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How's everyone doing? Christmas and the build up to it can tough for people. I hope you are doing okay.
Hello, I would I say was okay but not great. Life is difficult but I'm being positive.However I am very feeling very festive and hope to bring some joy.
I am cautiously optimistic for Christmas this year. There is so much family drama and living a 10 hour drive away is a great insulator! I am heading home this year and hope to see some cousins and rekindle old relationships that were collateral damage by our parents fighting. I feel thats what the holidays are about right?
I just got home from overseas Saturday so no tree, no lights, no shopping done and I feel bad about that. Lighting up the house just makes the block feel more festive and it actually is bothering me more than I want to admit that I haven't hung any yet, I feel like I am letting people down. I know it's irrational but the feeling is real, christmas cheer is wonderful when it happens. Nothing a few hours of being an adult won't fix.
I just got home from overseas Saturday so no tree, no lights, no shopping done and I feel bad about that. Lighting up the house just makes the block feel more festive and it actually is bothering me more than I want to admit that I haven't hung any yet, I feel like I am letting people down. I know it's irrational but the feeling is real, christmas cheer is wonderful when it happens. Nothing a few hours of being an adult won't fix.
Hi Speccybeard,
Thank you for posting this... and asking!
Christmas can be a tough time, as you say... 100%- I've had my share over the years. I'm feeling strangely optimistic for this year and pre-planning has helped a lot, so would say I'm doing well in the run up (famous last words).
Sorry that you are finding things difficult, but great you're being positive. Support is always there if you want it - even on a WAM forum.
Wishing you all the best
Thank you for posting this... and asking!
Christmas can be a tough time, as you say... 100%- I've had my share over the years. I'm feeling strangely optimistic for this year and pre-planning has helped a lot, so would say I'm doing well in the run up (famous last words).
Sorry that you are finding things difficult, but great you're being positive. Support is always there if you want it - even on a WAM forum.
Wishing you all the best
Thanks for sharing everyone.
It's great how Christmas, for some, can really time to cheer the spirit. Whether it be lights on house, preparing for kids or just seeing through a well made plan, we can all find some joy.
Have a great Christmas everyone.
It's great how Christmas, for some, can really time to cheer the spirit. Whether it be lights on house, preparing for kids or just seeing through a well made plan, we can all find some joy.
Have a great Christmas everyone.
fslong1 said: I'm not doing well at all. The holidays bring out the worst in my depression, anxiety, sadness, and everything else.
If you need someone to talk to you can PM me. I used to feel this way and through some heavy therapy and long conversations am trying to be more optimistic about the holidays. It is tough because it is put on such a pedestal to be perfect in every way. Reality is usually not even close to perfect.
Personally I'm ok. I see my folks on Christmas day (my brother decides on the day due to his feelings and ability to 'people'). Other than that I open my house up to friends who can't see family or are stuck in other ways. Always food, board games and Mario Kart at my house for those that need it 
Silver_sea said: Personally I'm ok. I see my folks on Christmas day (my brother decides on the day due to his feelings and ability to 'people'). Other than that I open my house up to friends who can't see family or are stuck in other ways. Always food, board games and Mario Kart at my house for those that need it
That's an awesome thing to do. We always invite anyone alone at Christmas to ours.
Things could be better. A calm Christmas and basically living in exile from wider family conflict is what I'm going to do.
Took a vow of chastity for a whole year, ending in November next year.
Should be easy enough only ever had sex twice this year.
Hope everybody elses Christmas and new year period goes well.
Took a vow of chastity for a whole year, ending in November next year.
Should be easy enough only ever had sex twice this year.
Hope everybody elses Christmas and new year period goes well.
Axios
I am doing ok I have a health condition. Some things have been a struggle and I have faced somechanges that are not for the better, but there are good things too. Achievements. help me to feel positive. If anyone is struggling and needs a hand you are welcome to message me
Best wishes to all
Take care
Best wishes to all
Take care
Thanks for sharing. I hope things turn around for all those going through tough times.
I'm having trouble. It's not overwhelming, but it's there. There are a lot of folks that have it a lot worse, so I'm trying to keep out of the way.
Thanks for sharing. I'm sorry you feel so alone at this time of year.
Doing well here at Messy Married Couple.
Meds are keeping me sane. But I understand when some people are lonely or anxious. If you need help, please reach out to somebody.
Meds are keeping me sane. But I understand when some people are lonely or anxious. If you need help, please reach out to somebody.
Slapdash WAM said: Didn't really have Christmas. My dad died earlier this year and certain inlaws manipulated grandparents into making decisions that left myself and my mother without what we should have gotten when my dad passed. Times have been better. We're waiting for what benefits we were able to get- It was supposed to have been here, but we're still waiting.
I am sorry to hear that. I hope it all works out in the end.
I've found it a struggle, 2nd Christmas without Dad & my own mental health issues hand been quite high, but so grateful Gran is out of hospital for it. I think it's hard with the pressure of society telling us we should be happy and it's 'the best time of the year', when for some of us it's not, it's a hurtful reminder of things! But we plod on and we don't realise how strong we actually are at times. Sending huge hugs & splats to everyone feeling it. X
Bri 💋
I'm ok dealing with an work related injury and family issues
bsmessybakery said: I've found it a struggle, 2nd Christmas without Dad & my own mental health issues hand been quite high, but so grateful Gran is out of hospital for it. I think it's hard with the pressure of society telling us we should be happy and it's 'the best time of the year', when for some of us it's not, it's a hurtful reminder of things! But we plod on and we don't realise how strong we actually are at times. Sending huge hugs & splats to everyone feeling it. X
Sorry it's tough. Christmas being the most wonderful time of the year can be a wonderful myth. But, it just isn't for so many of us. I hope you can find some joy this season and that things get easier for you.
wamman2018 said: I'm ok dealing with an work related injury and family issues
Hope things turn around for you and things get better.
Hey, it's so kind of you to ask us all and show concern
The holidays for me are a weird time... I'm currently long-distance with my partners, and my local family is a bit crazy, so holidays are a mixed bag. As the only person in the family who celebrates a different winter holiday than Christmas, I get invalidated pretty much all the time (my aunt has explicitly asked me before, "Why can't you just do... whatever it is you do, but still CALL it Christmas?", which as you can imagine is a pretty painful thing to hear).
My job also decided that it was the perfect time to drop a massive project on me, which is the last thing I feel like doing right now, but at least it gave me an excuse to leave the gatherings early
I'm trying to rescue it by building some really cool WAM toys in my workshop, though, so hopefully I'l be able to ring in the new year with a resounding SPLAT!
The holidays for me are a weird time... I'm currently long-distance with my partners, and my local family is a bit crazy, so holidays are a mixed bag. As the only person in the family who celebrates a different winter holiday than Christmas, I get invalidated pretty much all the time (my aunt has explicitly asked me before, "Why can't you just do... whatever it is you do, but still CALL it Christmas?", which as you can imagine is a pretty painful thing to hear).
My job also decided that it was the perfect time to drop a massive project on me, which is the last thing I feel like doing right now, but at least it gave me an excuse to leave the gatherings early
I'm trying to rescue it by building some really cool WAM toys in my workshop, though, so hopefully I'l be able to ring in the new year with a resounding SPLAT!
CytheSplatPuppy said: Hey, it's so kind of you to ask us all and show concern
The holidays for me are a weird time... I'm currently long-distance with my partners, and my local family is a bit crazy, so holidays are a mixed bag. As the only person in the family who celebrates a different winter holiday than Christmas, I get invalidated pretty much all the time (my aunt has explicitly asked me before, "Why can't you just do... whatever it is you do, but still CALL it Christmas?", which as you can imagine is a pretty painful thing to hear).
My job also decided that it was the perfect time to drop a massive project on me, which is the last thing I feel like doing right now, but at least it gave me an excuse to leave the gatherings early
I'm trying to rescue it by building some really cool WAM toys in my workshop, though, so hopefully I'l be able to ring in the new year with a resounding SPLAT!
The holidays for me are a weird time... I'm currently long-distance with my partners, and my local family is a bit crazy, so holidays are a mixed bag. As the only person in the family who celebrates a different winter holiday than Christmas, I get invalidated pretty much all the time (my aunt has explicitly asked me before, "Why can't you just do... whatever it is you do, but still CALL it Christmas?", which as you can imagine is a pretty painful thing to hear).
My job also decided that it was the perfect time to drop a massive project on me, which is the last thing I feel like doing right now, but at least it gave me an excuse to leave the gatherings early
I'm trying to rescue it by building some really cool WAM toys in my workshop, though, so hopefully I'l be able to ring in the new year with a resounding SPLAT!
Family can be interesting at times. I hope it gets better and am glad there are some positives in the workshop.
Hope everyone's new year has started positively. Wishing you all many blessings for this year.
FloraFrench said: I'm doing Dry January, but started before the new year. So far I've done 14 days and hope I can keep going! Alcohol does me no favours.
I hope you and everyone else is doing ok too xx
I hope you and everyone else is doing ok too xx
I do hope that goes well for you FloraFrench. Have a great January.
FloraFrench said: I'm doing Dry January, but started before the new year. So far I've done 14 days and hope I can keep going! Alcohol does me no favours.
I hope you and everyone else is doing ok too xx
I hope you and everyone else is doing ok too xx
How's dry January going?
FloraFrench said:
Thank you so much for asking! It's going amazing so far.. I started slightly before January so it's been 4 weeks. I can show you my dry January calendar
Speccybeard said:
How's dry January going?
FloraFrench said: I'm doing Dry January, but started before the new year. So far I've done 14 days and hope I can keep going! Alcohol does me no favours.
I hope you and everyone else is doing ok too xx
I hope you and everyone else is doing ok too xx
How's dry January going?
Thank you so much for asking! It's going amazing so far.. I started slightly before January so it's been 4 weeks. I can show you my dry January calendar
That's excellent, well done. 4 weeks is a long time, but now you know you can do that and that's a part of the battle won.
FloraFrench said: Oh thank you so much! The real test will probably be going out in London next Saturday.. I know it will be Feb by then but I sort of wanted to carry on after dry Jan. We'll see though xx
Well you've got this far. I believe you can if you want to but I know temptation can be cruel sometimes. The thing is, if you do fail you can always start again, but then stronger from the lessons you've learnt. Failing isn't bad, wrong or the end, it's just part of the journey.
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