Please don't mind the name of this account! For awhile, this has been my "roaming around" account. I might use this account for more than that once I crawl out of my shell a bit more. lol. I'm also not entirely sure if this is the right forum for this. If not, then I'll be happy to be led to the appropriate forum for this post.

So, as I just mentioned, I've been secretly roaming around this site for the past couple of years, often downloading and looking over a lot of content here. I'm in my early 20's, and I've always had this particular fetish since I was a kid.

Recently, I've thought about being more open to this website. However, being one who's only done one official solo session (which honestly kinda sucked due to bad use of substances), I must ask a few questions. These include:

1. What should be the best substance to start with? Personally, I prefer a good thick slimy substance, though I am open for pies, as well.

2. As someone who still currently lives with his parents, how should I go about my own future sessions? The only reason I was able to do said first session was because I was in a solo trip in a faraway area around a year ago. Would there be any other way of doing a solo? I'm not desperate for another session, and it's not the end of the world if future solo vacations for myself are my only option.

3. How should I approach physical meetups offline? What safety precautions should I take if I were to meet with someone?

4. There's actually a few particular members here that I wouldn't mind meeting up with one day. Would this be OK, or should I be more open minded and meet up with other people here on this site beyond the chosen few?


BTW, I am well aware that this site is more than a personnel site. lol. These last few questions just happen to revolve around meetups since they're a big step up from just meeting someone online.


5. This might be a very dumb question: Do meetups here often involve sexual intercourse?

6. As someone who also loves suit/uniform wam, how should I go about using any suits, dress shoes, etc,. for a session? I'd hate to be super wasteful in both materials and money. Should I go and find some on eBay or in Goodwill? What's the best way to clean them up and, potentially, use them beyond sessions (if possible)? What do suit/uniform wammers often use them for once they're finished? Is there a better way of disposing them beyond just throwing them in the garbage (if they're completely trashed, of course)?

7. How are most non-solo sessions set up in general? Do people often have specific plans that are followed through throughout the session, or do are they often "go with the flow" kind of deals?

These are the questions I have so far. I cannot wait to do more solo sessions and potentially meet others and start non-solo sessions, as well!

Can't really advise on the meetup side as that's something I've never done, but regarding doing it:

It's a good idea to have separate outfits for getting messy in, as that way it doesn't cause any harm if something does get stained or damaged. Buying from charity shops is a good idea, as that way you're not wasting new things, plus the money you spend is going to a good cause. Most of the outfits you'll see our girls in have come from charity shops, we've spent thousands on outfits over the years, and in doing so we've benefited Cats Protection, the RSPCA, Cancer Research, the PDSA, The British Heart Foundation, MIND, Age UK, Shelter, and dozens of random local hospices that have shops in areas we've visited.

As for cleaning them up, we completely ignore the labels and wash everything on the standard 40 degree wash with loads of detergent. Usually after a day of custard shoots we'll first rinse everything using the rinse cycle - cold-water only and with the spin cycle turned off. Then we'll do a standard 40 degree wash again with spin turned off and using loads of detergent in both prewash and main wash. Then we do a second standard 40 degree wash but this time with spin left on. Usually that gets everything clean enough to hang up and dry, good as new.

The things that tend not to survice are leather shoes, as those aren't really designed to be washed and while they'll survive a few goes through the machine after that they tend to fall apart. Wellies are much longer lived, as yet we've never destroyed a pair, and trainers / plimsolls / Converse do OK being washed repeatedly too.

Doing it while living at home is tricky. I grew up on a coast so I used to pack a change of clothes on my bike, dress in the outfit I was going to get muddy in, cycle down the coast away from the town and find somewhere secluded to wallow in the mud, then go into the sea to get the worst of it off the clothes, then change into the dry clothes and give the muddy ones another washout in the sea (I'd be wearing wellies so my feet would stay dry). You need a decent plastic bag to put the muddy clothes in to take home, and then just stick them through the washing machine when everyone else is out.

1. Pudding/custard It's thick, it's slimy, it's easy to get, and if you're worried about the smell use lemon when you clean.

2. Do you have your own bathroom? Do you ever have the home alone? Not to hard to make a mess in the shower and wash it down the drain depending on what you use, see #1.

3. With equal parts excitement and caution. Build a rapport, talk for awhile, meet somewhere public first. Treat it like a date.

4. See number 3. Reach out to the people that interest you, but realize and accept that the feeling may not be mutual. Also consider that some people may be more open to meeting than others. Communicate, and be open to new experiences.

5. I can't speak for anyone but myself and the ones I've gone on, but no, not really. Vegas 2018 had lots of things going on in different groups, but for me it was to meet people in person I haven't before, and to see old friends. But there were some messy shenanagans going on. Philly last July was pretty much a friends night out too. Meet, hang out chill.

6. ::shrug:: I dunno man, I would think any suit is pretty much destroyed, but I'll defer to those with more experience. I imagine it largely differs depending on what you use.

7. That depends on the people involved. Think outside of WAM for a minute. Some people have throw parties that are very structured, while other people are more spontaneous.

Other than that, welcome, have fun, be yourself, but be respectful.

Welcome, and hoping your stay on UMD will be a great one! Some thoughts on your questions:

3) Not having a profile photo for privacy reasons is entirely okay, but if you're going to meet up with someone you should probably exchange photos first. And as someone said in another thread, re: her general rules for meet-ups/sessions, if the individual doesn't match the photo, they've already deceived you, so at that point you're free to bail and it would be highly advised to do so.
Beyond that, follow the general rules for meeting up with folks from the Interwebs: meet in a public place and if you have any reservations, you don't have to "go off alone" with that person. Your safety matters!

5) They certainly don't have to! Last summer I met up with a former UMDer in the county park for a purely platonic pie fight, just cracking up like two immature nerds and having the time of our lives, then scrubbing down the park pavilion so as to not leave any trace. (That would've made a precious video, as I was cranking water from the pump and taking a fully-clothed, ducked-down shower under it while he was looking out for any cops.) Make your expectations and limits known ahead of time; you don't owe anyone anything you're not comfortable with.

6) DungeonMasterOne already answered this far better than I could've, but I heartily second his idea to buy from charities and thrifts; you'll be supporting some great ministries. Folks tend to donate the best vintage clothing to church rummage sales! Wash your clothes right away and line-dry them if there's any lingering odor; you don't want to "bake in" any odor while heat-drying them. I'm the not-so-proud owner of a vintage denim jacket that used to be my daily wear but now sorta reeks...darn dairy-based products. Come Spring, Imma hang it outside in the shade for a week and then wash it again and hope for the best.

Your mileage may vary when it comes to uniforms, but I lucked out and found a vintage security-guard shirt at a church sale. It'll be a dark day before I do anything to actually harm it, out of respect for the unknown guy who no doubt wore it on his day job and possibly risked his life, but I did a cosplay ice-bucket video wearing it a few years back. That said, the stuff you guys come up with when it comes to uniforms and suits...*nosebleeds and WAM fiction writing commences...*

If you do happen to get a stain on a shirt, collared shirts always look great under sweaters (jumpers in the UK) and your clothes could live on in this fashion.

7) Yes, by all means you need a plan on this. If you intend to meet up with someone, you need to decide:
- Where you're going to meet up. Motel room? Someone's home?
- What messy supplies are you okay with? Sweet? Savory? Any limitations if you're a vegetarian or vegan?
- Who will do the clean-up and will provide any needed tarps, buckets, etc.?
- Who will pay for the aforementioned?
- How much contact are you down with? Maria/Mypierogative is a total hero of mine on here, and she has her "limits" clearly spelled out on her profile/sessions info page, such as how much touching is okay. From reading other boards, this is something that should be agreed upon ahead of time.