I wanted to ask you the following:

There are different ways of living out our fetish.

On the one hand, there are the people who prefer to be spectators, and on the other hand, I think there are two forms of actors.
The one form that prefers to defile itself or be defiled, and then there are certainly
people who simply want to defile others.

What is your favourite form and is sexual arousal and an orgasm the goal?

Have you ever been able to live out your wildest fantasies? Unfortunately, I haven't because my partner isn't interested at all.

I'm purely a spectator. Absolutely zero desire to ever be gunged/pied/etc.

Arousal/orgasm is most always my goal.

Fantasies have been fulfilled to a point. My girlfriend is more than willing to wear a dress in the shower for me whenever. I don't think they'll ever be 100% fulfilled barring me paying for a custom but that's life.

I like being a spectator as much as I like being messy.

I'm kind of all three.

When spectating, orgasm is pretty much the goal every time.

When getting messy orgasm isn't the goal every time, often it happens and is mind blowing but sometimes it's just for the pure fun of getting messy, arousal usually happens but can be temporary and I'm just there rolling around in a bath of gunge for the pure joy of it and the disconnection from day to day life.

As for getting someone messy, I would love to get my wife involved and I have many fantasies that would be a dream to fulfil but it's unlikely to ever happen.

I'd also say after orgasm during a messy session, I'd happily carry on and have a bit of messy play before cleaning up whereas after orgasm while watching scenes, I'm unlikely to carry on watching any more clips from my library.

I get a lot of enjoyment from spectating, but there is a stronger desire to be covered in the mess. With both, I will admit sexual arousal and orgasming are usually the goal. But there is also the joy of being covered in some form of mess.

There is a want to be messy with others, perhaps some other likeminded individuals here. But current living circumstances don't allow that. If I ever had a partner, I do wonder if I would ever try to broach the subject with them, but I think it would have to be a few months into the relationship before then.

I don't know how wild my fantasies go, truthfully. I have certainly had strong desires to replicate shaving foam beds to much success, if that counts. Maybe not quite as many cans of shaving foam used as I would like, but still wonderfully messy. Others, like gunge tanks or dunk tanks filled with gunge, require more money than I have. And for me to have my own space, again.

Much prefer to be spectator to mess. Definitely a turn on seeing a lad get messy with gunge , pies or food especially if they end up losing a vote or game . Ive always preferred watching others get messy than being the one receiving the mess , it's not really for me . I'll happily spend hours watching clips of guys being on the receiving end of the gunge but receiving the gunge myself don't interest me I'm afraid . So definitely one for being a spectator.

I like to receive the mess, then watch video or images of myself receiving the mess. Not sure if that makes me a participant or spectator!

I feel I'm all three for sure.

Very much prefer to be the victim. I do enjoy spectating, though. As far as sexual arousal, well, spectating does that for me. It's not the goal when being defiled. That's just for fun.
Did come close to living out a fantasy at Splatter Island.

I like both, but I prefer being the one to get messy, hopefully with someone else dealing out the mess. Sexual arousal is usually, the goal, but not always. Sometimes I just want to get messy for the sake of it. I've thankfully been able to experience several of my fantasies, but I still have quite a few I've yet to fulfill.

I like dealing out the mess and making the receiver get excited, but I absolutely need to receive too. For me it's all about maxing out the senses, sex and intimacy. Getting messy gets the senses all over the body going and heightens the arousal. I always loved the feeling of cum on my body so being messy gets me to that bliss in a way that saves the cumming for a little while longer (as long as I can hold back from getting frenzied too quickly).

When I have had the pleasure of doing it with others, the sight and feel of them messed up is so exciting and I adore the slimy massaging of each other, slippery grinding etc. The crucial thing for me is that after orgasm, my senses are still heightened by the mess, so there is no rapid come-down and I love to go on with the massaging, kissing etc. for much longer. Overall, with the 'extended play' before and after, it can extend an act of sex and intimacy by hours and I feel very lucky to have such experiences.

It may also be 'helped' by the fact that I don't get to do mutual sessions very often, (sometimes years between them) so when it happens, it really happens!

I completely forgot to describe myself.

Personally, I really like it when I get dirty.
One fantasy would be to be a target like in the films, where others pay to throw cakes at you, every hit is an experience.
I would also love to be used as a slave.
I don't find defiling others all that appealing.

I always like to get messy. I'm happy to mess someone up as well, or they can stay clean if they prefer.

I do like to be messed up, preferably by surprise. I've yet to get a proper surprise pie in the face, either because I have to set it up, or the person who is trying to do it isn't too good at being sneaky. (so for any of you reading this, should we ever meet, I'd love for you to pull that off and let me have a pie by surprise!)

I've worked hard to eliminate things from my bucket list. I still have a few items that I'd need access to a farm for that I haven't done yet, but I've managed to try 98% of the things I've come up with.

It's always sexual for me, and so far I've only engaged in it solo. If I get messy, orgasm is always the goal. If I watch videos, sometimes it's edging.

It's funny because it didn't start that way. When I first accepted this fetish and learned of this community, I was PURELY a spectator. I could never imagine actually getting messy for real. I've just opened up a lot over the years and sacrificed a few thousand calories of food to get comfortable with myself. 4 years ago I would've said there's a negative % chance I'd EVER have a real profile pic on this site. (Good thing our hobby also has a way to censor faces haha!)

Now, smashing dessert in my face is one of my favorite things in life.

I have fulfilled a lot of my fantasies, but a few remain.