I can tell from a poll 10 days ago that many of you are in a messy relationship.
Now my question is: Where did you get to know your partner?

Was it the UMD? The Internet in general? Or was it just coincidence - at shopping, party etc.

Feel free to talk about it. Im happy to read storys as well as catchwords.

Thanks in advance!

Hey Thakos,
I was introduced to my girl through the wife of a co-worker. After being together for about 4 months I told her I wanted to use chocolate and cream, but a "little more" than she might expect. She was into trying it, but once the day came she didn't really enjoy it. She knows how much I enjoy it and is more than happy to indulge me every couple of months. Sometimes she'll jump in with me and sometimes she'll dish it out.

So she belongs to the type who didnt know about his fetish.
I assume that women in general take a little longer to discover their (wam)-fetish.
I heard about a few stories where the man had to "teach" them their affectation by doing that what youve done to your partner.

And your case is one confirmation more

Sorry if this is a bit long but Messmaster actually told me the other day that I should write something about finding a sploshing partner. He and I go all the way back to the early days of the UMD. Ah, memories...

To the original poster's question, Janet and I met on a non-fetish related dating site called OKCupid. Since sploshing is a big interest of mine, I always bring it up when a relationship starts to turn physical. When Janet and I were still in the trading emails phase of the online dating thing, she had mentioned her love of Vaudeville, burlesque and Lucille Ball so I figured she already knew about slapstick comedy. She was also vaguely familiar with the idea of sploshing from some Litrotica.com stories she had read. I showed her some Topgunge and Allwam videos to give her a sense of what I like. Janet was game to try it and we have been having fun with it ever since! She is more into the feel and textures of the mess where as I am more interested in how it looks on her clothes and body. Over the winter we have been having fun bouncing new sploshing ideas back and forth to figure out some stuff to try in the spring

On a side note since we are getting into the subject of dating, I have talked to a few people on here that weren't familiar with the concept of GGG. GGG is a term coined by Dan Savage and stands for Good, Giving, and Game. More specifically: good in bed, giving equal time and equal pleasure, and game for anythingwithin reason. These are great traits to look for when you are trying to find a sploshing partner. Many women are unfamiliar with the fetish so the third G is very important. But keep in mind the second G, she has desires too! The better you fulfill hers, the more likely she is to indulge yours. And back to the third G, she may be bringing her own kinks to the table so be open to exploring hers as well

-JD

It's a funny one this. I speak from experience, having dated a few wammers, it was fun, but when you took it out of the relationship, it became mundane. Currently i'm having a lot of fun with new girlfriend, who loves it as a one off/special occasion type thing. This works for me!

You don't need to go looking for someone that already likes it, not by a long shot.

People are turned on by doing stuff that turns their partner on... it's not rocket science, it's just presentation.

I meet my husband while we were both drunk at a halloween party at college. We made out for a bit then I told him I made weird fetish porn and a few months later he told me he wanted to marry me.

He's not into any of my kinks but will get messy with me every now and then.

Been with my current lady for four months.We are a POF success story She did try some pie play,but it wasn't her thing. I'm cool with that, at least she gave it a shot.

Pie Princess and I have a similar story to Janet and JD. We met on line went out had fun, starting taking it to the next level, suggested we use whip cream, that's when I told her about wam. She was willing to try it and lucky for me she's hooked so much so she has her own profile with pics.

My girlfriend said she was going to surprise me this Saturday for my birthday...in the GOOD way ...I asked her for a hint, and she told me to make sure I had some sweet stuff around the house.

Hoping to get some pics..she's a squirter, too, so this has the making to be something incredible Hoping to turn her on to it.

Sounds great! Have fun!

Norman

Firstly, I LOVE this thread so much!!
It is so amazing and encouraging to see success stories about relationships in this forum. Sometimes I think a lot of us feel particularly lonely and unhopeful for our own love lives. So reading these is just heart warming!

Janet and JD, I think you are spot on! If something is of great significance in your life, then it should be listed on your interests/hobbies on dating sites. Being open about stuff like that is really, really important if you want to meet someone who can fullfil your needs.

Leila, that is so awesome that your husband was so into the idea! and I have experienced situations similar to that too...

I go on dates now and then, try to remember that I am still a human being and try not to let my hymen grow back. and I always tell men straight away what I do AND that it's my passion so nothing they can do will make me stop. Ask the ex! and nearly 100% of them are really excited and want to try it out! The last guy I dated (more like casual ses than dating) really wanted to make videos, but with actual sex. He mentioned messy blow jobs and threesomes. I think he was the most enthusiastic guy I've met.... But he's also 9 years younger than me at a mere 24!!! Don't judge!

I'm still single, but I am happy and I will continue to tell men about sploshing and maybe I'll meet my ultimate partner in slime someday!

Jessie xx
www.messy-jessie.com

According to the comic strip xkcd, it is not creepy to date someone younger than you if they're at least half your age plus seven (x/2+7):

24 + 9 = 33
33/2 = 16.5
16.5 + 7 = 23.5 < 24

So you're good!

i would have signed over my paycheck to see that, dear Jess.

I started out as friends with my significant other (who is also my camera man and wam partner) and we already known each other for years. He and I were sort of weird friends so we already knew a lot about each other's fetishes, which they had gotten to try out, which one's they were curious about, and what ones we felt were too extreme. The main thing that started the conversation was this fetish calender he was making. I was curious which one's he was showing were his interests. It became an, "I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours" situation and opened up a two way dialog about our sexual interests and fetishes.

When we finally started dating we already knew some of the things that the other person liked and were willing to try some of them out together when things finally got physical. It's a little weird getting inmate with a long time friend. So we never really "came out" with our fetishes, we just always kind of knew the weird stuff about the other person. We definitely magnified and intensified each other's fetishes, and by being willing to try things the other is interested in, we now share almost all of our kinks.

I gently introduced the concept of getting messy with my partner and now she loves it!

Started off with taking a bottle of chocolate sauce in the shower to test the waters, then came clean about how I prefer it to be - shall we say - in greater quantities. She was eager to give it a go and now loves to get involved! I'd say she enjoys the fact that I'm turned on, more than anything else, but she does love the feel of the substances as well.

She definitely enjoys being more dominant with it too, and since I'm happy to be on the receiving end (although usually get my own back) it's a match made in heaven!

The UMD brought me and mine together - thank you MessMaster :notworthy:

Be fair Happy, I realised those glasses didnt suit me and have changed them since that was taken