I am nervous and encounter difficulties on how to invite my gf into messy world.

I love messy play alot, I get into messy world almost 12 years.
Paint, mud, honey, grease, pie, peanut butter, chocolate, nutella, etc.

My gf doesn't know my messy play hobbies, but I really want to try out different kind of messy substances with her.

Is there any suggestions which can invite her try to get into the messy world without scare away from me?

Thank you

Its a hard one to bring up to your girlfriend that you like to wam.I think being creative is the first step.find out what was her favourite T V children shows she liked,then you could say my favourite childrens programme was tiswas or get you own back.Then you could say i would loved to be gunged, and see what reaction you get.She might say something or not..Or here is a good one is to have a cake ready put lots of cream on it and say i dare you to put this in my face.Then hopefully that could turn into a messy fight. Its small things to see if she would go further.You never know.Step by Step. Good luck.

Go easy at first and 'accidentally' spill a little water on her and see how she reacts. Then talk about it. Do not under any circumstances tip a can of beans over her head as a first move.

If you're lucky, at some point she might ask you what you're into. Then bring it up... You might suggest that she would look good in cream, for example.

I have to say it worked for me, but my then-gf was quite open-minded.

I actually thought you wanted to introduce her to 'MessyWorld...'The website lol. I thought 'well that will be a good start, turning up to the studio and announcing you like gunge just as shes thrown into the Plunga!!!

Not messy world website
I want to intro her into wam and messy play
I think that is very complicated on how to bring her to there

Just be open, upfront, and honest with her. Tell her this is one of your sexual kink. If she's totally repulsed by the idea then you can make a decision as to whether you can do without her ever indulging you in messy play or not. Most likely--if you've been seeing each other for more than a couple months--she's going to be somewhat receptive to the idea; you can start with a small mess and build up from there. I wouldn't try to trick her into getting messy or getting you messy--it would be deceptive to do so. I've told four girlfriends about my kink. 3/4 found it fun as fuck and wanted to do it more and more. The other one, well she had issues beyond just not wanting to get messy . 75% success rate is pretty decent, and just remember that our link is very very mild. You're not asking to take a dump on her chest or anything like that, lolz. Imagine how hard it'd be for someone with a more outrageous kink/fetish to deal with the relationship hurdle. Let us know how it goes.

You may want to start her off with an oil massage.
Use too much and show her how it turns you on to play with too much oil. She'll let you know if it turns her on too.
No matter what the outcome, when you talk about it later, you can intimate how much Wam fun turns you on.
I took a flyer with my girl. I knew she liked chocolate, and offered her an experience in chocolate like she'd never had. Intrigued, she agreed. By the time we finished, we were both covered head to toe in chocolate, and she was so blown away that although we didn't, she thought we had sex. It was that intense.
Since then, she's been a great play partner in pies, pudding, and gunge of all varieties.
Good luck.

Go here, read. There are many, many threads about things like this.

https://umd.net/groups/group/messy-minds

Basically, if you're fucking; you should probably talk about the things you like and dislike. From there the conversation can go into kinks. Oh yeah, reminder: Remember to ask her the things she likes too.

We have being as couple almost 2 years, and she doesn't know my wam interest at all. I really want to try out wam play with her especially metallic paint and mud which are my favourite wam substances

First, I would suggest buying my book.

Second, if you're going to have a serious discussion about kinks, it can't be a one way street. Ask about her kinks? Is there something she'd like to try? Is your relationship otherwise vanilla? Maybe she's holding back and not telling you what she wants out of fear of judgment and rejection. Maybe a mutual quiz like mojoupgrade could help break the kink ice and lower everyone's guard. Look, she's your girlfriend of a couple of years. She loves you and cares about you. Start knowing that and you'll be fine.

Edit: I'd also add, if she gives it a try, let it be about her. Consider her experience, because you want it to be positive for her.

Not at all, thank you!

Roses are red
Violets are blue.
Let's go get pie
To eat and wear, too.

Start off slowly.

I has a GF who loved having her nipples licked.

So I suggested i would do so, if i smeared them with strawberry Jam. She enjoyed that.
So then i said i'd love to pour some custard over you (in the shower).
Then I moved on to pouring a tin of treacle over her.(again in my bathroom to make it easy to clean up.)

When I asked what she thought, she said OK if she could suck me off afterwards.

WHAT A HEAVENLY GIRL.

take it slowly, you can start with simple but romantic things, as example you can jump with her into a pool fully clothed, kiss her and play togheter telling her how beautiful she looks wet, or yu can take her to play in rain, get muddy or wet together in a romantic way, take slow and calmly, don't rush and don't get realy sexual on the firsts messy times, one day you tell her what is mess and why you like it so much, be easy and don't rush things

Any women care to answer here ?

Well... there isnt an easy way to do it. However, it is important you figure it out. You dont want to get into a relationship where your suppressing your sexually.

Telling her that you like "naked pie fights" brings a sense of safe humor. Kills anxiety, it's light hearted and gets the conversation started.

I can tell you from my personal experience: I ask what they are into, typically after a steamy bed wrestle championship. But I Flat...out...ask.. what THEY are into. If she struggles to answer I would ask with a fun/funny/joking delivery "ohhh your one of those that like to tie people up naked and go about your buisness until your ready. Huh.." or "you're not one of those psychos that like to feed people strawberries right? I have an allergy, so we can only probably do that once"

Once shes relaxed tell it to her in a joking but someone serious tone... "i like naked pie fights" the confidence and light mood helps. And you are going to get one of three answers in the long run... a solid yes, a solid no, or a let's try it.

If it's a solid no, dont get mad, dont plead, it's time to drop it....make a joke "pshhhhh, then dont try and feed me strawberries then pervy (smile)" and you fucking drop it... make your decision weather or not to remove yourself from a relationship where you cant get that sexual itch scratched or decide that WAM isnt as important as you thought.

Thanks alot for all of the suggestions given to me
I am thinking of a breakthrough point on discussion of my wam interest to my gf

Not so fast...

Every discussion here is very one sided... how you introduce your fetish to her... but there are two people involved here. Only one person above asked about a woman's perspective.

As a serious fetishist who has explored everything from group sex and swinging to WAM and BDSM, the only way to start is to find out what her kinks are, spend a lot of time, a year or two may be required, exploring hers until it is a normal way of life for you both. THEN tell her about yours. Tit for tat, or "do me first" rarely works and has a low chance of success. But if you immerse yourself in her kink until it is a way of life, then yours follows smoothly with zero problems. It takes a lot of patience and requires your full commitment to hers before you can even bring up yours. If you bring yours up too soon, she will feel pressured and obligated. If you wait until it's a way of life, she won't even hesitate. It will be normal.

That is my lifelong experience. Never had a runner lol!

Madeline

While you have a valid point... it doenst make the other comments invalid. Ive never had a runner either, but I know when any of my partners were uneasy and had a plan on how to handle it. He asked for suggestions. We gave what has worked for us.

What ever gets civic2000 through the mental block of not speaking to his girlfriend about his fetish or kink is the path he should take.... provided hes not forcing it on her, which I tried to explain with the "drop it" comments.

But I think we ALL agree its important to communicate our sexual desires and fantasies. It's just good sexual health practice.