Has the subject of wam ever come up apropos of nothing on date, or is it something you steer the conversation towards? I seem to have a nasty habit of raising it after a few drinks (in recent years I've become a lot more open about talking about my fetishes... this can be both a good and bad thing).

Something rather unusual happened to me on a date on Saturday night. I'd been talking to someone via a dating app, then text - When we finally met up and had a few drinks our conversation got a bit sexy and we started to talk about things we liked. Before I even got onto the delicate subject of WAM, this girl started suggesting that she got turned on by getting messy. I went out and asked her if she has ever been gunged and she looked very excited and said "What like on Get Your Own Back? No but i'd fucking love to be!" - I nearly jumped through the ceiling. I decided to come clean about my other major fetish, the WAM stuff and she seemed in awe of my messy experiences. Its quite awkward though, talking about messy experiences, because most of mine have been shared with former girlfriends and obviously a lot of those times have been quite sexual. However, she seemed fine - perhaps she was imagining herself in those situations with me. Anyway, we've arranged a second date and this time its in my area. If that goes well, I have promised her a very messy induction into the world of gunge. I know from experience however that relationships based entirely on a fetish don't necessarily work, so i'm not sure whether this has any longevity, but we're both single and up for messy fun. It was so nice and unusual to meet someone with the same fetish (though she hadn't explored hers that much).

I would like to be a bit more self-guarded on dates in future and not reveal too much about my kinks because I know from past experience how they can be miss-interpreted (I previously wrote a post about my ex's feelings about my WAM fetish and you guys gave me the most amazing positive feedback on that - so thanks).

Would love to hear your experiences addressing the elephant sized gunge tank in the room...

My main problem has been being a producer. Girls seem to have a hard time accepting that I am involved in the adult industry and that they won't be the only girls I'll be seeing naked for the foreseeable future. Oh well. There will be plenty of dates in the future. For now I have art to make.

I haven't "dated" in thirteen years. That said, when my wife and I got together, we had been friends for a while before giving the romance a go. When the topic of sex was brought up, she reminded me that she was a virgin who had never even dated before me. I gently approached the topics of sex and wam simultaneously in an effort to ease her into them being both combined and exclusive of each other. That is to say that wam and sex *can* be combined, but can also be enjoyed by themselves. A few months into our relationship, she was quite eager to bring pies to bed for fun time.

Never had any strongly adverse reactions to the fetish, but sadly I'm a complete asshole and that's often a dealbreaker before we get to the wamming.

I once mentioned WAM while carbon dating.

Found a WAM carving in a cave.

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Best of luck with your second date.

I think it is right to mention your love of WAM with a new date, after all that is part of who you are..
Just think if you had NOT, you would not have the chance to explore this with your new girlfriend.

I am sure I speak for many on this site, when I say, keep us in touch with how it goes. We want to hear how messy you got her. and her reactions.

Are you proposing to ease her into this? Perhaps just a couple of pies to start, or are you going to totally cover her with mess on the first WAM date?

Huh. I never had that problem.

Could have been the age range of girls I was dating too. I don't like to make broad generalizations or generalizations about broads but in my personal experience most girls don't get over a lot of insecurities until they're older and most of the experiences I had was dating through my 20s and early 30s and I tend to date girls a bit younger than myself as I am a bearer of peter pan syndrome and seldom connect with people on my age level. I started in the adult industry when I was about to turn 19 so it's been something I've carried with me for nearly 50% of my life. Dating now is presenting a whole new set of challenges as not only am I involved in the adult industry, but I still insist on having a bright pink mohawk, I'm way into tattoos and other body modifications, and I got a vasectomy a few years ago as I want to keep my perfect record of a lifetime without kids or potential booboos. At this point it's getting REALLY hard to find partners who don't already have kids, or aren't in a hurry to settle down and make some.

Hope things go well on your second date and that she enjoys her introduction to getting messy.

Really not sure how I would go about bringing something like this up, but first I need to get back into the dating world.

Though a move to a bigger city is probably the first step.

Copying a post I made on another thread "I'm open. The thing is though I dread telling a woman (my foot fetish and how versatile it is) because it's such a massive crapshoot how she will react. Consider how kinky mine is, lately the reaction has been below neutral."

WAM and my fetish sync up well. I save talking about messy feet depending on the reaction of the not so dirty and messy part of my fetish.

I mean, I can only speak from the lesbian experience but mutual kink sharing hasn't been much of a problem, although I've only done it when they break that ice first. It's typically around the same time sex is brought up. A date brought up her vore fetish and I brought up my WAM one. She was super down for anything that didn't involve food (so slime, glue, glitter, shit it was hot - too bad we didn't work out for reasons completely outside of it).

I know, right? Women are supposed to only like assholes and yet somehow I have not been able to make it work for me. Maybe the problem is actually my micropenis?

You met a nice person. You like each other. You would like to gunge her. She would like you to gunge her... This sounds like a wonderful problem to have!

Like others have said, please just a good time getting to know each other, and try not to overthink it. Think about what you want to experience with her; neither of you will want to dwell on what you have already done with somebody else (and that is true of wam, sex, and just about anything else couples do together.)

Post divorce, I brought it up to three different women on the third date (or thereabouts.) All three times it went very well. Two got muddy with me and the third may have except the first woman and I ended up back together... Maybe I got lucky?
* I know I got lucky with the first woman... We're still together and crazy about each other.

I would say it's not a first-date subject, but if you get to three dates or whatever and really like each other, then by that time turn-ons and all that should already be coming up, at which point be honest. Not all-out honest, but "yeah, I got kinks." Probably avoid the word "fetish" unless she brings it up.

Thanks very much for sharing your feedback guys. Its' been a few weeks since i started this thread, so just to update you - we've spent a few nights together now and we're really into each other. We are both, it turns out, very sexual people and have a variety of kinks which we don't necessarily share, but they excite the other. We both seem to get a lot of enjoyment from giving the other pleasure and that's a really good sign for me.

The subject of wam has been discussed and she's genuinely excited to explore this with me, so i am now figuring out the best way to induct her. I think a few buckets of gunge (in racy colours) and a generous array of shaving cream pies should give her the messy experience she's been dreaming of.

Hopefully, this weekend x

Godspeed sir. Best advice I have is to kind of take it slow in pace and volume of mess for the first session. You can wait until session three to have an all out slime fiasco + pie fight + whatever else is in your head, haha.

Hi everyone! Wanted to update you all. As promised I gave my date the gunging of a life time and she immediately found the sensation of being slimy alluring. We messed around in the bath with me gunging her and then giving her a chance to gunge me - and she is a natural when it comes to pouring - gets the coverage perfect and really takes her time to cover someone in slime.

We've had messy fun two or three times now and im pleased to say we are now officially an item. We're so happy in every aspect of our relationship and having uncovered the wammer inside her and been able to throughly explore this with her has ben incredible for us both. She is always asking when we can do another session!

I can't believe this is such a contrast to the place I was in not that long ago. Thank you for all the well-wishes.

No, it's not a good keystone for a relationship, but if you have that in common its certainly not a BAD thing! Run with and see where it goes. Honesty tends to go pretty far. Ultimately, maybe it doesn't work out, but you both can have some good experiences! And in the end, isn't that what life is about, our experience? Based on your most recent post it's worked out for you pretty well!


RIGHT!!? Fuck the WAM fetish, finding a woman where I live that doesn't have kids, and/or doesn't want them is a fucking unicorn! I CAN'T have kids, and that's like a HUGE turnoff apparently. I guess if you can't get pregnant, it takes the thrill out of sex?


That's because you're not Chad Thundercock like Deen