So. I won a game of Monogamy with the wife. I won with a wild card that allows me to decided on the fantasy.

I have always wanted to gunge her!!! However she said the thought made her feel sick. She agreed to the game so I can if I want to (she's unaware of the fantasy choice till later)

However I want to add a little more excient. I want you to choose what gunge/mess and what she should wear, and also how I should do it. Tied up etc.

Let me know and I'll show her this post and do it!

P.s I love green gunge!!!!

Yeah, dude, if the thought of being gunged makes her feel physically ill.. then unless you also have a vomit fetish, it's not the sort of move that sustains a relationship.

Hell, even if you do have a vomit fetish, it's the wrong move.

That said, it's a good opportunity to start a conversation and find out why being gunged makes her feel sick. Perhaps there's a compromise that you'll both enjoy.

I completely agree with the above posters.

If you're still going to do it, you might want to try something like natrosol. It has no smell or flavor - it's literally just a colored thickener and it's really easy to make. If you use only one bucket, make sure it's warm, and don't immediately dump the entire thing over her head and instead ease her into it, she might actually enjoy the experience. She's going to be in a very vulnerable position, so make sure you express your appreciation of her and her willingness to go along with it. It may not be what you want, but it's probably the safest way to introduce her to the experience of being gunged. Fetish play isn't about what you want - it's a continual negotiation to find the right expression for both you and your partner (which may very well be never doing it again).

You can find colored natrosol through a few different vendors. I've only ever used www.messysupplies.com to buy natrosol, but I know there are few other vendors as well, such as www.thegungeshop.com .

maybe your right! natrosol is something id like to gunge with. I can only remember in passing saying i would like to gunge her. All she said it was gross, she remembers seeing it on tv as a child (how we got onto the subject in the first place)

maybe i should try something a little less extreme, any ideas? I have a memory of her not mind being pied...

help a bro out

I think before you actually gunge her you need to discuss the subject with her in detail.

What part of the people being gunged on TV did she hate the most? A lot of gungings (on TV and in videos here) tend to involve stuff poured over the head. Unless that's vital to your enjoyment, would she be happier to be gunged from the neck down (basically, have her outfit trashed) while not having to have it over her face?

Would she be up for you pouring stuff down her jeans but keeping top half clean? Sitting on squishy cakes (perhaps with custard over them for extra messiness)? Or instead of gunging, a romantic fully clothed shower or bath together?

Of course a lot will depend on what kind of gunging you want to see happen to her, not much point her doing stuff that does nothing for you.

Definitely needs to be discussed before doing though - you might even find the "would feel sick" might have been a throw-away casual remark, or not so much about the gunge as about being humiliated in front of vast numbers of people watching TV - private gunge might be perfectly OK as long as no-one but you is watching.

Talk to her about it and make clear you don't want her to do anything she'd hate, and see if there's a mutually acceptable way through?

Good advice. must admit my ultimate goal was a gunge tank style. Guess i wil have to talk it out.

might do a food gunging like pie and custard, chocolate then open a dialog

what a great idea! infact on of the cards in momgramy is to use oil and get oiley. so would be a great intro!!! amazing!
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maybe introduce a blindfold or handcuffs.....or too much

I have to agree with the masses...don't freak her out with too much. Start small, let her enjoy it, and then build up to the big messes (hopefully)

Sounds sorted then. Oil it is. Going to sit her down on a chair and pour oil over her, neck down. Going to pace round her to give some excitement. Maybe people can suggest an outfit

I'm so new to actually trying WAM stuff that I'm not sure I'm even qualified to give advice, but here's my two cents anyway.

My spouse and I are fairly vanilla, some might say laughably or pitifully so, but I don't buy that. There's a few things he's respectfully approached me about trying (or I'd wanted to discuss trying) and out of curiosity, I did a little online research about them beforehand.

If your wife was caught a little off-guard about your spoken desire to gunge her, chances are she's since done some online research to see if this is "really a thing" and others are into it, and the amount of WAM material online would no doubt be perplexing to a newcomer.

I second the suggestions to start with "WAM Lite." Going out on a limb here, I'm guessing that a female new to the concept of WAM might be overwhelmed by the more extreme aspects like clothes-ripping or being filmed for an online audience. She may have entirely legitimate reasons for wanting to avoid both: it might be impossible to avoid conflating clothes-ripping with sexual violence in one's mind, and showing one's face on camera could be destructive to a professional career.

I'd recommend keeping it a private session and stressing that this is something you want to see her experience and react to naturally; it's not to humiliate her online. (Frankly I think the idea of telling her you had others plan her experience would be a potential deal-killer.)

I don't know what your financial situation is like, but I wouldn't frame this in terms of permanently destroying an outfit. We women are often sentimental about our clothes and she probably wasn't counting on being asked to wreck a favorite outfit when she lost the bet, especially if it was pricey. I would also recommend doing 100 percent of the clean-up, including washing her clothes (don't put 'em in the dryer if they're soaked in oil, though.)

I hope I phrased all that sensitively and I hope you both have a mutually great time! Best of luck.

Thanks for the advise

Ok so an update. We talked about it. Turns out she's always wanted to be pie with a messy custard pie. She has agreed to receive a gunging providing ist done properly with real gunge. The gunge is on order. She want ladies in the know to choose what to wear and how it's done. Ie. On a chair, on her knees etx. She wants the ladies to decided. The gunge will be green. She likes bondage if that helps. She's up for it. She's nervous though. I kinda like that.