I've dipped in and out of the scene on here over the years - back again and looking to explore, make new friends and hopefully find a play partner - I'm in a loving relationship and not looking for another partner, but I'm not interested in a quick bang either - my idea scenario would be long term Fwb. I'd also love to get more involved with the community, attend a few events and hopefully make some friends along the way!
After 4 years my partner and I have realised our sex life is completely stagnant, and that's down to us both having kinks that the other can't get on board with (hers is Cnc in case you were curious, I'm too nice for that shit )
Part of the reason I'm here is simply to reconnect with the community. For a long time WAM felt like something I kept tucked away in the back of my mind, and one of the nicest things about finding spaces like this is realising you're not the only person wired this way. I've met some genuinely lovely people through the community over the years, and even when I'm mostly lurking, it's nice being around people who just get it.
That said, if I happen to find someone who shares my enthusiasm for messy adventures, I certainly wouldn't complain - I wouldn't say no to a gunge buddy!
I can't pinpoint a specific event that started my kink, but like many of us on here I suspect it came from early exposure to gunge fuelled 90s TV and then grew as I matured sexually.
It's almost entirely sensory-driven for me, and very much about immersion. I'm into thick, heavy gunge, chocolate and sweet substances, and outdoor mud (smooth quarry mud in summer is a personal favourite). I don't really connect with savoury food play, and I tend to prefer things at the messier of the spectrum -- being properly covered!
There's something I really love about the moment it tips over into complete coverage -- that point where there's no coming back, and no "clean version" of the interaction anymore. For me this is usually the point at which the head/hair gets messy - It shifts everything into presence, humour, and shared vulnerability. For me, that's the core of it, not just the mess itself, but what it does to the dynamic between two people when you're both fully in it.
I'm also open to light sub/dom energy where it naturally appears, but I don't come at this with rigid roles. I'm more interested in the flow between people -- the trust, the reactions, the sense of letting go together, and the slightly chaotic humour that comes with it. Ultimately I'd just be happy making out together in a gunge tank (bucket list right there!)
Outside of that space, I'm pretty grounded. Marine engineering is my day-to-day, with a background in marketing and cooking before that. I like building things, fixing things, and understanding how systems work. Music-wise I'm heavily into drum & bass (especially neurofunk), metalcore and basically anything else from Blink182 to Beethoven. I enjoy the odd festival in Summer and generally love life - an eternal optimist!
I'm happiest in repeat connections where there's comfort and familiarity over time rather than one-off encounters. Something relaxed, mutually understood, and built on good communication and genuine chemistry.
Obviously it would be amazing to meet someone on here who is up for sharing messy adventures - outside of that I don't have a type per se, I know it's a cliche but if you have an attractive personality then the chances are I'll be attracted.
After 4 years my partner and I have realised our sex life is completely stagnant, and that's down to us both having kinks that the other can't get on board with (hers is Cnc in case you were curious, I'm too nice for that shit )
Part of the reason I'm here is simply to reconnect with the community. For a long time WAM felt like something I kept tucked away in the back of my mind, and one of the nicest things about finding spaces like this is realising you're not the only person wired this way. I've met some genuinely lovely people through the community over the years, and even when I'm mostly lurking, it's nice being around people who just get it.
That said, if I happen to find someone who shares my enthusiasm for messy adventures, I certainly wouldn't complain - I wouldn't say no to a gunge buddy!
I can't pinpoint a specific event that started my kink, but like many of us on here I suspect it came from early exposure to gunge fuelled 90s TV and then grew as I matured sexually.
It's almost entirely sensory-driven for me, and very much about immersion. I'm into thick, heavy gunge, chocolate and sweet substances, and outdoor mud (smooth quarry mud in summer is a personal favourite). I don't really connect with savoury food play, and I tend to prefer things at the messier of the spectrum -- being properly covered!
There's something I really love about the moment it tips over into complete coverage -- that point where there's no coming back, and no "clean version" of the interaction anymore. For me this is usually the point at which the head/hair gets messy - It shifts everything into presence, humour, and shared vulnerability. For me, that's the core of it, not just the mess itself, but what it does to the dynamic between two people when you're both fully in it.
I'm also open to light sub/dom energy where it naturally appears, but I don't come at this with rigid roles. I'm more interested in the flow between people -- the trust, the reactions, the sense of letting go together, and the slightly chaotic humour that comes with it. Ultimately I'd just be happy making out together in a gunge tank (bucket list right there!)
Outside of that space, I'm pretty grounded. Marine engineering is my day-to-day, with a background in marketing and cooking before that. I like building things, fixing things, and understanding how systems work. Music-wise I'm heavily into drum & bass (especially neurofunk), metalcore and basically anything else from Blink182 to Beethoven. I enjoy the odd festival in Summer and generally love life - an eternal optimist!
I'm happiest in repeat connections where there's comfort and familiarity over time rather than one-off encounters. Something relaxed, mutually understood, and built on good communication and genuine chemistry.
Obviously it would be amazing to meet someone on here who is up for sharing messy adventures - outside of that I don't have a type per se, I know it's a cliche but if you have an attractive personality then the chances are I'll be attracted.