So, I had a random thought about self esteem and I know amongst this community getting turned down or made to feel weird about our kinks . The sad reality is it has a serious effect on our self esteem. Same applies to producers and models alike. Is there anything that can be done to change the status quo most of the same old advice or are we all doomed to slowly introduce fetishes' over time and pray our partners or the models will be into it? I'm also curious about how producers go about hiring models and making fetishes seem appealing. I'm not talking manipulating or misleading, but I feel there's something I'm doing wrong in that department and it can definitely be a blow to self esteem. I feel I could produce such great content for fetish communities but finding models is a personal issue tied to anxiety and self esteem. Any help is appreciated I just think someone or some people on here have mastered the craft of introducing obscure fetishes' to others.

Self-esteem is something you have to control rather than let it be from an external locus. This is how I deal with my kink to avoid self esteem issues:

I am aware and accepting of my kink. It is part of me so I tell folks about it at the correct time which is (for me) when thing look like they might go a bit further than friends. If they turn me down then that is fine. It is not on me or them as I am ok with my kink and ok that they don't like it. It's not for everyone and I know there are kinks I won't do for others.

Basically, someone else's opinion doesn't matter to me, even less if they are bad about it (e.g. insulting or disgusted to my face). The worse thing to do (FOR ME) is to get into a relationship and bring it up late when it could ruin the relationship and the hope has been brewing for so long it hurts more.

FYI: I also tell friends who I trust with said info as they are fun and I like the conversations, also they have pointed me in the direction of some friends who might be interested in a little play.