Hello all. Hope you are well.

I was looking through some of my solo session pictures. I seem to find it almost impossible to upload them.

It's like, when you get your own voice on a recording, not many people like their own voice.
It's kind of like that with me. It just fills me with dread.


How did you all get over that fear? What steps did you take to get over that fear of uploading?

Hope to find some help and hope this helps others. Even if no one relies, just know us shy ones aren't alone

Look at the community and see its a place to share and enjoy this fetish. A good chunk of us here are here to have fun and explore/make a messy good time.
You are in control of what you choose to post- start with some faceless and see how you feel.
Ultimately your here for fun!

For me I figured It was about time to share my kink with others, to show that it's okay to have a dad bod and still be a wammer. That said, if it's not for you, then it's okay. Sharing what you love can be daunting, even amongst a great group of people. "Do I look okay in this outfit" "Is the mess good" "isn't too sexual". In the end if you choose to share, fantastic. If not, no harm no foul.

Depends on where the fear is based:
If you are worried about criticism, remember they normally come from a place of jealousy that they don't have the courage to do what you did.
If you are worried of not being 'good enough', what is good enough? Answer: everything is. You can't achieve perfection, though you can improve through practice.
Do you dislike looking at yourself? Then don't, but other will like looking at you. Folks have got in contact with me due to my photos and I'm not a model! Always flattering even if I never follow up.

No matter what you post, someone will love it, someone will hate it and everyone else will fall in between. You can't please everyone so please yourself and let others scroll past. If you like the picture then that's good enough.

How to post without fear? Why lose the fear? Choosing the photos, Uploading, clicking the send button. The result will be the same if you are scared or not. You can bungee jump scared and gravity will still work. If it's 'stopping' you, then you have to ask "why?", look at worst case scenario, the likelihood of it happening, then the best case scenario and the likelihood. Then realise it will probably fall between those 2 outcomes...and is it really that bad. Fear is understandable, but it's a perception from your inner self, and not necessarily reality.

And if you change your mind, then you can delete them. I took down the videos of me getting gunged, not sure why, but I can put them back if I want too.

Good luck.

It's something I had together use to other pass few year and try stay in background when I can. When go back watch a to z did with darla . Still shock me bit. Wield but over that.

Feel like take time.

I uploaded pictures of Rich at Slapstick Stuff and said it was me. Problem solved.

Robby

I just blur out any faces, and that's anonymous enough for me.

Jayce always tries to blur out my face and that's when we're NOT making a video.

Robby

There's not really much of a reason to be fearful. Easy for you to say, you've got no pictures! Well, at one point I had something like 800+ pictures on here...I took them down because I was just over it, I wasn't really getting anything out of sharing pictures, a few likes and comments here and there, but honestly just felt like I was ignored, so I just became another lurker.

So why the fear? I guess mostly it's a fear of being outed for having the fetish? I had a little fear at first, and then I was like "Fuck it..." and started uploading stuff. The likelihood of anyone you know from real life being on this site is kind of slim I think? I've never run into another WAM enthusiast in my life. Or maybe I have, and they just kept quiet about it...so you know, it's not like they're going to bring it up, because then they're outing themselves too because the only people who come on this site are people here for the WAM...anyways, I maintain that while it is a weird fetish, it's innocent enough...unless you're getting messy naked or jerking off or having sex or something...well then that's an entirely different thing to explain to people you know who could (put probably won't) stumble across what you've posted.

I've always had body-image issues, in part because, as you can see if you look at any of my pics (especially those in the "Sticky Sweet" or "Trashed" albums), none of the adjectives that people use for guys who are conventionally attractive apply to me.

But one day, I decided to post those pictures anyway - just took a breath and hit submit on the upload screen, at least in part, I think, to confront my insecurities about the way I looked in them. There was a pretty big part of me that figured I'd probably get a lot of the kinds of comments that echoed the ones I remember hearing in elementary school and junior high (and even high school). But you know what? I didn't.

Something about this community was different. Folks (especially other guys) didn't put me down for the way I looked. In fact, much to my surprise, some folks actually liked what they saw. (Well, either that, or they hit the little heart icon ironically.)

Does that make me like those pictures (or the way I look in them) any more? Not necessarily. But it does make me realize that maybe...just maybe...what I am is still enough, even if I know it's never going to measure up to whatever I've conditioned myself (or at least allowed myself to be conditioned) to believe that I'm supposed to be or how I'm supposed to look.

Thank you all, so, so much. I have read these a few times, and really has helped.
2026 is going to be a fucking messy year!