So I'm curious about meeting for mess, men or women not fussed anyone done it before? I'm 24 so I'm worried about safety, you know murder ect, don't want any of that

Anyone got advice or want to meet?

Cheers ^_^

Definitely talk a lot before actually meeting in person. I usually start with a site like this, then progress to e-mail, then texting and/or a phone call.

Consider how you met the person--I feel a lot more comfortable meeting someone who's been an active member on here for years than I would some stranger from a hook-up site.

Use your common sense. And if something doesn't feel right, don't be afraid to walk away. At the same time, don't be a tease and commit to meeting (and have the person buy supplies) if you really have no intention of doing it.

I've gotten together with 4 or 5 guys from this site over the years and have had some great messy times! Hope you have just as much luck!

Safe as meeting a stranger from any other dating site, I guess.

Me, personally, I like to take it a bit slow...I've put several dozen pics in my profile of different experiences and things I like - hopefully, the other person has, too - so you can get a general feel of what they are into. If it seems interesting, maybe send out a friend request and/or an email. It's always great to chat with others - see what they are in to and build somewhat of a mutual friendship.

Then, (if that next step ever comes) - possibly consider meeting someplace public for a drink / bite to eat. No expectations of WAM or anything else at that point, just a friendly meet. Then if it goes further, either take it from there directly or make plans for a WAM session based on what suits you.

I guess those general guidelines would still apply if travel is involved. I travel quite a bit anyway, and would consider doing it for WAM, but would probably want to chat / prearrange a casual meet, then go from there vs the "I'm in town for the night, XYZ Hotel, Room 123...come and get ya some".

If you get someone with no pics, one or two word emails, urgent requests to meet, etc - may still be nothing, but just not my cup-o-tea.

Either way, get into it gradually, build trust, comfort, friendship, and go from there!

I've never had any real problems apart from occasional no-shows. The further someone has to travel and the younger the guy is, the more likely they are to no-show in my experience. And it will be a guy...forget about meeting a female like this, it is not going to happen (unless it's a paid-for session).

You can request pictures, but don't insist. There are many reliable people out there who do not send out pics. I'm afraid there are too many 'pic collectors' about. If you want to see what you are getting, a pre-meet in person is a much better approach.

You might also want to try attending a splunch or two where you can meet other sploshers in a social context without having to hook up with randoms off the web.

Decide whether you want to host (the session) or travel. If you can host you will be more popular!

To host you ideally need your own place or to know for sure that your flatmates etc will be well away. If hosting I strongly recommend that you meet the person a few days beforehand for a chat/drink etc in a pub or cafe somewhere close to where the session will be. In my experience if they show up for the pre-meet they will show up for the session.

If travelling, then I guess its up to you how far you are willing to travel and risk the disappointment that the guy is a no-show.

Good luck!

This is sensible. Arousal, and the desire to do something about it, makes people do stupid, stupid things. Indeed, horniness is the root(kit) cause of at least 50% of all malware infections, which is why smart employers have recognized the value of making a selection of (carefully vetted) pornography available to their employees at all times.

Remember, "stranger danger" is not an exclusively female concern. Women should be very cautious when it comes to meetings, etc. If you encounter a woman who *isn't* cautious, she's either incredibly naive (this really does happen) or she isn't who she says she is.

I've met up with between 30 and 40 people for messy activities within the last nine years or so. I did not murder any of them, and they did not murder me. They all turned out to be more or less who they claimed to be: some didn't look much like their photos (in both good and bad ways), and some were obviously (and clumsily) using fake names, but that's what you get if you look for WAM partners online.

I'm happy to report, based on personal experience, that it can and does happen

A rarity, yes. Impossible, no.

Was this meeting a couple or a single guy? (your profile refers to 'we')

The 'can and does happen' was referring to meeting girls (your quote refers to guys)