So, I'm a long time lurker on here and have always just kept this fetish side of me extremely private and have always just felt very ashamed and embarrassed by it. I thought I'd finally share my recent happy story of partner participation!
I know everyone has their thing, but at times I've thought to myself "why this one?", despite being something that's been part of me for a very long time. I blame myself for being young enough to grow up watching the classics here in the UK (NHP, and the rest!) and thus became something that I would shy away from watching with others and would get increasingly uncomfortable even hearing other people mention the word Gunge.
In all of my previous relationships I don't think I ever mentioned or alluded to any WAM. I think at the very most was the mention of maybe using chocolate sauce, and that was it. Keeping it to myself didn't really cause any issues in those relationships so I didn't worry too much about it.
Luckily, for me, I've never been one who craves to either be gunged or have a solo messy session, so I've never had that feeling of repression to that level, which I can imagine other members on here have experienced. Mine has always been more as a quiet spectator, but with the hope that I'd wind up with someone where it could happen naturally and go from there, or even just talking about it all without the crippling shame.
Well, thankfully it's a happier story from here on in! My fiancé and I have been together 8 years, and what gave me a slight bit of hope was nearer the beginning of our relationship, I don't know how it came about but she mentioned that she had actually been gunged before, naturally that stuck in my mind and over the course of our relationship, little mentions of it here and there and even using chocolate spread one time in a moment of supreme confidence, which luckily she enjoyed and would even allude to it now and again afterwards. Over the years I learnt she wasn't afraid to try things and never made me feel bad about anything and figured that at some point, I could take things a bit further. That and she has a great sense of humour and is naturally quite silly and clumsy
Fast forward to about maybe 6 months ago now, in another moment of supreme confidence, I just said there was something I really wanted to try and grabbed a shaving foam can that was nearby. With no objections and some nervous giggles, I just proceeded to spray it over her chest whilst she giggled away and even played with it herself. So, I think you can all imagine where it went next and it did, with just more giggles and let's just say by the end that we both enjoyed it!
We've since used shaving foam fairly often and tease each other about it often, she's knows the consequences of teasing too much and she doesn't care, she even asks for it
I've even managed to bring up the word Gunge to her without feeling horrified, and she just giggles and teases back, and that to me has been the biggest relief in a way. Jokes about going on hotel and taking some with us, even little jokes about finding a proper gunge tank, which where we live I know of a few nearby
So, yeah, that's my little bit of good news and is a massive relief to even write all of this. I still have the odd moment where I don't know if I need to hold back a bit or worry what she thinks, but as she's told me, she wouldn't be doing any of it if she wasn't enjoying it.
Glad it's working out! My wifie let me get her messy in our 4/5th date and she's really grown into how much she lets me play! (And post some of the messy play on here) and I never would have guessed when we first started talking she'd let me try this out with her
Love you, too
