I do t understand this or am I going crazy? Anyone else see that some of the good looking lady's are Bisexual. What are guys doing wrong? I'm not the greatest looking, hung sufficiently loveing carding guy. I am trying to date but keep getting Bi lady's. Pretty soon all the lady's are going to be this way. Im a 1 woman guy and don't want anyone else in a relationship, just like to focus my love, time and more. But it's getting harder and harder to date. I'm 57 and doing well for myself and would like to share life with someone. Yes I'm kinky as hell but I also have a house and business to take care of. Some of you younger men will have to date each other if it keeps going the way is seams. I don't understand and I don't want to piss anyone off . Help me out here. Is there any women for me???? Take care y'all . Jeff.

bi doesn't mean not monogamous, or incapable of monogamy

I suppose in a way what are you looking for? I could understand that it's hard in the market place for relationships but what are you boundaries and it seems location may play a part in your frustrations.

Wow. Lets clarify things...

1. Bisexuality is not linked to beauty standards.
2. Nobody can do anything wrong (or right) to change peoples sexuality.
3. You can date Bi women. A friend of mine is married to a bi woman (spoiler, she is still bi).
4. So what is everyone becomes bi? Sounds like a good thing to me.
5. Being a 1 woman guy is fine, being a many woman guy is fine. No specific way of dating/loving is better than another. This has zero correlation to sexuality.
6. Dating gets harder as we get older, something we all have to accept. I'm rich, good looking (according to my friends) and 45 but rarely date...c'est la vie.
7. Men won't date each other unless they are gay or bi. They won't do it just because they can't date women. That's not how sexuality works.
8. Are there any women out there for you? Yes, I can guarantee it...but probably a few less after they read your post.

I just don't get the problem here

To clarify and add to my previous message

I am bisexual - or actually what I've recently found out is pansexual, meaning capable of attraction to any and all gender identities

However, just over eight wonderful years ago I met the right person for me, who happens to be a man, and ever since then, I only have eyes for him

My sexuality doesn't affect any aspect of our relationship

I don't understand why you feel bisexual women are a problem in some way?

Maybe you're just meeting the wrong women who have other issues seperate from their sexuality, but you are blaming it on sexuality?

or are you just presuming they will want to date women at the same time as you? or are you homophobic in some way?

I'm bisexual and actually not good looking at all and monogamous so there's a new datapoint in your investigation.

At the risk of sounding offensive, I'm pretty sure it's the lack of empathy or understanding of sexuality that's leading to a more shallow dating pool. Having compassion for the sexuality of a partner and understanding that they have the capacity to go either way but chose you, goes a long way toward you being a good partner. I am traditionally a Honda rider, I chose to try out an Aprilia for my current bike. That did nothing to slow down my approval for Hondas, but I definitely have almost zero saddle time with the RC51 and am, as much as it pains me, considering selling it. I hope maybe my metaphor makes some sense. It is possible to have the capacity to love two things and chose only one of them.

He's right. Most women are bipedal.

And back in his day there were a whole lot of bisexual women but not being straight was incredibly taboo so they kept it hidden or didn't have the opportunity to explore and realize they were bisexual. So yeah, go back to the much more repressed society of just a few decades ago and you'll have more women identifying as straight.

Or, find someone who wants to date you for you and not just because they don't have the liberty of choosing someone who might be more compatible for themselves from a larger pool of people.

If it's any consolation, here's a few reasons why your concern is even more overblown than you would think:
Most bi women end up in straight relationships
most bi women mostly have sex with men.
Pretty much all the bi people I know joke about only have sex with men because it is so much easier to find a man who will like you.
And women searching for women on dating apps is almost impossible. The apps are full of couples looking for a third and women who want a little experiment.

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I'm sorry


Clearly

Probably not, TBD


That was always true. In fact, for ages, they've probably generally been viewed as the epitome of sexiness in the eyes of straight men due to fetitisation of lesbians and the potential for the mythical threesome


Literally everything
Like have you seen the news or been outside, ever?!


Matching with lots of bi women? Then congrats it seems you're doing fine job of fending off all that female competition on behalf of mankind I mean menkind.


It must be all that gay frog water.


You're just going to have to accept that you need to form a harem because clearly just too many bisexual women want you.







Don't worry, we do

I'm fucking dead omg this is great.

Serious answer: I think you're confusing bisexuality with wanting multiple partners, when in fact the two are unrelated.

Being Bi (or Pan) simply means "can be turned on by more than one gender". That doesn't mean "has to have multiple partners". A bi woman who's into WAM might only want one life partner, but still enjoy, and get turned on by, watching videos of men or women getting messy, or when she's pleasuring herself solo, fantasize about people of any gender. That doesn't mean she wants to have relationships with lots of people.

Multiple consensual partners is polyamory. Many poly people are bi/pan, but that doesn't mean every bi/pan person wants a group relationship. I know a few poly groups, successfully running a sexual relationship with four or five people involved over many years takes genius-level organisational skills.

And a side advantage, if you go out with a bi woman who likes the same kind of looks on women that you do, then you can both "enjoy the scenery" together, something Lady Jasmine and I enjoy, as she's Bi/Pan. Relationship-wise we only want each other, and that's based on a 15 year friendhship and perfect trust, but I'm free to watch all the WAM videos I want and she's also free to do her own thing sexually if she wants to, and we both enjoy looking at hot butch women in overalls.

"If you love somone, set them free."

All good answers. And before anyone gets offended, I did say I don't understand?? I guess I am undereducated on all this. I have taken it as Bi means the lady's like lady's and would prefer lady's over men. I haven't ever dated anyone that was bi. So all this was to help me understand a bit. I didn't think a lady that says she is bi would be intrested in me . I have learned a lot through this post. I'm a tad embarrassed at the same time. Thank you.

This is great that you came to these answers with an open mind and open heart and learned from them! And the only way to learn is to ask questions, so good job you for doing that too!

FWIW, I'm bi, and am in a healthy monogamous relationship with a man. The three people I dated before him were girls. "Bi" just means attracted to both sexes (men and women).

My BF is straight (he only likes women). I'm Bi (I like men and women). We both prefer monogamy, but have also both been in "open" relationships too. There's no rules, except for the ones we make for ourselves, so it's all about communication and making sure you and your partner are on the same page about what you want and what you need

Ok that makes sense - I wanted to understand too, exactly what your concern was about it all. Now I do

I honestly wouldn't worry - it can be a very nuanced thing but on the whole, a bisexual woman can be equally or more attracted to you/men in general, and monogamous, if that is what you both want.

And presuming your relationship is healthy, with communication, respect, affection etc there's absolutely no reason that should change.

The biggest thing I can suggest to help you was something that took me a long time to learn. Make sure you would date yourself. Look at your points of view, look at how you dress, look at how you carry yourself. Can you cook, do you keep a good house etc. How is your mental state? Are you happy with your life? Until you are in a good place and happy with your life, no one will date you that is not in a bad way themselves.

The second biggest thing I can suggest is to find a friend. Not just a social media friend, or a go out to drink, or chill with the guys friend. Find a friend of the sexual orientation you are trying to date. Then ask that friend to be brutally honest with you. Explain what your end goal is and let them tell you. Sure it is gonna sting and it might be hard to take, but take all the criticism and praise and go with it. Ask them for advise on what you could change or work on. Then do it. Do not try to make this friend a friend with benefits or a mate. Everyone needs a friend that they can get advice from and be real with.

I would never date me. Even I deserve someone better than that

Please choose any video from my store to have for free purely as a thank you for the gigglesnort i did at the gay frog water bit, this post made my day

This explains a lot about me too honestly.

There is an interesting question here though. In general male fetishists massively out number female fetishists and heterosexual cis folk massively out number LBGT folk. So it is interesting that such a high number of the female fetishised on this forum are bi. I wonder if bisexual women are more likely to form a fetish than straight women.

Are you asking me out?

Might be they are simply more open to fetishes and kinks

When I use the word fetishist I mean someone for whom the fetish is part of their sexuality it's no more a choice than being homo hetro or bi is. I realise that for some UMD members WAM is an interest, a kink or a business and if it were just those people who were more likely to be bi then I'd agree.
I can think of 4 other women I've met and discussed my fetish with who would define themselves as a fetishist in the same way I do. Only 1 of them is heterosexual the rest of us are bisexual. That's 80%! Admittedly 5 people is a tiny sample size but it's still statistically significant.

I'm bi (male) and happily into a long term relationship with a truly wonderful (hetro) lady. She shed some light on why some people (such as OP??) may feel ambivalent on dating a bi individual; namely a fear of adultery/cheating- since you know you'll never scratch all your partner's itches you may worry that they'll fine another elsewhere, particularly if you're looking to build a long term monogamous relationship. The (true!) stereotype of L/G/B etc individuals being more sexually promiscuous probably doesn't help either.

After I told her about being bi- she was deeply worried about me running off with another guy, and I reassured her that I'm truly only for her now.
I'm in my 30s- I've had plenty of opportunity to chase tail and ride the cock carousel if I so chose! (I didn't)
Time to settle down, I want to build a loving relationship with the one I truly care for.

The key (above all else) is fully open and honest communication between you and your partner.

Bi/Pan doesn't mean Polyamorous.

Also as a bi dude who's generally more into dudes, I can't really blame your theoretical bi women for being more into other women. Have you MET dudes? Holy shit we're a mess and not the fun kind.

Edited because the "does not equal" sign doesn't work here I guess

I used to think that one was true but as I get older I'm finding not so much. Most monogamous bi folk are invisible as people assume sexuality when they know the gender of your partner. So most bi folk aren't visible unless they are promiscuous. In reality I don't think we're any more promiscuous than any other sexuality. In general I've found people who identify as lesbians to be non promiscuous. I've met very few lesbians who socialise with promiscuous folk. I've never had a lesbian girl friend only other bisexuals as most lesbians were put off by the fact I'm bi. Understandable I guess pre-menopause as most want to breed.

Literally everything
Like have you seen the news or been outside, ever?!

LOL! Awesome! I knew I was bi long before I knew what bi was. I was kicked out of the first grade when I told my teacher I wanted to marry the girl on my right and the boy on my left. I do not remember the boy at all but girls' name was Pam and she had dark hair and dark eyes

I have always said that the most dangerous animal on the planet is the human male.

I have also said that men are only good for one thing. Two if they can fix cars.

When I was younger and craved excitement, I dated more men and even married one. As I got older, I craved intimacy and stability more and dated more women. I met my current wife 7 years ago and hope to die with her.

Live well my friends!

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