So, brief story......a few years ago, i lived somewhere, in this house, where we had an attached room but kinda "detached" in a way....it was like a sun room....with the hot tub in it.

i had someone i was doing a custom for. They were very, very pushy about me getting it done, and at the time, i was not only raising MY son but also raising a little girl that was 4 days apart from him.

So, as i DO keep it pretty fucking real with my customers....because since I have been here....everyone wants to know all about you...they want to hear what you have to say, think, feeel, EVERYTHING. so, this particular person WOULD NOT get off my case about finishing it, so, alas....i messaged them and told them that i was going to put the kids to bed (which was on the other side of the house, two floors up) and wait and then i would do it. it was a pretty harmless little wetlook deal in the hot tub. IMMEDIATELY, i got a message back saying he didnt want it anymore because he didnt want his money going to supporting a kid.
I WILL NEVER FORGET IT. i called up ariel and i could not understand. I have been outed to my entire hometown and never once did i feel shame about what i do.....but this guy? the way he said it? made me feel SHAMEFUL for trying to take care of a family, on my own, and juggle what he wanted done IMMEDIATELY. the shame wore off pretty fucking quickly as i realized that was a total dick thing to say...there was more said...and it was pretty shitty.

SO, the point in all this is YES. i realize what i do here. YES i realize my kid could find it one day. Yes, as my son grows older I do tell him more and more about what I do. heres the big one though....

THE UMD HAS HELPED ME GIVE MY SON A LIFE I DID NOT HAVE. GIVEN ME A JOB THAT I CAN BE THERE FOR HIM FOR THERAPY, BE AT HIS SCHOOL, BE ON THE PTA, TAKE CARE OF HIM WHEN HE IS SICK AND YES HE COMES FIRST!!! CUSTOMERS HAVE SENT MY SON TOYS, CLOTHES, HELPED ME WITH BILLS, you all have bought my videos, supported me, kind words, sharing my stuff on twitter, ordering customs.....all of this has helped me to support him and give him things that I did not have. THE UMD, the community has been there for me, as a mother, dealing with my son being diagnosed with ausbergers, all kinds of stuff and I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH. on this mothers day?? i want to give a huge shout out to all of you mothers that are on here...having fun, making a way, making your money, and still cleaning the house up as fast as you fucking can (BEFORE THEIR LITTLE ASSES GET HOME AND TRASH IT AGAIN!! HAHAH) and being a kick ass mom.
IF YOU MEN WANNA FIND WOMEN TO DO YOUR CUSTOMS THAT DONT HAVE KIDS, YOU ARE GOING TO SINCERELY LOWER YOUR CHOICES. lol

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY, YOU GUNGEY PRINCESSES! I have so many things outside of the umd going on right now, but this place is my love and i have met moms, dads, and friends who have supported me as a mother here, through and through.

I CANNOT THANK THE UMD ENOUGH FOR BEING HERE! YOU ALL ARE THE COMMUNITY, YOU ALL ARE THE ONES BREAKING STIGMAS AND STEREOTYPES! thank you for being you and MOMMAS!! enjoy your day how you see fit!! relax and know that i got your back! I truly believe and have seen that the umd does too

xoxox. (robby dont comment on my punctuation or paragraphs you dick) even though robby sent me a message last night that said :

"happy mothers day to the MOTHER of all paragraphs" yes this happened. this is why i love this community. if you read all of this, im sorry you are asleep now. enjoy the nap.

What an absolute turdbadger he was. You rock Jayce, a thousand times and a thousand more. I just wish I had 18 cans of nacho cheese here right now to do a Jayce tribute

Happy mother's day you badass mama x

and also does that dickhead not want to buy ANYTHING in case he accidentally supports a child

CAN'T RELATE

So 1. Happy Mother's Day to all the awesomely amazing moms on here. You all amaze me. 2. Fuck that douche canoe! 3. - infinity Happy Mother's Day to all the badass moms here. Y'all rock!

What an asshole that guy was to you! I'm sorry that happened to you. I know what your child is going through considering I have asperger's as well. You're a kickass mom!!! Don't ever let someone like that drag you down or make you feel shameful!

HUGE HUGS! Happy Mothers Day! Cheers! p.s. I have no idea if it's "Mothers Day" or "Mother's Day" or "Mothers' Day" and I don't care ... enjoy the day ... and THANK YOU for posting this!

Also I was not worried about this post putting me to sleep. I honestly just opened my eyes and read this post and now I'm awake.

Happy Mother's Day from one mom to another!

i have had so many people like you reach out to me about my sons diagnosis which i misspelled bc of being on a coffee rant. hahahahha

and it has been so helpful to know he is not alone. he is right on the line of the spectrum so we dont have to deal with what a lot of people do....i have seen it full throttle and its hard to imagine trying to do what is right. I took my son off all medications during our vacation because they seemed to be hindering his "light" so that has been a challenge. keeping him "himself" but also dealing with what comes along with that. he is incredibly smart, like, off the charts, scary smart.....so i dont try to tip toe around what the deal is with him. i still have to deal with not wanting to go to his friends bdays because its too loud, wanting days alone because he needs the time, having severe anxiety over things that are so small to US, but then giving no fucks about things he should, focus, being extremely forgetful, not being able to feel all the soap out of his hair because of sensory issues....very hard headed, doesnt forget a THING as far as what he will and will not do. strong willed as can be but also, extremely gentle, loves animals, loves us, and his empathy level is through the roof. Except for crying babies. he cant take it! poor dude! but, with alllllllll this, there is always GOOD SIDES to it. every little thing he does that is "different" is also so beautiful in its own way.
Sometimes i wanna pull my hair out....because people dont understand. "im sorry, you are his best friend but he does not want to come to this birthday party because he will literally find a quiet spot" and people think i can help this. I cannot. I have tried the tough love thing. This is just how he is and it took me a while to realize. THAT IS OKAY!
thank you, for sharing your stuff with me and letting me see that even adults struggle with it. see?? how this community is??
its a beautiful beautiful thing.


AND THANK YOU!! HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL YOU MOMMAS, STEP MOMMAS, TRYING TO BE MOMMAS, BEING A MOTHER TO A CHILD THAT ISNT YOURS, GRANDMAMAS, ALL THE MAMAS! XOXOXO!

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Well said Jayce. Although I dont know you but have chatted on here a few times over customs, You have always been helpful, polite & amusing. What I am trying to say is I truly feel you are an Amazing Mum, Fabulous model and a true friend to many of us on the UMD so I truly wish you a magical Mothers day surrounded by your family who you clearly love very much. This world is full of Dickheads, Turds, Scum the list goes on and we all see them everyday. But you are who you are because of you and your family, don't let any fuckwit change you. We all love you exactly as your are x

Happy Mother's Day! And we love Jayce!

.. there are three sides to every story ..

I am right with him on a lot of what you mentioned. I still am dealing with social anxiety. However when I grew up I didn't have any meds to take. I was actually diagnosed with this around 17-18 years old and I was classified as 'high-functioning'. I don't really do loud noises either. It was hard making friends. Still is sort of. But more to the point, you're not alone in this. I support you 100% and everything you do! If you ever want to talk about the autism subject sometime, my inbox is there!

Happy Mothers day to all you messy moms out there!

I can totally sympathise with your son in regards to this. Don't beat yourself up about it! The good friends (and parents!) will understand in the long run.

Sounds like you're doing a top job

LOVE YOU ALL!! THANK YOU SO MUCH AND KEEP ON HAVING THE BEST DAY, TODAY AND ALL DAYS!

PEACE AND LOVE,
JAYCE XOXOXO

Likewise my dear!!! Have an amazing day and all days forth! I shall enjoy the day by watching Game of Thrones tonight!!

No hyperbole: when I read this line I said "what?" out loud.

Happy mother's day. I hope you and your family have a good one.

Jayce Targaryen, Mother of Paragraphs, Breaker of Turd Badgers!

Rich xx

Just for the record ... I'm not into wetlook.

YOU ALL HAVE NO IDEA HOW AWESOME IT IS THAT GOT IS COMING ON TONIGHT!!! im ending my mothers day with a BANG!!!

and omgosh i am dying laughing at the GOT references!!! YASSSSSSSS!!!!

Are we still dating?

Are you a true Targaryen? If so should I bend the knee and swear my loyalty?

Mom, as you Yanks call it

Is just a reflection of wow!

So go shine wonderful women of wam. May we juggle slime with school runs, gunge with gardening, custard with caring, pies with parenting.. you get the idea

I think that the guy was going to cancel and was looking for a way to also try to twist the knife on the way out. I think it would be naive to think that there are no parents on here making videos. Guess what, they all have kids!!!! If it ruins the "fantasy" don't be a pushy dick. I think it's great that you can give your son a better life through doing this. Sure beats clocking in a 9 to 5 where you want to strangle everyone and have a hard time keeping work life and home life separate. You have so much stress ahead but also so much joy as well.

yeah, i have given him a better life as far as me BEING HERE for all this shit he has gone through...my mother worked herself to death and could never get ahead. i love her for it. she is stilll a wonderful mother and made me the whack job i am today. she is amazing. sometimes, i wish i did a 9-5 because atleast i KNOW im gonna make money BUT, i have gained a lot of joy being here....I have made memories with my one and only son (i cannot have more children) that i woudlnt have been able to....i am grateful for that. Ariel did mention that what i said probably did ruin the fantasty for him but you are right....if he wanted to know what i was doign every 5 minutes....he was gonna get it! the real deal of what was going down. i guess i could have fibbed and wiggled a little but by that time i was just like "dude this is what im doing, just gimme a few!"

and to the person that said there are three sides to every story. yes, there usually is. unfortunately this one ended with me feeling shame for a few minutes from someone in a community where shaming people is like, A BIG no no....for whatever reason. I did not bust him out or anything like that bc its my story and i sure would not ever want to reveal who they were! that would be so shitty of me! but if he ever wanted to message me and apologize for being so crappy about it....i sure as hell would take it and wish him well! i am not one to hold grudges! That was just a bad deal....and it was like i couldnt do anything right....everyone wants to know all about us but if it gets REALLY REAL like they say they want?? then, i lose my job?? i dont know.....it just sucked but i hold no ill will....its just a story that i learned from. i learned that i will say whatever the frack i want and not feel a bit of shame. keep it real and message back whatever is on my mind!

i feel like staying true to me is probably my best bet. take it or leave it

thanks dalamar you alwayas have good insight on stuff.

We love you Jayce.. I certainly know that I do!

Ms Jayce, I love your content and the fact that you always have fun doing it is a plus. You should that WAM is both sexy and fun and is enjoyable.

I think some people forget that the models and producers have families out there, mothers, fathers sisters, brothers children etc and we do what we can to support them. The fact that you get to do some thing you enjoy and get paid for is amazing. It's the dream we all want to do.

You may have burned with shame for a time, but he is off base. It is not for us to judge how others earn their income. You have provided for your family, that is the important thing. If people judge you for doing so, well that is their call to make. Take heart in the fact that you are a strong woman providing for you and yours.

thank you i mean, there are times where i will admit, i have done some stuff that has NOT been enjoyable to make money on here. Not everything is gonna be awesome or shit goes wrong, fucking insane messes you cant do yourself, its not always fun and games! I always, though, once i get in that mess and that camera rolls, take my mind to a place of fun, no matter what im in...and i laugh about it. It is hard work, what we do. Trying to appease and trying to make sure we have everything correct for custom work, all in all, though....even though we dont make a fuck ton, here.....i have found something I really do love to be a part of, has become a huge part of my life and does allow me to be there for my son. I have done stuff i thought i would hate and LOVED it as customs....so my customers have turned me on to new stuff....which is rad!
I am very grateful for this place. I was outed VERY early on about what I do in my hometown. I had to hold my head up high and just say "yep, thats what i do" you wouldnt believe how many people asked, behind closed doors "can i do that too iff you blur out my face" BAHAHAHAHAHAHA. the SAME people who talk shit. So, everybody has some kink in them....some people just dont own their shit. I have found it is very freeing to just own it but also that some people just wont get it and in not understanding, comes judgement. I have also found some of the coolest people who are like "hell yeah, i dont want to but that rocks!" so, it has been a journey im glad i have been on