I noticed that some users on this site meet with each other IRL to do a gunge scene. This idea has always turned me on, and I want to do this myself one day. However, I would lie to know more about this concept before I do it.
When you meet with someone, do you get to know them before meeting IRL or do you just do it spongtanoiuslu once you ask? What is the ideal limit to how far you should go? Where do you stay once you get to their place? At their house? At a hotel? How can you ensure that you are staying with a trustworthy person?

I've never met someone from here for the purpose of having a season, but I would recommend meeting ahead of time, first. As far as limits go, discuss them with the other person. Some have zero interest in mixing sexual activity and wam, so you don't want to go in not knowing what they're expecting. And vice versa.

I would treat meeting someone like you would nay other date. Be smart and protect yourself. Meet up in a public space to give you time to determine whether or not the other person is an axe murderer or not. Be mindful.

I have met one person on here, but she was a producer so while it's a little different, the concept is the same.

We chatted on here and she decided I was trustworthy enough to meet up. We did meet at her house but she had a chaperone, this would be similar to first meeting in a public place (cafe, town centre). From there we chatted, built trust (as that takes time, you can't know straight away) and moved onto having a session.

Limits, what you are going to do etc are all details and can be discussed at anytime; email, first meeting, on the day you do it! as it the logistics of where to stay.

Trust: that's a personal thing built by both of you, but I would strongly suggest a safe public meeting first and every time after until you both feel good enough with each other, or not.

Basically it's no difference from any kind of dating, just with more cleaning up and the foodplay has a different kid of meaning.

Good luck.

Personally, I think ax murderers get too much airtime. I've met at least 7 people who have come to play in my swamp or my clay pit. Ax murderers are the least of my worries. It's more likely that someone will take advantage of your good nature to goad you into doing things you said you wouldn't do, or take advantage of your hospitality.
On the other hand, some people are lots of fun and they'll even buy you dinner after a hard day in the swamp.
Fetish people are often socially awkward; especially when they're exposing their tender underbelly. You should expect that many of the people you meet will not be social butterflies. They don't mean any harm, but you should take steps to make your expectations and limits crystal clear, be firm about your boundaries, and don't put yourself in a situation where you are paying for everything and getting stuck with the mess.
Finally, don't expect everyone to do what they say they are going to do. If you can't afford to pay for something yourself, get them to pitch in before you lay down your cash. Make it clear that if they don't hold up their end of the deal, it will be the last time you play together, but plan on cleaning everything up, yourself.
I'm sure I missed something, but I have both tied up my guests and been tied up by some of them. Combined with deep mud, that is some dangerous stuff. Nothing bad has happened to me, and nobody has produced an ax out of their underwear.

p.s. My guests are probably more afraid of me than I of them. I generally carry a machete and/or a big knife when I'm going into the field. It could just be that the ax murderers were on their best behavior around me.

I mean that's like going to the garage with a wrench. You just wouldn't go without one. Knives are survival tools and all the more useful when you go out in the woods and the like.

To be on track to the topic though, I've met quite a few people from here. Even before the big Vegas trip. I think the best way to go about it is to make some connections on here first. Get on a first name basis and see if you're remotely close. If so, when you're both comfortable arrange a public meet up first. Go get drinks, lunch etc. actually HANG OUT and see if you can tolerate each other.

Go from there. I say that because people want to get messy for a lot of reasons, but it generally tends to be sexually charged.

Treat it like any relationship, friends, lovers, etc. If you're going to do something that makes you feel open and/or vulnerable then you damn sure better trust them.

But yeah, in my dealings I haven't met anyone so far that is an asshole. Generally I find we are just like any other average person, maybe some of us like myself are a bit socially awkward. But I mean that comes with the territory, we aren't talking about the weather, or work, we're talking about something we hold as a fetish, paraphilia, or at least strong unusual fascination.

BTW, hi my name's Jason, nice to meet you! :dunce: