OK, This is a more collected version of a rant on fetlife.

For those who don't know, I suffer from Primary Progressive MS. This mans, for me because everyone is different, I walk long distances with a stick, I tire easily, occasionally weird shit happens to my body.

This also means that when people organise big events with stairs and uneven floors and slip hazards everywhere, as is common in WAM, you've locked a door. I am not calling anyone out, you crazy kids have your fun.

I've been to smaller gatherings and had a great time. But these big wet play meets? If you can't cater to the disabled, please tell us.

And as a service dom, I usually like to stay clean anyway. I'm better at orchestrating chaos.

And if I see a lot of people headed to an event I physically could not if I wanted to, that's daggers in my skull.

So, yeah, be cooler, take care. And look after the impaired. Because FOMO may be a thing but FOMOF (the final F is for forever) destroys a little part of my psyche every time it happens.

I'll see y'all at Leeds.

This is so real, and I'm proud of you for speaking up. Even the super lefty queer focused events I try to go to here in America are often in inaccessible spaces and we of all people should be better than that.

I genuinely think "accidental" or "ignorant" are the maybe the key words here. Every event I've gone to, people have been extremely kind and going out of their way to cater to others. I genuinely think here in most cases it's a lack of knowing or just not thinking about or planning for it.

The more people and from different backgrounds that you have planning for an event, the better input you can get on meeting certain needs etc. I also think that part of the issue is what you mentioned with larger meets. The larger any event is, the harder it is to control. You just start getting too many variables etc.

It's definitely one of the reasons I like smaller events of pretty much every sort. BIG concerts for instance, I just could never enjoy as much.

I can only imagine it's so much harder with a disability. I've been very fortunate that most of my issues have been under control.