How much is too much? How often do you think about getting messy? For the producers and people that post pics and vid's, I know it's a business, but for the rest of you, is it an obsession or just a fetish? I mean I watch vids every other day, and think about it, but don't do it as much as I'd like, would love to know what others think

What is this "too much" you speak of?

I can say to much is losing track of other components of my life

But water and mud has always really healed me in dark times of my life.
It's the other substances that can get intense as far as time and attention and details

Actually reminds me I'm thinking of crafting wam music videos as an experiment

Too much, like how often do you think about your fetish, how often do you do it? How much would you if you could?

I think I understand what you're asking. The trouble is that this is a niche fetish.

I think it's completely acceptable to have a thought about this fetish a few times per day. Like when I'm out and about on my travels and I happen across beautiful people, there are times I think "oh, he'd look great getting a pie in the face" or "oh, that hairstyle is too good to not have it ruined by slime". Sometimes the other fetishes I have get to join in, too, like "oh, yeah, he'd look good barefoot" or "how do I convince him to get in a Speedo?" are all thoughts that usually happen for me.

Personally, I take a backseat to the activities portion these days. I still enjoy watching people get messed up, but the thought of doing it tires my brain. Don't feel bad if you feel this exhaustion. I'm certain many members here have had bouts of not wanting to deal with clean up or maybe it's happening too often that bills are forgotten - which happened several times in college for me - and suddenly you realize this has become an addiction.

Finding the balance here is always tricky (maybe sticky), but that's the point.

Hopefully some additional insight has helped, but this is just what this old guy thinks. But what do I know?

Subjective really.

Too much would only be bad if it affected your life in a negative way. I work with sexual compulsion clients and the 'amount' of porn use/sex/escorts and the scale of negative effects, varies between each of them. E.g. someone earning 5K a month and spending 1K on sex might not worry, while someone earning 2K and spending 1K might.

If you are worried you are fixating on aspects too much and you are losing yourself/time/money/focus then talk to a therapist, though ironically the term "Pie of life" might be used.

As for how much I do this; I am on here daily for less than an hour. I think about it while on here and maybe a few times a day unless something triggers it. How much would I like to do? If I could and had a willing partner...every day, and I have effectively zero libido!

Too much would be if there was a need or drive for me to look at porn, potentially a FOMO effect? If I spent more money than I was comfortable with on porn or sessions then it would be a problem. If I was thinking about it to the point it was distracting me a large percentage of my day, that would be too much.

The amount of time I spend thinking about it is correlated with how clean my bathroom is. For example right now I think about it every time I walk in there because I still haven't scrubbed the outside of the shower glass yet.

Actual answer, ordinarily let's say if anything at all related to this counts maybe once/day? I'm including things like passing by a 50lb bag of cake flour and thinking 'I need to weigh out and store this stuff already...' as well as 'she was extra hot during that last scene and maybe I want to watch the end of it again for... reasons.' Obviously I'll think about it more often if I'm planning something in the near future but that goes for any other aspect of my life as well.

I don't count checking on this site because the majority of the time it's for social reasons. I write people who I either like or find interesting a lot.

I would say at least twice an hour.

I think as long as it's not interfering with your personal relationships or work, you're good. Most people think about sex every day, so it's normal for people with wam fetish to think about wam every day. Everyone is different though, so if you feel like you need to dial things back for your own mental health, then maybe dial things back a bit

I think about it a lot when I'm not really going anything. But it doesn't bother me. It's something I like. I think about anime and fashion a lot as well. I don't see any difference between thinking about non fetish interests and fetish interests.

I'd say too much is when it negatively impacts your life. I've never really been there. I do consider it. In all honesty when I look for places to live I think about where the closest mud is. Ha!