For Context: im a straight male from the UK. Im not at all interested in men but being a lover of all things messy the individuals involved are not what im interested in, its just the mud/mess. So for me, im toying with the idea of a meetup as im not sure its for me or not.

The pros would be; having someone witness me getting messy, sharing ideas and thoughts on the 'fettish', and i guess helping each other physically (pushing in the mud ect. I dont know).

The cons; i dont know if it would be awkward or i would just be awkward, obviously its normally its an arousing experience and MAYBE sharing it with a man would ruin it for me (lets face it i very much doubt many women are involved with the community?).

So my question is for those who have done meetups before. What is the etiquette at a meet up at say a quarry? Im also interested to hear from someone who can relate to what iv said.

Thanks in advance

I'm the same. I'm straight but absolutely love getting messy.

I have met guys in the past to get messy and it has been a good experience.

As long as you both agree boundaries it's good fun

You should absolutely set boundaries whether gay/straight/bi etc. If someone doesn't respect that or challenges that, I'd probably not meet them.

I've had sessions which have been platonic and they've been completely fine and still alot of fun.

Getting gunged/pied/messy is part of a sexual fetish for me. I don't really like meeting up with guys, but on the rare occasion when I did, I would want it to be sexual and I would make that clear from the outset when arranging a session. Some people have responded badly to that. I'm not sure why. I'm just stating my preference and intent beforehand so as to prevent any misunderstanding or inappropriate behaviour in person. One person in particular got very upset when I told them I didn't want to meet them if it wasn't going to be a sexual session. Blocked me and everything. Really not sure how I'm obliged to do something I don't want to do or why I should be made to feel like a predator for merely stating a preference.

totally get you ,I'm straight i love my fetish and experienced it when i can, i had a meet up to see if the fun could still be had with out it being more, we both admitted from the start what we want to do, although we enjoyed the time was pleasant with each other but i got the feeling they wanted more from it, so i backed of from doing anymore, I have found female wetlookers but they wouldn't meet up so i just go and enjoy myself now, with no worries as I've always done.

Rules with any meet is to set boundries and stick to them, even if they change during play.
Arrange to meet again with new rules. I've played with guys, kept it not intimate then left them alone to finish off.

Totally agree with you there and respect that. As a straight guy I love getting wet and messy with any gender provided the boundaries are set and respected

As a gay person, if you knowingly meetup with a straight guy I would agree to know the boundaries and know nothing will happen. You have to know that nothing you say/do as much as you want it they will not do it.
I think one important the other party needs to make sure if they set clear expectations. Don't throw around the maybes, etc. If your straight your straight, if your curious I'd say lean into the straight side, but don't make it sound like the opportunity might arise.
I honestly think WAM without sex is the most fun.

I think it's pretty obvious to discuss sex before meeting up. I always do. I find slop sessions very sexual, and a huge turn on. If a man is open to sex, that's a bonus. If he's not, I respect it.

Well, this is a great topic to dive deep into!

As others have said, the number one thing is setting boundaries. I think participants should always make it very clear from the beginning what their expectations, and limitations are. Some people can get caught up in the moment and mistakenly interpret the other persons behaviour as an invitation to take things to the next level, which can end up ruining the entire experience, and possibly cross a line that should never be crossed. Being as transparent and clear as possible from the beginning can help reduce the risk. Be that through chatting thoroughly before meeting, or meeting up in a non-wam setting first and getting to know each other.

Personally, WAM has always been a solo thing for me. I have never met up with anyone. I am a happily married, straight man, and I have no intention of being disloyal to my lovely wife. She knows about my wamming, but doesnt want to be a part of it. So, the idea of exploring some muddy estuary with a like-minded wammer does appeal to me, so long as when we start playing we keep to our boundries. For that reason, I would probably not want to meet up with someone who has sexual attractions to men, I would only be comfortable sharing this experience with other straight men, if anyone at all.

There are also other limits for me. I enjoy making slime and gunging myself, but that is a very sexual experience for me, and I wouldnt feel comfortable doing that with another person (other than if that person is my wife...if she ever changes her mind about WAM) as that would be a very intimate experience. I also prefer clothed wam, naked does nothing for me, its all about the feeling of the fabric against my skin as it get wet and slimy, so maybe talking about this kind of thing with like minded wammers could be something I would be in to, but actually doing it in the same place with another person, no I think I wouldnt be comfortable. Playing outside in the mud or in rivers, getting messy in nature though with another person, or people could be something I would enjoy.

An example experience I would feel ok with doing would be going to a quarry, or estuary with a fellow wammer, each of us wearing whatever we most like (be it the same clothing or not, doesnt matter) and then playing together, sliding down the river bank, or jumping into the mud, no imminent sexualness. Then if we decided we need some "private time" as we get close to the end of our play, then we give each other some space, before cleaning off and heading home. A meetup like this I could see myself doing

I'm not sure if this would be awkward, maybe it would, or maybe it wouldnt. I guess we dont know until we try!

I think this has affected me a bit. Though bi, I'm more into the WAM that getting more intimate - being curious more than anything. I've not wanted to disappoint, but I've got quite nervous about actually meeting up. SO, thanks guts for having this conversation.

Thanks to everyone who has replied. Its nice to see the general consensus being that you just lay out your boundaries first thing. I think its a good start as it it will always be quite tailored to those involved.

I think it would be a great experience if you find the right person/people with similar vibes. Still, i also feel it would be a nerve-wracking experience going into it for the first time.

I do take my hat off to and envy you guys who are comfortable having these meet ups. I bet its a complete blast, even more so for those that can have their fettish and sexual needs met by someone of the gender they are attracted to.

Maybe I'm missin' somethin' here, but don't you meet up with whoever you'd like to have some 'fun' with first ???
Coffee bar, club, whatever.... So you can figure these things out ahead of time..... And to make sure that you're 'compatible'......

Where to meet-up, how messy you want to get, what kinda' clean-up, etc., are all ???'s that you should figure out.......

Anyways, hope you can have some 'fun' !!!