Hey folks,

Just a lurker for the most part these days, but after reading a bunch of threads recently, I feel like these two features could be really useful for the UMD community if they were possible to implement:

1. Some kind of review system for meetups, so you can leave a positive or negative review about someone based on your experiences in the personals forum (or wherever). Hopefully it would reduce timewasters, and make people feel safer when choosing who to meet up with.

2. A wishlist feature for the Downloads section where you can mark certain videos that maybe you can't afford right now, but you'd like to come back to in the future.

Just my two cents!

#2 already exists, albeit with some limitations - you can put the videos in your cart, and then when you are looking at your cart, just click "save for later" and the videos will be stored beneath your cart and you can add them back at any time. The limitation is that this functionality appears to be browser-based, so if you log onto UMD from a different computer than what you saved them from, you won't be able to see what you've saved. I do wish it was maybe a little bit more intuitive of a system, and also not limited by browser, but you can do it as it stands now.

Problem is it is subjective on the reviewer's part. Just because someone wasn't another's type doesn't mean they should get a 'bad review'. And that's assuming the reviews are honest in the first place (look at Amazon). All of a sudden ten new 5* ratings, all created from new accounts, or just used to slate people you don't like. There can't be any moderation unless a mod was at the meeting (and that's not my kink).

I 'hope' that folks talk on here, messaging locals to see if a person they are meeting has met others, any warning flags etc, but it's a risk like meeting someone off a dating site so best to do the old "message, online, then meet in public before anything private".

I can see where a negative rating system feels unfair, I don't agree with it. I don't think people will be that rude about it, it seems cynical to assume that people will be dishonest and abuse the system. But I think if we do hold people to standards, then it can help deter more predators looking for vulnerable people.

I personally don't like the thought of a negative rating system. It seems like it can be easy to discriminate against people unfairly. Maybe it doesn't have to be a rating system, but a referral system of how much someone recommends meeting up with a person, so there's no negative rating, just likes on a person for how much they're recommended.

HA, sorry but this is the internet and when there are arguments there will be those that do EXACTLY this to get their own back.

Also, if you give all the folks in your area negative ratings and yours positive then you are more likely to get meet ups. This is the classic PUA 'Game' negging routine.

Men, niche kink, fewer women and additional fear of the 'internet meet-ups'. Of course it would happen. Sounds cynical but...yeah.

Personally I would like a women's only forum (those that have proved who they are with photo and pics etc, yes some will get through, nothings perfect...) where individuals can be discussed in the open, but away from the male gaze.
Or just a way of blocking the individual in the discussion; so X saw silver sea, everyone can see the discussion except me?

Referrals sound like a great idea. The provider could ask the customer if they would like to leave a referral. If they do one, they have the option to use it or not, and could pin it on their profile, so other people will see it and think: "yes, OK, there's a lot of people who have had positive experiences, so I'll make a booking"

Fetlife has imposed a verification system involving you using your webcam to take a few pics of yourself along with a verification code to make sure you're human. And yes I've done this because you know, I'm a good boy

There was 0 accountability on fetlife hence why they HAD do go hard core on there verification, the amount of spam and bot accounts on there was easily in the tens of thousands, and the verification is easily side stepped. The amount of gate keepers , kink shamers and consent violators on there is staggering because the site does nothing to punish known offenders. I have seen it first hand in my local community back in Michigan. Plus fetlife is a different type of site. It is not really comparable to here. Different governing rules from different bodies.

That's actually a really good ideal