Hi

I'm really sorry that I have not been very active on UMD for a while that I wanted to apologise especially to Messmaster because I haven't been an active moderator.

Probably the worst thing in my life, If there could ever be a worst thing because people who know me know I have been through unthinkable things.
In March. I lost my Mum suddenly which has been a major shock but also because I have my Stepdad who is 82 and 4 hour drive away .

I really want to remain an active part of UMD because its where I can be me but its been hard. It makes you tale stock especially since at 47 I have never been to a funeral let alone arranged one and it being mums.

I really hope to get my mojo back again and make some more mess if people want to see a 47 yo Cinq getting messy still ?

***massive hug***

Really sorry to hear this, and as someone who lost his mum back in 2005, empathy with what you've been through. It was seventeen years ago and I still miss her.

And you've absolutely nothing to feel sorry about re site activity or moderation, you don't owe anyone anything and the whole point of there being a team of us is there's always someone else to pick things up as and when needed.

As to getting messy and sharing or selling stuff, as long as you're happy doing it, carry right on. But at the same time don't feel you have to on anyone else's behalf. Your life, your image, entirely your choice, always.

***more hugs***

Self care is more essential than umd

Keep your head up and focus on your well being

Your missed but you matter more to yourself than umd

Sending a virtual enveloped hug

Take care of yourself.

I love seeing you around here because you look so happy in your content, but I would only want you to make it if it helps you! Do what you need right now in order to heal.

We understand Cinq! I lost my mother 19 years ago this coming September but what's really hard is that this coming Memorial Day is the 19th year since the car wreck that would eventually be the beginning of the end of her life. Not to go into more details but I know it's hard because I was living in Florida at the time and she was in North Carolina and I was 6 hours away from her.

My deepest condolences to you! You come back when you're ready and we certainly understand!

Sending positive thoughts your way. Losing someone is never easy. And the last few years have derailed many best intentions and life plans.
Know you're loved by the weirdos here at UMD and whenever you choose to drop by, you'll always find support and encouragement.

We all love you.

I know whatn sudden loss is like. I still miss my kid brother.

No need to apologise. You are a real splosher and we'll always be pleased to see you here. Take your time and enjoy getting wammed when the mojo returns

I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Of course she is more important than UMD.

I dropped some loves on your pics to help you get through.

Nessie

Oh my god, I just saw this. You don't need to apologize to anyone. If it's the same way with work (which it should be, family first), you really don't need to worry about here. I'm so sorry for your loss friend.

And if that wasn't enough, doing all the estate planning and final arrangements make it even harder.

All my best,
Potato

Look after yourself Lisa.
Many of us here on UMD wish you well and look forward to seeing a 47 year old who enjoys mess.

You are an inspiration to so many of us.

It will take time to get over.
I look forward to seeing more of you when you can get active here again.

How very sad, sorry to hear this.
Take care.

Take the time for grief. To grief is a healthy response.

Life comes first always before the internet, having lost my Mum, 25 years ago to a sudden death and my Dad due to dementia almost 3 years ago. It takes time to adjust to being yourself again and that is the best advice I can give. You will know when it is time to get messy again. You have to live your life too. You will alwayas have your memories and thoughts and things will hit you when you least expect, a silly thing will trigger an emotion.

Everyone grieves in their own way, there is no handbook or right or wrong way.

As for UMD and modding MM, knows we do it when we can. Sorry for your loss

Just to lighten the mood love to see you covered in shaving foam and nothing wrong with an older slplosher

B x

Lisa, we all love you.

You are all so lovely and it's why I can never leave my family. This is most definitely where I belong.

Update on my mojo....I took the decision to come off the HRT because maybe my mum is influencing things just now. She got hormonal breast cancer and I have read some articles that it's beginning to be more common. On a good note in three weeks since I have been off it I have felt so much better. I finished mums memory bear on my embroidery machine for my step dad. Need to make some naughty embroidered shirts for me !

Our garden has had a makeover and the hot tub is in and has been amazing. Things are starting to get better after such a dark time.

I sorted out the spare room and found lots of wam substances and so many outfits to wear.

Thank you for all your kind words it really means alot
Lisa (Cinq)

Lisa, you have wonderful friends.

And the next time you doubt yourself, Rich is a wonderful guy and he married you!

Wow what can I say that has not already been said
Everyone on here loves you and there is no doubt we would all love to see you messy again however you have to go with your feelings and emotions you have been through a lot but in time I'm sure you will bounce back enjoy the hot tub they are great one of my best purchases and enjoy time spent in it

I just wanted to send some love as well, really love your content but please never feel any pressure to keep posting, look after yourselves always