Hello all, seeing all the open responses to various discussions lately about wam interest and fantasy vs reality was both eye opening and inspiring so I wanted talk about the same.

It wasn't really an interest of mine, just something I found visually exiting at times on TV shows growing up, after growing up I felt I had to put it aside and forget about it, thinking that it was childish and wrong to think about such things.
I sometimes thought about but never really did anything in reality, I didn't even indulge much in fantasy in my mind either.
A few years ago after years of gradually declining mental health, I went on an alternative medicine and detox retreat, during one of the ceremonies laying down and just imagining with my minds eye - I started thinking about someone I had always been attracted to when at school but never been with, it would have been easy to start feeling resentful but instead the fantasies started coming into my head and it felt so right in both body and mind I was so aroused.

Part of me said this is wrong your degrading this person thinking about them like this, but its just a fantasy in my mind I said in response.

My point of saying all this is that was a start of a turn around of thinking on top of years worth of suppression and repression, don't do this don't make this mistake I made of shutting out fantasising and imagining - It can be destructive to identity and mental health.

This is not to say you go out in and reality and start living out fantasies in some unrealistic harmful to yourself and others way - Which brings me to my other point of fantasy vs reality.

Part of my journey was the discovery of Ai as an outlet for both visual art interest and venting supressed desire and mental struggle, I would perhaps like to experience a little bit of it in reality but I know it wouldn't be the same, but that wouldn't matter because you can go back to fantasy at anytime.

The reality side shown on here for is excessively messy and humiliating sometimes which doesn't interest me, that's why I like making Ai work for what isn't out there and what suits me.

I will get around to sharing more in the future but I have only been doing this for just over 6 months, I have to do this for me first as I've years of unexpressed desire to catch up on.

There is a lot of humiliation mentioned here - which doesn't compute with my sensation/enjoyment bias...

So I was really surprised that those two were by far the leading two choices in my recent poll (spoiler alert for those who didn't vote in it yet... so vote before reading that sentence! )

While some people did mention humiliation as a secondary factor... and humiliation was a primary reason for a bunch of people... there are definitely others who enjoy WAM and don't feel humiliated (whether they like that humiliation or not) by it.

There were a lot of times I expressed my WAM interests via stories, especially when I wasn't in a place where it was safe to partake.

So it's definitely valid if you're exploring in a way you feel safe!