So, I'm a gay male and it's hard to find people who share this particular fetish. Obviously people having the same fetish isn't a requirement for dating but it would make things so much easier,like knowing we both love WAM.

So how about a WAM dating site, there's fetish dating sites for bondage, tickling, why not WAM?

And if you were lucky enough to meet a partner who also shares the fetish,how did you meet?

There are a few out there but they are often just scammers with fake accounts trying to harvest information.

The reason there isn't one is probably because BDSM is very popular and mainstream and WAM isn't. It's just not worth the time and money setting one up, running and admin'ing it. Also the number of men to women ratio being massively skewed towards men, the grief women get on here would be just as bad there (unless you do the Bumble method). TBH, between here and fetlife, we cover most WAMers anyway.

But if you want to set one up then go for it!

Bumble is like Tinder, except you get a 99.9999% fail rate instead of 99.8%.

By bumble I meant that only the women can make the first message, reducing harassment.
The fact the fail rate went up speaks more about men on the internet than the site.

The personals sections right here on UMD is the closest there will ever be to wam dating site I think - the whole wam audience is right here. Anyone who ever searched or had an interest in wam and/or meeting others either to enjoy sessions or with a view to having a relationship where wam might feature regularly - will likely be aware of the umd

There is also a function I believe to see who is near or in your area

There used to be 'splosh dating' but it was one of those bait and switch sites - they advertised for all fetishes, and people who wear uniform, people looking for just sex, people looking for anything with some sort of title, and lumped them all onto the same site. So a splosher might end up talking to someone thinking 'well they signed up to splosh dating as well, yay!' but actually they joined from a different 'bait' like uniforms or even just regular ole run of the mill dating.

So yeah I think umd personals is anyones best bet tbh if you want be sure of an interest in wam before dating.

The personals forum here on UMD is the best place you're going to meet fellow wammers for dating. But I also highly recommend FetLife. It's the biggest hub for every single fetish, and it specifically is a place to find locals who are kinky and looking to hook up or seriously date. It does have a very large BDSM focus, but mainly it's where you can find someone into WAM, or at least someone who's very kinky and open to getting into new kinks.

I can confirm this!

Absolutely. To this I would add connecting with a local kink group or dungeon. Go to munches, meet people, have fun.

We have had VERY different experiences on FetLife

Mmm. Not saying this is the only other alternative, but recon is a gay male fetish dating site, and I understand that messy play is one of the many fetishes in which you can express an interest, so this may be relevant to you. Good luck!

She's a woman. Her experience is going to be vastly different.

LOL same... People gatekeeping saying WAM isn't a fetish...

LOL yeah. I don't find FetLife to be all that good after a while. Biggest issues are it seems that people are already paired up, and there's too much emphasis on BDSM (not my thing). Over 90% of the people I met in real life are BDSM fetishist and there's really no diversity IMO. I would be open to meeting other fetishist but they're representation is really tiny. For example, have yet to meet a furry, balloon person, etc.

I know of one person who I believe has successfully been able to negotiate at least one messy encounter through the site. I'd say "a friend of mine", but we all know what "asking for a friend" means.

Any play partners I've made over time were not into WAM specifically but were kinky and open-minded. I found that it's important not to focus on your own needs immediately and to be Good, Giving, and Game.

Agreed and same here. Most of my messy partners were through the very thriving local BDSM scene because they were open-minded and non-judgmental. Very much a case of "you scratch my back, I'll pie yours".

As much as I would love to have a partner into sploshing the likelihood is rare, which is a shame but part of life. I didn't ask for this kink and I can ignore it, Accepting a good non-messy relationship is still preferable than chasing the dream.

99% of me is "two very enthusiastic thumbs up, that sounds like a brilliant way to do things, I'm very glad you've found something that works for you and that is very probably one of the best approaches to take, in general, when it's available" and 1% of me is "a pie to the... back?"

Repeating others a little but sploshing is very niche, so where better to find a play partner than on here. You get your fair share of time wasters and fakers but no more than anywhere else.

I've actually had a lot of success on Fetlife, it helped me discover more about myself and explore my other kinks and fetishes.

Not only does it mean I have more things to enjoy with partners but we can share each other's interests. I've found plenty of play partners to experiment with many of whom now really enjoy sploshing.

My advice would be to explore and enjoy but take sensible precautions about meeting up or arranging a session. Due diligence before spending money on supplies or a hotel room.

Yeah, unfortunately it was more of the following in my experiences:
1. Cut me, make me bleed
2. Choke me until I'm unconscious
3. Beat me until I have physical bruises

Not judging if anyone is into that, but I don't want to possibly go to jail from a play session.
Sorry, prison is a hard limit for me.

Trust me, more that 1% of me didn't like crow-baring it into the accepted saying, but I had too for dramatic effect.

It's illegal in this country too, but I have choked (mildly), bruised (badly), restrained, whipped and electrocuted partners because they want me too. I would do other things if asked. As you said, no judgment because how could I, bearing in mind what I like!? I did find it kind of dull as I'm not a natural top...I find blindfolds are good for this so they can't see my expressions.

I do draw the line at blood play though, we all have our limits.

My biggest issue is everyone on FetLife is just into S&M stuff (the pain part), and that's a hard turn off for me.

I tried FetLife but gave up on it after a few months because at the time I joined the search mechanism totally sucked. I don't know if that is still the case because it has been several years since I removed my profile from there.

I've been on Recon for a long time. They added a gunge fetish a few years back. I've communicated with many mud and wam guys on there and have met up with several of them.

For me it's the usual problem that not many guys are into it around where I live so most of my connections in person have been out of town.

I still lament the loss of GearFetish. Lots of wammers on there. GearFetishX was supposed to be a replacement for it but I've never joined that site.

I am not saying to not have boundaries.

I know people that enjoy inflicting or receiving serious physical or psychological damage but it doesn't mean that you need to go along with it if you don't want to.

Same if they don't want to pie or gunge you. It's a negotiation process.

I met a great guy on Recon once upon a time... it's a mixed bag. Some looking for play, some looking to connect. I guess it's good form to just state what YOU are looking for in your profile.

but also... Recon can be a little intimidating...