I've been doing WAM for about 5 years now. I started it when I was living with my parents. In order for me to actually get messy I would have to wait until the house was completely empty. Not to mention I also have to buy a bunch of supplies and hide them in my room or somewhere nobody would find it. Even if I was successful, I still had to clean up everything, throw out any remaining bottles, and spray some lavender scent in the bathroom so there's not a lingering smell of chocolate or cake batter. One time I forgot to do that and my brother asked me "Why does it smell like chocolate in the bathroom?" I just told him it came from outside, that one of our neighbors was baking something and I left the window open. Fortunately, my parents never got suspicious of anything, but I still had to be cautious.

I thought it would be easier once I moved out of my parents place and got my own apartment. But the problem is that I share an apartment with my brother, and my brother is a pretty nosy person. He always wants to know what I'm doing, where I'm going, who I talk to, etc. So, when I discovered the mud quarry and went to go there myself, I of course came back kind of dirty, so I quickly put all my dirty towels and clothes in my dirty laundry and hopped in the shower, and when my brother came back from work, he asks why the inside of the car is kind of dirty. I had to come up with a lie and say I was driving through a construction area on my way to my friends, and I had the window slightly opened. Not to mention as I've said in my previous posts I usually only go there on Sunday cause that's when the whole area is closed, and sometimes my brother works on Sunday, and we share the same car. So I always have to come up with an excuse to take the car that day and then I'll go pick him up myself. And I also do my laundry at my parents place, so when my mom saw how dirty my towels are, SHE starts asking questions, and once again, I have to come up with some stupid story to get her mind off of it.

The point I'm trying to make is I love this fetish and I love actually doing it myself. But it's hard to do it when you're always surrounded by friends and family and trying to keep it a secret. My parents don't really care what me and my brother do as long as we actually make a living for ourselves, but even so I still try to keep this side hobby of mine a secret because they become very judgmental when they encounter things they don't fully understand. And the last thing I want is my family to look at me very oddly. Not to mention I'm not making any money off of this, so it doesn't count as making a living off of it. Anyway, I just wanted to put this out there because it's just been bothering me and I just wanted some of you to hear me out.

If anybody knows where I'm coming from or is kind of in the same situation, feel free to respond. This is something I don't here a lot of people talk about in this community so it would be nice to hear from other people.

I absolutely know where you're coming from!

It's very hard to be discreet about it when living at home, family, friends, even roommates.

When I was younger I once agreed to host. Worst idea ever!!!!
My fellow Wammer and I were completely covered in our bathroom when my brother came home.
We had to stay quiet for while and then just shower and once he had left my Wammer fellow Wammer left. It was so bad. It was kinda awkward for a good two weeks with my brother.

I'd be aware of the lies (convenient ones,so not criticizing you) that you are coming up with. It could all come crashing down. That said i don't agree with your brother sticking his nose in your private life though as you say you both share a car so naturally he would want to know why it's dirty.

I feel for you on the logistics of it all, but I'm gonna be real with you...

Your parents absolutely knew

The neighbours were baking chocolate? Parents have a sixth sense for weirdness, and "my kid keeps taking the car on Sundays to drive through construction zones with the windows down" isn't fooling anyone! They definitely had a conversation about it. Probably multiple. And then decided they'd rather not know the details. I've been in similar situations with my kids, where knowing less is better!

Jokes aside, the privacy struggle is real, and you're definitely not alone in this. A ton of people here are in the same boat with roommates, family, partners who don't know or don't want to know. Perhaps there's a covert ops role you'll be suitable for...

You've hit the nail on the head here but i'm not sure the parents know exactly what he was doing, meaning they wouldn't think of it as WAM so much, but they know the 'baking' explanation was flimsy. Your brother is the same Vaughn, he knows something is up but might not have joined the dots on what it actually is.

I was sort of in the same boat at your age, although it was wetlook for me. Any time I actually got muddy, it was incidental and easily explainable (I played soccer, went running daily rain or shine, love hiking and am not deterred by rain or mud, etc). But considering that my preference for wetlook is on the fancier side for clothing, explaining away a drenched evening gown was difficult.

As for actual advice, I recommend bringing a bag with a towel or two, a package of baby wipes, and a change of clothes for afterward (doesn't have to be anything special. A tshirt and athletic shorts makes for a quick, easy change that won't really raise suspicion). When you're done WAMming, clean up and dry off as best you can before getting back in the car, or lay the towel out on the seat to protect it.

For at-home WAMming, stick to things that are easy to clean up, won't stain, and don't have strong, lingering smells

And about those suspicions... yeah, your parents and brother might not know exactly what you're doing or why, but they definitely know you're trying to hide something. That's likely why your brother is so nosey about it.

My love of wet clothing started way before the sexual aspect was even remotely on the radar for me, but it definitely intensified as a teenager. My parents knew, but chose to ignore it as long as it didn't become a problem. They didn't admit knowing until years later, but they knew all along.

It's like anything really, if there are people around and you don't want people to know, it requires more planning and more attention to detail in setting up and clearing up. That's true when still living at home and remains true in many other housing setups.

It gets easier. It becomes habit. And eventually you'll have a nice (somewhat) private setup and not have to worry so much. Keep enjoying yourself!

All the responses above provide great advice.

As unimaginable as it may seem, you also have the option of telling your brother the truth: you like getting muddy. You're allowed to enjoy it. He doesn't have to know all the details, and you don't have to tell him that it's sexual. The experience will build trust between the two of you. If he tells your parents or threatens to, then you'll have to talk to them, too.

If the people you tell have concerns, listen to them and acknowledge them. If you're going into a mud quarry solo, it is dangerous if you're not telling anybody where you are or when you'll be back.

And if they're judgemental, wear it proudly. Embrace what makes you different. You're not hurting anybody, and chances are good that they have their own secret interest.

I know it's not easy. I was getting messy when I was a teenager and didn't talk about it with any of my friends until my late 30's. It took me 20 years to be honest about who I am, and it has unlocked so much more fun.

That said, you're relying on your family, so you have to accept some limitations. If you're tracking dirt into a shared car, you have to put more effort into keeping it clean. And you might consider taking your towels to a laundromat instead of your parents' place.

Some practical advice:

There are a few strategies to deal with being able to play in mud and keep the car clean, we use most of them in our regular mud shoots.

First, think of protecting the interior - when heading out to play, first put waterproof covers on the car seats (or at least the driver's seat), and note they aren't really as waterproof as claimed - so if going to be getting back in wet, you want plastic sheeting under it to protect the base and lower seat-back.

But second, think in terms of minimising mess likely to come off you. The ideal is to carry big water bottles (or jump in a clean creek or lake of the sea) and fully wash off, but if that isn't practical, then invest in a full waterproof coverall, or waterproof trousers and jacket, rubber gloves, and wellies. You want the trouser legs tucked into the boots and the jacket tucked into the trousers - so any mud remains inside and is caught if it flows down at all, ending up in the boots. Drive like that to somewhere with a shower like a service station, wear the waterproofs right into the shower and strip them off under the running water, wash, then change into clean dry clothes after the shower. Remove the seat covers etc from the car, bundle everything into a big waterproof sports bag.

I second the idea of having the messy stuff washed at a laundrette instead of at home too, for privacy.

When I was a teenager I used to cycle to mud locations, wearing what I wanted to wear into the mud, with a clean change in saddlebags. But I lived on the coast and found that the best possible way to clean muddy clothes was just to wear them into the sea afterwards, salt water is amazing for muddy clothes-washing, and muddy people-washing. Then in my 20s I got my first car and could explore much further, but had to make sure not to get any mud inside, so learned lots of ways to keep things clean and the mess on me, not the car.

Usually my manhood



....I'm sorry, but I had to make that joke.

*Boing!!*

I mainly tried to keep it discreet as much as I could. A few years ago my father, who recently passed away last month, almost got exposed what I have been keeping secret when he and I had gotten into a heated argument about something else and at another time, our computer was in the basement on my house back in 2003 or 2004, back when I had Dialup Internet,I had printed out a WAM picture and when my mother, who passed away in 2021, asked me what I was printing out and I had to hide it from her view. Trying to be a wammer and being discreet when you live with relatives is hard.