Hi there! I rarely post on here but have enjoyed the amazing content that everyone brings to this place for so many years. I wanted to touch on a subject I have seen on here a few times.

All my relationships I have ever had, I've been honest about my love for the WAM fetish. The reactions have been varied but never cruel and it never ended in my partner deciding to end a relationship because of the fetish.

I have been seeing a woman recently who is beautiful inside and out. She makes me smile just by me thinking of her. When she is not around, I miss her. Tonight, we were texting and I mentioned jokingly about some of the "weird" things that turn me on. She immediately was intrigued and called me on the spot to inquire more. I started by telling her how turned on I get when a woman gets soaking wet in her clothes. This woman I am dating either always wears tight black leggings or jeans which would look amazing soaking wet. Without missing a beat, she says "I would do that for you." She knew I said I had a couple of fetishes so she wanted to know the other but I needed to go due to a meeting was suppose to start (i'm working from home) and I would talk to her later. She admitted she had a "weird" fetish too.

She couldn't wait for me to call her back so she called me and wanted to know what my other fetish was. Even though I believe we should be proud of our unique fetishes like this that are harmless, I have to admit I get nervous when I bring it up. So, I took a breath and simply said "I get turned on when a women gets a pie in her face. It's been with me my whole life and while there is an element of humiliation, it is not meant to demean my partner. It doesn't take away their beauty but accentuates it." Once again, she simply said, "I'll do that with you. You can put pies in my face." I even went as far as to say (to put her at rest), I would never do this unless we are in agreement when it will happen. I would never surprise pie you so you don't have to worry if we go to Baker's Square for lunch,to add some humor. Much to my surprise she told me, she likes the idea of being surprised with a pie in her face and that would be a turn on for her. Wow!

Now, you may think I am writing this to boast.....and perhaps little part of me is doing that! One thing I have seen through the years is people on here who are afraid to tell their significant others about their fetish. It's easier said than done but if you are in a relationship and you haven't let your loved one in on what turns you on, you are missing out! Yes, it's possible they may not want to do it. My last girlfriend did not want to get a pie in the face but she showered in her clothes with me. It's OK! At least they know and could possibly change their minds in the future.All my partners wanted to know what turns me on. For me, in some ways, it's not so much wanted to do the fetish but letting my partner know what my fetishes are. I needed to explain to her what turns me on besides just her and let me tell you, she really turns me on!

A happy side effect to this is that my girlfriend who I told tonight I wanted to pie her, she thought she had a "weird" fetish and because I opened up to her, she felt safe to open up to me and tell me hers. It wasn't weird and I can't wait to do it with her. Maybe your partner has a fetish they were afraid to share to you?

To make a long story long I am posting this because I know some of you are unhappy about not being able to share with your partner a fetish that is somewhat important to you and I hope everyone who feels that way doesn't look at this as a "weird fetish" but rather another fun angle to be close to your partner and decide to share what turns you on with them.

Sounds like you are very infatuated with this woman, and you two are sexually compatible or at least are very open minded to explore each other's desires. Inspiring, thank you for sharing! I'm excited for you and hope it continues to go well! Happy pieing!

Hey no problem, you should boast!

Great post my dude. And it sounds like you knew how to bring it up to her by making it ABOUT HER. I think that's missed a lot.

That's fucking awesome. I wish everyone would post when this happens, because it would be great if younger people didn't have to go through the years of hiding who they are and what they like out of fear of judgement.

I, too, have had several relationships over the years where I asked my partner to let me pie her, and while a couple of my partners declined to get their faces or hair messy (but it didn't stop us from having some fun!), the majority happily engaged and gladly received pies. Some of my partners laughed during the messy play and a few of them moaned in excitement because it turned them on. A couple of them really played it up for me -- one pretending to be horrified by the thought of getting pied, then acting humiliated, then acting like she wanted more, and another pretending that getting pied was bringing her to climax -- and both just laughed after I came and asked if they'd "done it right."

The bottom line is, our fetish is harmless and most people have no problem getting whipped cream, chocolate, etc. on their face & body if it's gonna excite their partner. I mean, I'd do it. If you knew that letting your partner just smear a few pies in your face during sex was gonna bring her to a powerful orgasm, why the hell would you say "no"?

My message to anyone still hiding it: if you have a partner who's already into having sex with you, just bring it up. The worst thing that could happen is them saying something like, "OK, but maybe not on my face." But that will NOT end things. And odds are HEAVILY in your favour that your partner will at least try it. And if you make it fun and arousing for both of you, it doesn't have to be a one-off.

No, there are FAR worse things than can happen. But then again, not everyone is locked in a loving and equal marriage/relationship. And many of those people have legitimate reasons for not breaking it off.

I think I remember a story where when one person opened up to his wife she thought he was some sort of despot and filed for divorce. That may or may not be actually true, but not every partner is GGG when it comes to sex.

My own story is my exwife absolutely ABHORRED the experience and it kind of scarred them (physically too as we shortly found afterwards they have such bad Coeliac disease that touching things with gluten on their bare skin can cause rashes like poison ivy. So you can imagine what fucking in it did). But then there were other forces at play than just WAM that scarred them sexually, such as being asexual but not really knowing it for years. They hated sex, but kept doing it not wanting to hurt me, and resolved their fate to hoping that one day it wouldn't physically hurt them or they would maybe even start to like it.

So yeah, long story short, there's always something worse that can happen.

Gregbert -

I love this story! Thank you for sharing.

You and your partner seem like excellent communicators. Honesty is so important. Sexual chemistry and compatibility is hard to find. Being open is the right approach.

I hope you two are GGG with each other and treat each other with care in and out of the bedroom.

I wrote a lengthy post on this once, and I wish I had kept a copy. I'll see if I can rewrite it. It was about how to present a fetish to someone. The key, though, is to make sure you communicate it's more about her than the thing. It's about her being pied or slimed, otherwise she'll get the feeling it could be anyone and you would be just as happy, and nobody wants that feeling in a sexual relationship. Make her feel as special as she is.