I prefer doing the sploshing but don't really mind receiving as well. Mel is my "not really willing" receiver.
Unfortunately for Mel, because I know she doesn't particularly enjoy it then I'm spurred on to give her the most humiliating trashing I possibly can, which she takes like a trouper.
I'm always trying to think up ways to totally destroy her more than the previous session. Last session I included about 10 litres of thick barbecue sauce and several litres of curry sauce, which she said "smelled awful"

Mostly a watcher at this point. I love receiving, but just getting messy on my own doesn't do it anymore, I need a partner.

I prefer to not get messy but my wife wants to do some mess to me at the end so I can't say no. I do get Turned on a little but not like when I was younger I think I liked getting messy back then but I think over time from waming with different girlfriends and some friend with benefits it changed.
In fair ness I used to only like pies and some slime applied to my target and it was more sensual and silly and flirty but now I feel like my wife needs super gross slime and super messy pies. Savory used to turn me off same w the super gross messes but now my wife who is a champ at taking the mess lets me do my thing to her.
And I do love using pie flavors she hates or gunge concoctions she also squirms from (she did say I can't use pumpkin or peanut butter any more in the slop pours, but hasn't said anything yet about yams and sweet potatoes mixed in to the batter)

It looks like being on the receiving end, in one way or another, is the way forward! Thanks so much, everyone, for sharing your thoughts--it's been awesome hearing all the different ways you get involved in the mess!

Now, to expand on that, here's one for all you balanced sploshers--those who love giving just as much as receiving! How does it usually play out in your world?

The scene is set: tarps are down, all the supplies are ready, and a chair (or maybe even two) is waiting in position. Everything's prepped and primed for some messy fun!

So, what's your ideal fantasy scenario? Do you:

Set the stage for your partner:
You've prepared the sploshing, they take the seat first, but halfway through they turn the tables and get their revenge?

Let them take the lead:
Your partner kicks things off, with you in the hot seat first, but you flip the script later on?

Go all-in on suspense:
One of you takes the full treatment, but the revenge is saved for another day.

Dive into mutual mayhem:
Two chairs, tit-for-tat escalation, until every last bit of mess has been gleefully used up?


Do you prefer one of these dynamics, or does it all depend on the mood of the day? Are there any other fun variations you'd throw into the mix?

I've always enjoyed seeing girls getting wet and messy, but when I was single I also got a lot of pleasure from "self-wamming". Since I've had a partner to mess up, though, it's trashing her that's definitely been my preferred option. I don't stay clean, if for no other reason than because sessions invariably end with sex, and it's not possible to have sex with a totally mess covered woman and stay clean yourself(!), but getting her messy is the main thing that excites me these days.

There's never been a chair, there's only been a tarp once (on the bed!), and for non-mud messy, it's been in a tub or bed or in front of the fireplace (one cold winter morning), and... the wamming itself has been... it's kind of more like kissing or sex. Sometimes one leads, sometimes the other does; sometimes one is teasing the other, sometimes it's just both together.

Mud is kind of the same, although outside.

It usually depends on the day sometimes I prefer to jump into mutual mayhem, and sometimes it's one of the first two options. For my ideal fantasy though, I'd like to start out with letting them take the lead, preferably with me tied to the chair or bound up, before escaping and tuning the tables.

The other variation I love is when who gets what mess is determined either at by playing a two, or more I'd love to get messy with multiple people, player game, like trivia, RPS, etc. and getting it every time someone loses the turn/gets an answer wrong. After a predetermined number of losses the ultimate loser gets the punishment of all the remaining mess and a bucket filled with all of the slops from the session.

Most of my wet and/or messy outings have been solo affairs. However, some years ago I plucked up courage and wrote to the late, lamented Bill Shipton - of 'Splosh magazine fame - asking him whether he ever held sessions for cross-dressers. It was one of the most significant communications of my life, as it led to my visiting him at his St Leonard's studio and getting comprehensively trashed - (as the photo record of the occasion - posted here - shows).

It was the thrill of being totally under his control, and never knowing what he was going to do to me next, that convinced me I am a 'receiver' rather than a 'giver'.

Amusingly, i wrote a little blog post this morning touching on anticipation and the unknown side of play.

Thinking back to my first Sploshagirl session many moons ago, there was Scarlett, sat there surrounded by oodles of mess and there was I, in true Gemini fashion, struggling to decide what to do! You really don't want to use up play time debating what to use where! Then again, you don't really want to go all crazy and use it all in a few minutes!

Since then, sessions have involved more planning, on a few occassions, the girl has been in charge initially (which is certainly better than the indicisive issue above) Gunge wrestling sessions are equally simple for the who goes first front - you might be allowed to pour gunge over her, but chances are you'll be the one face down in it! For the more tit for tat sessions, games of chance worked well giving a simple way into messing and being messed. Strange though, however the game went, it always seemed to be me first into the gunge tank!

The odd thing I've done on a more amatuar level tended to be tailored around the guest's ambitions. It helps to have these as I have had someone go into sub space, so not communicating which makes it tricky to know whether to nudge them further down their list, keep doing what they seemed to enjoy, or ease back (or quietly slip away when they find another way to amuse themself!) When she rejoined me in the room, she did return the messing, although I think tit for tat would have been better but there wasn't the space and it probably wouldn't have worked well given her mid-mess excursion!

As for the normal scenario these days, well it tends to be whatever I've landed in a game and things tend to need a bit of organising to get the order right and not forget anything. Other than that, it's more a case of simplicity and ease of capturing and getting through it. Doing things yourself means you're unlikely to tease and prolong the scene. The way I'm racking the forfeits up just now, a travelling splosher who'd stop off and dish out the mess would be quite handy!

As for the ideal scenario, well crucially, someone else does all the prep and cleaning! the tit for tat games getting slowl messy and the wrestling were both tremendous fun.

I'm sorry I missed the poll. Great question.

Majority of the time I love seeing a girl getting gunged / messy.
Knicker Filling is a must .

I'm personally more into seeing reluctant sploshers. "I don't want to be gunged, I got my hair done" "please don't gunge me" style by Gunge Girls was amazing! It's "gentle" reluctance, for lack of a better word. Repeating the word "gunge" as it's a major turn on.

Depending on my mood I do also enjoy wamdom. 'Lisa Messing You in PVC' is one of my favourites. She plays the dom so well! "ewww gross"

For me personally, the tit for tat doesn't do it for me. I know a lot of people love it and more power to them I find the humiliation side of it is much stronger when the other person is clean. However, I do enjoy when the person giving it gets gunged at the end or in another video as a payback

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