M4M - it's your choice whether to GIVE or GET the messiness. Start out with bottles of soda, and later items are vegetable shortening, and maybe nontoxic white glue. I'm white, 6-footer, stocky (though I lost a lot of weight), blond hair. You'd have to have a place to do this or maybe a motel is an idea. I live alone but the sound travels too easily from one apt to the next and it wouldn't be great if my neighbors pounded on my door or complained to management because they caught on I was doing something risqué. If you only want to text me without meeting, that's the next best thing, but let me know.