I'm a big WAM fan (surprise surprise) - but my fiancee isn't too keen on it. She doesn't mind making me messy, or watching me mess myself - but I can count on one hand the amount of times she'd let me mess her up. Of course I don't want to make her do anything she'd be uncomfortable with - but are there "softer" or "easier" things I could get her to try that are WAM related with me?

Use body lotion. Most of the time they put it on them self's but add it in the bed room while your making love. Offer a back rub and and lube em up. Its what we do in a pinch to get that wammed up feel but dont have the time for clean up and showers.

And comfort plays a big part. Warmth is number one. Get the environment as warm as possible.

The funny (and ironic) thing is that neither of us particularly like getting messy. The fetish holds no interest for her other than vicariously enjoying the pleasure it gives me.

My 'thing' is seeing women messy and getting them messy (I love the feeling of rubbing food with my hands into Mrs Trouso's clothes, running them over her gunge-slicked body and boobs and shampooing messy food into her hair)- so when it happens it always involves me Sploshing her, one way, and (generally) filming it. Incidentally, she has no interest in getting 'revenge' for this - the times she has I've had to coerce her to do so - and she's no submissive I can assure you and certainly takes no prisoners when she throws a pie hard in your face from 5 feet away.

The trouble with the WAM mainstays is that most of them tend to be naturally cold - or go cold and once the body is wet all over with 'stuff' it loses heat fast.

The only times Mrs Trouso has found the experience truly enjoyable (and been more playful) has been when the substances are very warm. Gunge is the best because it can be mixed thick and hot water added to it all the time without thinning too much. This is really the best chance of making the experience enjoyable enough that your other half might 'discover' it's actually quite a lot of fun...

OATMEAL!!! Warm oatmeal ALL THE WAY! And a coconut oil massage to start off! Get a pool for her to lay in and start with the oil and then start laying down a layer of warm oatmeal but not on her head. The oatmeal holds the heat for a long time in the bucket so make sure you don't burn her. Ha! I guarantee she will love that! Seriously. Build up to head. Some people get a bit weirded out by having their face totally covered. Both these ingredients are so wonderful for your skin too.

oatmeal good for the skin, too

Oatmeal is great stuff, but doesnt taste as good as custard and chocolate sauce

I absolutely love oatmeal! It's affordable and can be mixed many ways! Try it with instant mashed potatoes some time - you won't regret it!

Personally my issue is that my wife hates anything greasy. When she needs lotion on any area she will rub it in until it feels dry. This is where I'm very thankful for shaving cream! It is also affordable, although I would definitely spring for Barbasol sensitive skin or something better, as the cheaper brands can burn like heck. The types with menthol can feel amazing, but again can cause sensitivity issues, especially around the face and privates. It doesn't hold heat for a long time, but can be soaked in warm water until it is barely hot enough to stand. Also, it is quite literally soap, so I feel it takes a lot of the "dirty" out of it, which helps tremendously in my case. This also means if done correctly clean up can be almost nonexistant! Just grab a couple cans before you hit the shower, plus it's a great excuse to shave each other in places you usually wouldn't! If you don't use a moisturizing body wash you may feel a bit "squeaky clean", which is just another excuse to rub lotion on each other!

On another note, have you suggested body painting? I myself find it less-than-spectacular on most levels as I prefer to be covered head to toes. However it can be a great introduction to feeling the sensations of foreign substances on the skin. Just make sure to get a washable kind! Which, might I add, can make some awesome patterns when washed off with shaving cream!

When my wife and I started dating I told her about my wam fetish and she was willing to try it but wasn't exactly enthusiastic about it. I figured I'd try to make it as enjoyable for her as possible so I offered to massage her body with warm chocolate sauce. I think the word "massage" is what got her excited Since it's my fetish and not hers I try to focus on her enjoyment and I do believe that is why she keeps doing it.