local amusement park when you're 22, but keep in mind that in both situations, you were both young and were still trying to figure things out.
-- In two years you're going to be seated in your grandfolks' kitchen and a relative will ask if there's a "special guy" in your life. Meanwhile, the AM radio DJ on their GE Spacemaker radio hanging under the kitchen cabinet is going to be running his "trader" program, hawking used goods like "a five-piece dinette set, $75 or best offer!" You'll eventually meet up and marry, and while it won't be a decades-long union like both your folks' and grandfolks', you'll have a good run and welcome a lot of kiddos into this world together.
-- Edited to add, trigger warning for possible TMI: You're stressing out now because you had your first period last year and now you're only having two to six a year. You'll finally work up the nerve to see a doctor about that as a newlywed and will be told your hormones are out of whack and you might have trouble conceiving. This'll be crushing news but ultimately inaccurate.
Somewhat unrelated, but as a total nostalgia junkie even if I'm a Gen-Xer and this song predates me, I love this and am pretty sure everyone in the video is an adult, so have some glam rock: