Been a long time member of UMD but it's getting near time to say goodbye.
All in all UMD has been both a great thing and a disappointment at the same time.
I have met some good genuine people on here, but it also has it's issues especially with men acting as women and even posting fake pics to convince you they are actually female.
Even though nothing of my profile should invite anyone other than ladies, I instead get ignored by most of them, but the gay dudes come out of the woodwork to want to meet etc.
Just turned 62 and figure I am getting to the geriatric stage of life, seems UMD is a younger persons thing.
Some time in the near future I will be exciting UMD and moving onto other things.
Thanks to those who were genuine and shame on those who can't be honest.

Sorry you're disappointed in your last experiences here.

...But my dude, you're old enough to know better. The UMD is the absolute LAST place to meet women who aren't selling you stuff. Women aren't tripping over themselves to spend their precious free time on a message board where horny guys feverishly post about what their favorite pie-in-the-face blowjob scene is.

Lesson to everyone here--young, old, experienced, new, etc.: If she exists on the UMD she's either a man or a business. Period.

I've always enjoyed your posts and positive energy. I agree with you, the accounts with someone being deceptive about his identity were problematic and it sounds like they made everyone deeply uncomfortable across the board. (I'm *NOT* referring to crossdressing or trans pages; they're fine, as from what I've seen they've been invariably honest about their identity.)

But there's at least a few women here, myself included, who are all about the meet-ups and not so much the business end of things. I've met up with four UMDers so far and hope to meet up with two more very soon. Until I really put in the work to master the technical aspect of video production and/or photography, I wouldn't feel right charging anything beyond a tip jar for videos, just to help cover the cost of messy materials. (Again, not putting down anyone who does charge for their content. I'll probably always offer some free stuff even if I get into more paid videos.)

Anyway, I wish you nothing but happiness whatever your decision!

I hear what you're saying. I've been here a pretty long time myself, and I'm beginning to feel like the last one out of an empty apartment.

You raise some good points, but it honest part of it is just the double edged sword of this fetish. A lot of people value being able to enjoy WAM separate from their everyday list and having the option to retain some level of anonymity or a persona allows for that. On the flip side that anonymity is what allows a few people to deceive others (though I believe those are relatively few.)

The other thing to keep in mind is what, while there is a kink/fetish component to WAM, not everyone on here is interested in the sexual component. All it takes is a polite "I am only interested in WAM with ..." and pretty much everyone I have come across respects that.

In general people need to remember this is NOT a dating site or anything of the kind. This is a site for people with a shared interest and you want to get to know a person before you even start thinking about meeting and getting into a situation where you may both be vulnerable. Just remember everyone is a normal person away from the site (shockingly, I am not a clown 24/7 .)

I wanted to clarify my statement because it appears after reading it to be a little krass. I have no problem with alternative lifestyles and think it is great that any and all communities are represented here. I am very progressive even though my post might not have seemed so.
I just get frustrated because I try to adhere to what people want on their profile and stay respectful of their wishes as to who they wish to dialogue with.
I guess my old school is shining through, respect is still important in my world

I know what you mean, i'm a straight male but the "attention" (loves, comments, messages sent to me) i got were from either female producers or gay men. Always kind and respectful, as i myself try to be respectful to anyone.

Just like you, i'd love to see more "amateur" straight women here, that would post content (doesn't need to be for nothing) and would be open for contact. But after finding out there are not so much users that fit that description i accepted that for a fact, changed my expectations a bit and still enjoy being at UMD though spending less time. Still engaging in some discussion which i also enjoy.

Maybe changing expectations could help you and allow you to still enjoy UMD. Try to find other means to get what you are missing here. Perhaps fetlife could be something to try? A full exit might not be necessary.