A PERSONAL QUOTE: "When You Know Your Good At What You Do, When You Have The Passion For What You Do & No One Gives You Respect For It, Sometimes You Have To Demand It Out Of Them!"
HappyCamper said: What in the name of Ernest P. Worrell are you blathering about?
I don't think Ernest (God rest his soul) has anything to do with this. If you're asking based on the title, it come to a personal perspective. I generally respect people off the bat until they show me reason not to.
I think respect is a voluntary decision to validate people's self-image, not just emotional or instinctive mirroring.
So, e.g., I have more respect for people who know the difference between "your" and "you're". That's just a life choice I've made. I could choose to look the other way, but decided not to, because rules are rules.
Piemaster36. I can remember you making an almost identical post to this on here in about 2006. People were a lot less polite then, too. So I'm genuinely fascinated and intend in no way to be patronising or facetious.
There is clearly some way in which you communicate that conveys a somewhat negative impression to everyone else. For my own part, I do remember you way back being very cruel and scathing about one of your own models (Kylie Samone). Most won't remember this however so this is clearly presenting to others in some other way.
It's very frustrating for you but it is as much our own outlook, expectations and disposition as everyone else's that determines how others view and receive us. It's all very subtle and nuanced.
Some people naturally recognise and manipulate social signals with great ease whilst others find it more difficult. On top of a positive outlook, this leads in the former to what you might see as their 'unaccountable' success, whilst you are seemingly ignored and ostracised. Depending on one's own disposition and level of self regard this apparent communication failure can eventually engender behaviour that predetermines failure. The self fulfilling prophecy whereby you want to subconsciously prove yourself right.
Unfortunately, the only control over these outcomes we have available is by working on our own outlook, attitude and expectations. We may well not be at fault but becoming bitter about such failures is mainly corrosive to ourselves. As Nelson Mandela once said, bitterness is like 'drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies'.
I hope that makes sense. Lashing out will only make this worse and it's a vicious cycle.
piemaster36 said: A PERSONAL QUOTE: "When You Know Your Good At What You Do, When You Have The Passion For What You Do & No One Gives You Respect For It, Sometimes You Have To Demand It Out Of Them!"
That sounds like a variation of the old philosophy "when you own a Ferrari you don't need wing mirrors -- because what's behind you does not matter".
if you know you are good at what you do, gaining respect may not matter to you, because you just do what you wanna do and forge your own path in life. That seems to be the philosophy of many celebrities and artists today....e.g. the legendary philosopher Kanye West.
If your primary goal in life is to seek respect, then you never make your own decisions on what to do because you always look over your shoulder to check what your peers and followers would like and what the current trends are, then you organize a focus group meeting and do things based upon what the results of a a focus group meeting says is best for you to do. That is what most politicians do. True artists don't think or work this way -- they just pursue their own passion using their own skills and they do not care whether they get respect from their peers and fans or not.
It is relatively easy to get respect.....you just "pander" to the trends and become a "sheep" and just follow the politically correct mantra and do what everybody else wants you to do. If you want to be a trendsetter or pioneer then you have to act like a supermarket shopping cart and have your own mind on which way to go. Have confidence in your own abilities and do whatever you want to do, and don't look in the rear view mirror or hold focus group meetings to make decisions in life.
So no, you do not demand respect from others - you just do your thing and don't give a hoot whether people respect you or not. So long as you have the respect of your spouse or significant other then that is all that matters,
I've been here for 20 years & have done a modest, but reasonable amount of photo & video shoots. I've been constantly overshadowed by everyone not taking the time to see what I can bring to the table. I know I'm good there no question about that. Just remember that mighty can be dethroned sooner or later & that's all I'm going to say about it. Buying my stuff helps me to produce more shoots & actually find new models. Liking my work does nothing with the money to back it up. Simple concept, after 20 years you think that I would get more love for what I do. YES RESPECT IS EARNED!, But what good is it when you are dead & can't enjoy it while your alive.
The problem any producer has is that what we sell is not a "life essential". If you make bread, you can be reasonably sure the will always be a market for it, people need bread. No one ever died from a lack of wank fantasy material though. On top of which people's tastes are very specific. I'm pretty sure I've shot the finest scenes of girls in boilersuits getting messy that have ever been recorded. But I'm also aware that's a very niche taste even in WAM, so I don't expect to become rich from them. On the upside though, being a producer means I've got to shoot my own ultimate fantasies multiple times. How many guys get to do that for real? That's the true magic here.
piemaster36 said: I've been here for 20 years & have done a modest, but reasonable amount of photo & video shoots. I've been constantly overshadowed by everyone not taking the time to see what I can bring to the table. I know I'm good there no question about that. Just remember that mighty can be dethroned sooner or later & that's all I'm going to say about it. Buying my stuff helps me to produce more shoots & actually find new models. Liking my work does nothing with the money to back it up. Simple concept, after 20 years you think that I would get more love for what I do. YES RESPECT IS EARNED!, But what good is it when you are dead & can't enjoy it while your alive.
I probably shouldn't stick my nose in, here, and I'll probably regret it, but it won't be the first time. I know nothing about the quality of your work, or how it compares to other producers, but it sounds like you're saying that there is a grand conspiracy against you that is stopping people from buying your work. I find that really hard to believe. If people are not buying your videos, there is probably a reason. Rather than blaming others for somehow blocking your sales with a conspiracy of disrespect, it seems like you'd benefit more by figuring out what you can do to improve your sales. As a producer, I'm always looking for ways to build a loyal customer base. The full time producers often discount me because I'm not full time, but that's their prerogative; I just can't be bothered with that. I'm sorry if I just don't understand the problem, but your whining about respect and veiled threats are not helping.
DungeonMasterOne said: The problem any producer has is that what we sell is not a "life essential". No one ever died from a lack of wank fantasy material though.
I remember a post you wrote a few years back, and you basically ripped into people for not buying your material. That ain't gonna help ya. Its like going into Walmart, and the store manager getting pissed off at you for not buying something when he see's you leaving the store empty handed. Can you see where I'm going with this?! Some of this so called lack of respect you say you are experiencing may have been brought on a little by yourself. Just my $0.02.
I will make a comeback, everyone loves those. You never when that will happen but it will happen. For now everyone is missing out on some good stuff. #SexySlapstickVideos
piemaster36 said: I've been here for 20 years & have done a modest, but reasonable amount of photo & video shoots. I've been constantly overshadowed by everyone not taking the time to see what I can bring to the table. I know I'm good there no question about that. Just remember that mighty can be dethroned sooner or later & that's all I'm going to say about it. Buying my stuff helps me to produce more shoots & actually find new models. Liking my work does nothing with the money to back it up. Simple concept, after 20 years you think that I would get more love for what I do. YES RESPECT IS EARNED!, But what good is it when you are dead & can't enjoy it while your alive.
Get better at publicizing what you do. Get better at what you do. Repeat.
If you're not getting respect, best look for why rather than just assume you're entitled to it.