Don't worry - I'm not going to lambast anyone in particular - just a casual observation.

I have hosted a few sploshing events now, & have noticed one thing in particular - a lack of females attending. Why is this??? Does anyone else host events have this problem??? What particularly get me is that, in the past our regular fetish club Townhouse hosted sploshing events on a regular fetish night - custard wrestling, gelli bast wrestling, custard wrestling on a bouncy castle etc. All events had a great attendance and mixed genders (ie everyone - M,F, TV, TG and everyone inbetween). Yet when I host and advertise a private event - they all dissapear.......*insert tumbleweed here*

I don't get it - I have stringent rules about touching and non consentual play - no nudity or topless. I have never experienced any problems with guys getting "over-amourous".....So why no ladies attending??? Are they scared of being "touched up", harrassed....???

So, come on lady sploshers.... I know you must be out there......The fun is there for the taking.
I'll make no bones about it - it takes a lot of effort and planning to put on these events, ask any producer and I'm sure they'll agree. That's why, I think, not many people put on sploshing events (or am I wrong???) Not many clubs want the hassle or threat of mess ruining their clubs (that's why this event is held outdoors). Surely, you've got to make the most of when such an event occurs...they are like gold dust!!!
But it's worth the pure joy of seeing folks let themselves go and have FUN!!! Nothing gives a better buzz than making people HAPPY......I just wanna spread some of that happiness and think a lot of ladies are missing out...

so come on, get HAPPY Go to an event....have FUN!!!

*rant over*

I don't honestly know the reason, it could just be location or timing and completely innocuous. I can have a couple of guesses at why they might not attract female sploshers.

1. Did the club run it as a fun alternative night or sploshers event? The more specific/niche, the less it attracts.

2. A club is recognised and trusted venue, women might feel safer when organised bya venue rather than an individual.

3. There seems to be a lot more men than women in sploshing, maybe the numbers are representative of the ratio so it only seems like few women.

Just some ideas, nothing aimed at anyone and I have no way of checking the facts but maybe others can come up with better reasons.

I have hosted many events -- let's call them "dates" -- where I couldn't get any females to attend.

If I am interpreting this correctly you are saying local clubs that host events are able to get decent female attendance but when you host a private event you have a hard time getting women to show up...I am guessing by private you mean you are hosting at your home? If that is the case then I don't think I this is a question that needs an answer. I don't mean anything negative towards you personally or any guys personally for that matter, it's just feels a bit sketchy going to a fetish themed event at a person's house unless you know them well. If you're talking about you putting on an even at a club then I have no idea what they issue would be.

Back in college I used to go to crazy kink parties that had a great mix of men, women and some trans folk. The parties were successful because the woman running it was well known in the community and only allowed people she personally knew (or the occasional friend of a friend) to events. It took a long time for her to get to the point of being known well enough to get that kind of attendance and I think part of the reason the parties went so well was because they were exclusive. You had to personally know people to get in. So as a single woman going to those events I knew that everyone else that also had to have a good reputation in the community just to be there so I didn't feel unsafe.

Speaking for myself as just a female WAM lover who loves the fetish and wasn't brought into this by a male partner, going to anything like this obviously as a partnerless female would make me very anxious in any kind of group setting, let alone indulging in a fetish with people i've never met before, or even spoken to, just wouldn't appeal to me, maybe other single women will feel the same.

I would guess on the other hand, there are other ladies here who already have partners that have introduced them to WAM fun, and might not be into group situations at a private venue either.

Good luck with your event

First of all, I would like to thank you, on behalve of our community, for the time and effort you invest in organising these parties. There are far to few of them, especially ones that are organised by true wam-lovers.

I agree with Silver-sea. A club that organises an alternative fetish party will attract more people and a more diverse public. The guests don't come for the mess but will happely join in because they are there and it seems to be fun or they do it for the sake of just trying it. But for most of them it will be a one-of experience.

A lot of us wammers, including us, are of the shy and geeky kind. Ofcourse, there are the outgoing types but a fair share, including ladies, seem to be quite shy and, as said by some others, there seem to be more men as women enjoying this fetish.

As said, we are a shy couple and altho we do share the sheets with good friends from time to time, we would probably not go to a party with strangers. Even tho we know that it is a friendly bunch that enjoys the same fetish as ourselves. For the same reason we don't go to clubs or similar venues.

We would probably enjoy it when we are there but we just can't take that first step. And, sadly, if we would like to do so, we can't affort the cost of travelling to the uk or us for one.

Keep hosting parties! You make people happy and I am sure that your guests have time of their life when they attend your parties.

Wow, thanks for all your comments and input. After discussing this at the MK splunch as well, it seems that, as already mentioned, it seems there are more male sploshers than girls which conversly leads to a higher male atendance.

I guess it's just "one of those things" - it's not going to stop me hosting events.....I just want folks to know that they are for everyone, regardless of gender/orientation.