I know this has been asked a bazillion times but lets say you have a friend or partner who is very open minded but has never heard of Sploshing/WAM. How do you introduce them to it?

How does your strategy change with someone who is more open-minded as opposed to the skeptics?

I was thinking about this earlier today.

One, this woman knows that I enjoy wamming (different from the girl/ex in my profile pics....surprise everyone) and agreed to do some body painting this weekend.

Two, I was wondering how to bring in other things to the situation (I.e. Shaving cream) seeming spontaneous but bringing 3+cans of shaving cream doesn't seem spontaneous at all.

I would say, let them know what you're into first, and what they're open to most likely won't be as much as you're into. For example, one girlfriend got angry when I used too much chocolate ("you won't be able to lick all that off!"....ummmmm yeah......no....?)

Sorry. Almost 1am here and I'm a bit buzzed. So with the ex in that last story, that was the sign that she wasn't really into it and I dropped it immediately. And for a while, I kept it to myself. And within the last few years I realized just tell them.

So I showed this girl my tumblr blog, she knows what I enjoy, I'll find out tomorrow what goes down. Doubt she'll be into photos, but if she is,I'll post them here (on my profile, not on this thread).

Aroma therapy cake! Have her sniff the cake, push face in said cake, done this a few times, funny as hell

Phil

I usually start with kidnapping.

"Hi, I'm into sploshing, if you're not sure what this is let me explain it and what parts of it I enjoy and why. Does it interest you?"

It really isn't that difficult.

I guess you could just ask, or say what you want and see what the response is. Though you might get the ick/gross knee-jerk response without them really thinking about it.

I usually opt for a more subtle approach... get in bed, grab some massage oil, start massaging your partner. Add a little more oil ...little more ...more still...and so on. If you empty the bottle, end up wrestling in the stuff and having great sex...they are probably into it and you can mention, "Next time maybe we can try pudding, cake batter (or what ever)" ...and explore further.

If they freak out after the first couple squirts of oil, its likely a lost cause ...might as well dump the bottle on them, have great sex, then mention, "Next time maybe we can try pudding, cake batter (or what ever)" ...If they want explore further, great - if not, at least you had great sex and oil wrestling.

Your question sounds hypothetical.

Do they need to know? Do you want them to know?

Friends/family? Maybe not.

Close friends? Probably.

Partner? Yes.

It's a pretty harmless interest all in all - unless your take on it is violent, unpleasantly twisted or illegal. You'll find most people are amused and relieved. Some will want to have a go.

The fear of telling is often that you see it as a game changer/deal breaker in relationships. In some ways you might want to hold onto a fantasy that your partner is a secret WAMmer - like you - and you don't want to find out they're not.

If you want to tell them - tell them. It's part of who you are.

The outcome may be not what you expect - it might be better.

Make it real. Don't live a secret life.

When I introduced my first g/f to WAM we were both at university... I had no idea what I was going to say until she admitted she'd been a "naughty girl" and needed to be punished... I then said in a jokey manner... "Hmm for that you should be stripped naked, tied to the bed and covered in nice cold custard and other slimy substances for me to lick off you..."
Rather than freaking out she replied "if that's what you feel is the appropriate punishment you'd better do it, sir..."
Problem sorted I then went on to planning the session... Whilst she never enjoyed WAM per say, she did it as I enjoyed it and because she enjoyed the sex afterwards!

NB This method probably only works if there's at least an element of Domination / submission in your relationship... it probably wouldn't work as well if you're both "equal".

Bullshit Simon. Haha! You're bringing in your other fetish!

Don't look at a woman as some adversary that needs to be stratigized against. If you need to think up a way to con someone into it you probably don't deserve the pleasure of getting to enjoy this with the person. Same goes for vanilla sex or anything else. Just be open, honest, confident, and have a sense of humor about it. It's like anything else, for MEN AND WOMEN, some people will think it sounds fun/ sexy and some people won't because they don't like the feeling of being messy. It doesn't mean something is wrong with you because you like the feel, and it doesn't mean something is wrong with them if they don't. Don't take your insecurities about your fetish and put them onto other people. The worst that can happen is she says "I don't think Id like that." Fair enough.

Maria, firstly that is really what happened! Secondly, I never said I wasn't... in fact my caveat at the end pretty much confirms that was why it worked...

Thirdly, I was only 18, and FAR more naive than I am now (I hesitate to use the term "innocent" as I don't think that would ever have applied to me... certainly not after watching my first episode of GYOB with a female gungee!)...

For clarification, that is not how I would go about things now... as for starters I understand concepts like S.S.C. & R.A.C.K. and I've gained more confidence in ability to talk about my fetishes and I now realise that there are a lot more kinky deviants out there... including those whose interests correspond with mine... (#UnicornsExist! )

Also with regards to the "planning" I talk about, I wasn't suggesting I was planning "against" this girl like she was an enemy... I was planning how the hell I was going to succeed in covering her in custard in my College (like a glorified Hall of Residence)... which was certainly an interesting logistical challenge

This is always such an interesting topic(to me)no matter how many times it gets posted.
I have brought this up with various women- if the woman cares for you, I'll bet she'll be willing to give it a go because it's something you like. If she agrees, and is tentative, go slow, don't cover her from head to toe with pies the first time. Work up to that.
Last summer I met a Brazilian woman while I was abroad. I told her about the pie in the face thing- she wanted to stop and get a pie to play with right then. It was a little late at night and no bakeries were open, so I had to get one the next day. She came to my hotel and we had a blast(absolutely true story)
So you never know.
I get the hesitancy- I am seeing a relatively new woman now, and I haven't broached the topic yet. I'm dropping little feelers to see how she feels about mess and such, and once I have a better idea about that, I'll go for it. For me, I'm in no hurry. But eventually, it's going to happen. And why not? She entrusted me with some serious personal fetish knowledge of hers, so I almost owe it to her to share mine.
Good luck, and don't overthink it.

I wrote a huge involved thing on this a few years back... really wish I had saved a copy.

YES, THIS!


DEFINITELY NOT THIS!! If Mr JnC had introduced me to WAM/splosh this way I wouldn't be here doing this now.

Honesty, openness and confidence is key. Don't pussy-foot around it. I knew absolutely nothing about splosh before I got together with Mr JnC, I hadn't heard of it/seen it/anything like that. If he had tentatively asked questions to find out how I feel about mess, or covered me in far more oil than I was expecting, then things wouldn't have worked out well. He would have derived that I'm quite a clean person, so probably not into mess, and I freak out when you get oil on my sheets or push boundaries I didn't even know I had!

Your girlfriend needs to know exactly what to expect, unless you have explicitly discussed having a 'mystery' experience (which could be fun too!). If you come across like it's something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about then you're only going to put her off ever trying it or expecting it to be fun. As CK said, just straight-out say "this is what I'm into, have a look these videos/sites/photos, I'd love it if you'd be up for trying something out with me". When she sees the fun, playful element and appreciates that it's not at all harmful or degrading (unless y'all want it to be, but that's a deeper conversation!) then I'm pretty sure most girls would be up for giving it a try.

If she thinks you're awesome and you enthuse about something you're into, telling her it's something you'd like to try out with her, why the hell wouldn't she be up for giving it a go?

Just have the conversation - in every relationship I've been in I've been interested in what the other person likes and directly asked about it, and offered up my own likes/fetishes etc

When me and henners got together we obviously already knew about each others wam thing but we talked about specifics and side kinks etc. There's even apps you can get where you both fill in what you like and it tells you if you have stuff that matches - could be a good conversation opener

Started a new relationship about 5 months ago, and eventually through conversation mess was introduced, fruit, cream and chocolate as part of sex play. Moved onto custard and still wearing lingerie, and its great, just be honest with a partner but don't tell others who are not part of your sex life..