Hey guys. As I posted in UMD Dev, I added a new preference that you can use that might help prevent you from getting the types of inbox messages that you don't want. Now you can display a pre-set message to people as they are writing to you, to let them know upfront where you stand on certain issues. It displays on the form when people are writing to you. There are only 3 options there now:
- I'm not open to meeting, chatting, or role-playing. - I don't discuss personal details like my location and age. - I don't get to check this inbox very often.
If people go against your stated wishes as they inbox you, then that is an offense to the site and you should flag the message. I will always take suggestions for additions to this list, but I want to keep it simple and I do not plan to allow arbitrary text input there.
HappyCamper said: I figured all of the women already blocked Regis.
- I'm not open to meeting, chatting, or role-playing. - I don't discuss personal details like my location and age. - I don't get to check this inbox very often. - THIS MEANS YOU, REGIS.
HappyCamper said: I figured all of the women already blocked Regis.
- I'm not open to meeting, chatting, or role-playing. - I don't discuss personal details like my location and age. - I don't get to check this inbox very often. - THIS MEANS YOU, REGIS.
People need to look at Regis's acheivements. The UN has made him international ambassador for sperm donation. He even got a No Peace Bell prize. Nominated by Amy from Messygirl.
this that I am writing now is clearly an off-topic, but I was wondering if I can suggest you to improve the section "Friend"; at this time, I am adviced to some people who wants to be my friend, but I am not able to know who is not my friend anymore, as he/she deleted his/her account or simply doesn't want to be near me. This can be of some interest? Thanks
> I'm not open to meeting, chatting, or role-playing.
LisaMoomin said: Great idea!
I do feel the first one is a bit to general though?
Yeah... I'm trying to come up with a better way of saying that than just saying "leave me alone!" I see that certain people constantly get messages from others trying to chat or meet up, or even trying to strike up conversations about nothing. They're normally well-meaning, but judging but the inboxes of a lot of you, you don't have the time. I'll try to think of better phrasing.
Also note that this is like the "negative" side of the equation. This is a message that displays as people are typing to you, and is meant to curb behavior that you don't want.
But! What I consider the "positive" side of the equation has just been launched as well, in the form of things that you DO want, shown on your profile page. Edit your profile to see a new "I am here to:" section. It will put [purposely generic] notes on your homepage that I hope will help others know how to approach you, and let them know if you're here to chat, meet up, lurk, etc.
These sections will be updated going forward of course.
- I'm not open to meeting up. - I'm not interested in chatting or long inbox conversations. - I don't discuss personal details like my location and age. - I don't get to check this inbox very often.
Anything else happen a lot that you might want to prevent? MM
I really like the fact you are doing positives as well.
If you were to add more my suggestions would be..
Role play Dares Picture swapping Interact with customers
I appreciate the list could go on and on!
I personally feel, just knowing the actual facilities that were already in place ie) flagging personal messages , asking to be hidden from a member, has already made a difference.
Messmaster said: Edit your profile to see a new "I am here to:" section. It will put [purposely generic] notes on your homepage that I hope will help others know how to approach you, and let them know if you're here to chat, meet up, lurk, etc.
These sections will be updated going forward of course.
Messmaster
Am I missing the "chew bubblegum and kick ass" option?
Surely the answer to having to create an ever-growing list of positives and negatives from which to select is simply to have a text box that the user can put whatever they like (or dislike) in terms of contact from others?
LizzieClaymore said: Surely the answer to having to create an ever-growing list of positives and negatives from which to select is simply to have a text box that the user can put whatever they like (or dislike) in terms of contact from others?
That would have been easier for me to do. But no, I specifically do not want to allow arbitrary input. The messages are deliberately canned, in order to add one more layer of removal from it being personal. Plus it avoids rants and diatribes there. It won't be an ever-growing list 20 items long either, because I'm keeping it generic. The ideas is convey your general m.o., not display a granular list of demands.