Regis!!!! Don't troll people when they are trying to have a legit heart to heart!! Save it for silly convos dude!

I don't want a robot. I don't want an escort. I'd even be thrilled to have an online thing. It wouldn't be about wam all the time. I want someone I can share my day with. I don't just want sex. I could probably get it if it were all I want, but I want more than that.

Have you seen the series Humans? Could be the answer to all your dreams

Perhaps, but I've been informed that all our efforts in this thread should be devoted to finding this forlorn young fellow a girlfriend. So: Let's stay focused, people!

I wouldn't say forlorn, maybe a little burnt out though.

Thanks I really appreciate it! Any advice?

Thanks I really appreciate it! Any advice?

Yep, most are just normal people who aren't super-rich.


Well, the good news here is that just about everybody here probably started the same way.


I can remember feeling this way when I saw my first videos. I imagined the producer, about who I knew nothing, to be a rich, blazingly handsome dude with about 50 adoring girl friends, all of whom happily hopped in the mud for him and his camera.

It wasn't so. He was a normal-looking guy with a family, a job, and those models were expensive! And over the years, I met others. Divorces, or never-married...and when there's a lady present, she mostly isn't into the fetish in the same way.

So, no need to be jealous of the producers. I don't know if it helps or not, but really and truly, they aren't necessarily better-off than you are.

If you could take a tad over 30 years off my age, the picture of you is definitely dateable.

And your age means something. Really. Most people don't get married young any more anyway. I don't blame you for wanting a relationship but I wouldn't get worried about whether there is anything seriously wrong with you for not having one until you're pushing 35-40.

It may sound trite, but to find women you have to meet women. Women are people, so to meet women, you must go where there are people.

Any chance you're an introvert? You spend a lot of time with computers. You mentioned hiking and working out -- but is that with a group?

Introverts do great one-on-one but meeting lots of people when you're not that into people can be difficult and stressful. I am a severe introvert so my people-time is arranged around other things that I enjoy and it has a beginning and an end time. If I didn't take a certain dog out now and then, or go to a certain dinner once a month, or show up at a certain life-drawing coop occasionally and say hi to the art community, I could easily, if left to my own devices, be totally isolated.

Do not overlook depression that does not go away. You could need a doctor. Been there, done it, and many meds really do work. It is easier to meet women if you can smile and mean it!

Hope this helps,
Nessie

Actually age doesn't bother me. I tend to end up going for women in their mid 30's anyways.

Besides my birthday is a week away and I'll be 22. I'm gradually catching up.

I had a similar crisis to yourself but it took me till 26 to get to your point and you also sound more social than I was but the same basic questions. As others have said I came to the conclusion that I would never meet anyone if I didn't at least try. And I also have more than just WAM as a fetish so I found out about my local fetish scene and they held munches locally to me so I just went and met some nice ppl who I could be honest and open about all my kinks with (most were a bit curious about sploshing when I mentioned it) met a few women who were interested in me and now one of them is my wife been together 9 years she indulges my messy fantasies from time to time and we've got a good life together so you never know but the moral of the story is to try in the first place. And the good thing about kinky people is they generally don't tend to judge people even if their kinks differ

Due to my extreme anxiety i dont even bother meeting people in public.

I don't mind so much. I live a very active lifestyle. I'm building a tiny home from an old school bus, I go hiking a lot. I'm just alone in a room full of people. As far as the shared fetish thing goes, I wouldn't mind having a girl who indulged me, but I would really like to win the lottery and find one who shares it with me, but as all you fellas know the ratio doesn't look good for us. There are far more men than women.