Hi folks,

Historically I've seen a couple of posts like this before, but I wanted to study a little further into this topic.

When I first discovered UMD two decades ago, I used to see virtually any picture or video of a girl getting messy, and get so excited both visually emotionally and sexually that it would pretty much not matter who was posting the content or what it was.

Since then my tastes have become extremely focused, and now to get that same rush I find it has to be exactly the right kind of model doing exactly the right kind of mess. Yes there are exceptions, and I still enjoy seeing general mess even if it doesn't stir me up sexually, but mainly to be of real appeal it needs to involve a shortlist of certain substances and or certain models/producers.

This need for exacting criteria is extending into my personal WAM sessions too, with each realisation of a messy fantasy giving way to another that is even bigger and messier.

It's like a drug where the next fix has to be bigger or more pure than the last.

Is this a common experience amongst long time members of the UMD!?

Same with me, 20 years ago when I found it most messed turned me on. But there is the idea of to much of a good thing. And yes now I need to see super destroyed pics or videos of woman and the dirtier and more intense situations the better. 20 years ago it turned me off to see them that messy or on a kinda of wam snm or super super trashed look.
It would be easy to same this access over time would create more of a want for more for people with addictive personalities. Not to judge you or anyone else here of course cause I easily fall into some type of over looking and wanting to see more category. Just speculation but I can't help but to wonder as we have a very nich fetish if we are more at risk for needing more since it's so specific and with all fetish's isn't something we vocalize often. I assume more we repress the more something will manifest and it's easy enough to get our fix here and then just want more and more

Similar to me, I think over-exposure has lessened the early thrill but it is also mood related for me. I have next to no libido anyway but WAM slowly builds it up if I am in a good mood. Any stress in life and it has no affect on me.

I did take a break from WAM, I actually thought I had stopped enjoying it altogether. I think I stayed off for 2-3 years then I reactivated my account for "Interest" and realised I still enjoyed it.

I don't think wavering amounts is a bad thing, nor is a more focussed approach, 99% of the pictures on here hold no interest for me, and that's ok. About a year ago I saw a picture that was different to what I normally liked which had a massive effect and I've started looking for those. Tastes change.

Recognising when it becomes problematic is the trick, how far is too far? Is it it frustrating that there is nothing you like anymore? etc. Then it's time to re-evaluate, self-reflect or potentially seek help.

Probably not uncommon, especially if you're going through a binge, and not just with WAM either. In fact it can translate to food, drugs, or any other thing you can be addicted to.

Lately seeing a beautiful woman take a sizable load up her snatch has been setting me off far more than usual. While it's something I always enjoy, seeing it lately seems to have increased potency in my mind and on my libido. Probably just because I miss sex. I know that eventually I'll work it out until it either subsides or I rub my dick raw.

But there is truth in the old proverb "absence makes the heart grow fonder", and I bet if you took a break you would probably see positive changes.

Some videos set me off more than others, once I buy a clip I'm kinda done with it so to say but I still watch them. I'm always trying to find that perfect video but once I watch that "perfect video" my mind/ subconscious/ head resets and says NO... you can find better.

Love hate relationship lol
But when that happens you usually just have to simply take a break and hard reset yourself.

Maybe an analogy to a food buffet can be made. To the starving man who is surprised by an opportunity to visit a buffet, he is excited to see all that food and on his first trips to the buffet, he tries lots of different things. But if he is afforded the chance to go every day/week, he will inevitably zero in his favorites every time and pretty much ignore everything else.

I'm sorry if I'm not very helpful or if I'm telling you the obvious but acquiring other fetishes loosely related to WaM e.g. feet/legs, pathyhose, lingerie etc. will certainly help you to maintain your balance between things. If someone's only fetish is WaM than it will probably always easily escalate.

My wam desires haven't really escalated as much as they have become very specific. I too would get excited by almost anything wam-related, but now it needs to be certain scenarios, a certain 'look' of model, etc. etc.

Every so often for the last year or two, I've been thinking "Thank you Internet, because I can be picky and choosy." I no longer save every photo of a wet babe, whether I think she's pretty and it's a good photo or the clothing is appealing or... or... or... I used to grab them all because that might be all I'd get for 3 more months.

I always had specific preferences and likes. Now I can indulge them. I don't have to settle for "almost".

I don't think that's immunity. I think of it as freedom.

This is something I can definitely relate to. The first WAM scene that really hooked me, my sentimental favourite, was the Jamie self wamming with custard and yogurt in a bikini. That video must be 15-20 years old. I'd never seen anyone willingly destroy themselves with foodstuffs like that before, it was incredible.

But, truth be told, if that video came out now, I probably wouldn't buy it. In fact, I'd probably find myself getting irritated that such a great looking scene had been spoilt by the fact she hadn't been nude throughout.

Now, I only buy nude, total coverage, non-XXX films. But, worse than that, I find that anything I do buy doesn't work continually. Once I've watched it a couple of times, it doesn't float my boat any more. Even a perfect custom (which Jayce provides so admirably) has to be refreshed every few months and, whilst there's about a dozen scenes I rarely get tired of, 98% of the stuff I've bought will never get watched again.

I know what you mean. I think my thing that helps me as that I've built up quite the collection over the years so I tend to have something for every mood. There's also stuff on my hard drive which I haven't watched it a while so I can go back and have a watch of that and it feels new.

No idea if it is good or bad but... there is definitely more complexity to a cute girl, dolled in make up, dressed in elaborate, sexxy or fancy clothing, with her hair beautifully coifed, embarassed and unwanting of the humiliation and grossness of being covered in disgusting or just sloppy substances sometimes involving another person punishing or audience reacting... so many layers of taboo, opposites, societal and interpersonal aspects all interelating to create a fetishization of multiple properties, visually, aesthetically, physically and emotionally....... as opposed to just" bam, bam, bam" slamming like an animal seen in more " normal" pornography... right?

Maybe the more appropriate word for our latter day situation is that we're 'desensitised' rather than 'immune'?

I can relate to a great many of these anecdotes and definitely recognise that I'm far more particular now than 25 years ago - or even 10 years ago as in the last decade my experience of it has been revolutionised by having WAM partners and being involved in producing scenes. It's changed greatly what I'm interested in seeing or taking part in.

Nostalgia plays a part and I actually find some vintage WAM still hit the spot. But overall I'm very particular and tend to revolve around a small collection of scenes that become my favourites. In the last few years these have mainly been ones I've produced myself. Not through conceit but simply because I guess I made them the way I wanted to see them.

Interesting point. I think that while I agree with most on this thread that it's nice to discover your niche and have the freedom to be choosy and desensitized to everything else, the frustration comes when producers do not produce enough content in your particular niche. Thus one turns to the self made videos that remind you of the best sessions you had.