...Your spouse has no desire to participate in your wam fetish?

A number of options spring to mind...
1. Accept the fact.
2. Try to find a compromise.
3. Polyamoury/open to play partners if they are open to that (my way).
4. See escorts if they are ok with that.

Any others..?

7. Roll over and masturbate forlornly into a sock after your partner falls asleep.

I got over it pretty quick.

I do that as well.

This is why I am a fan of open relationships. I think it's unrealistic to expect one person to fulfill all your needs; sexual, emotional, intellectual etc. Open relationships are becoming more accepted but that is a very personal choice and I know some people would get offended if their spouse suggesting something like that.

I am polyamorous and there are many different types of relationship. I have 2 loving 'proper/normal' relationships, but others have play partners. This is the kind that kinksters often go for to "fulfill all your needs". It is tricky to find them, but it is all about being open, exploring and yes, a little luck. There are no female sploshers I know of in my city (though for a play partner I would travel) but I keep my hopes up

I agree with Leila, alternative ways of living are becoming more accepted now and long may this continue. Poly/open can help people become closer but it does take a certain mental switch to realise it. Jealousy and Envy are powerful (which I fortunately don't feel) and honesty with others and yourself are key.

I now feel like i'm writing a fet-life document

Dating certainly isn't easy, it does take a good deal of patience and some persistence to find people you like. I'm not at the point of "dating" per se but I have found it rewarding to meet new people despite the obnoxiousness of having to deal with some creeps along the way.