wamajama said:Fetishism is fun and stimulating, at times, but unnecessary, and too easily expressed (in the mind); It's meaning is simple, obvious. Shallow.
I think there's a lot of truth to the idea that a kink is necessarily shallow. But it can be harder to say that when it comes to fetishes, because fetishes are by definition necessary for one particular kind of intimacy.
Ultimately it depends on how you much meaning you find in your sexual preferences. In my own case, I tend to think of the pie-in-the-face fetish as a kind of shibboleth for anti-narcissists. So... sometimes it's complicated. *shrug*
Estragon said: Well, I will second everything others have said about it being related to lack of intimacy.
I would also say depending on exactly what you mean, if this occurs after orgasm then you could also have something called Post-coital Tristesse. Basically it is meloncholy that comes about after orgasm and it is little understood aaand also tends to pass pretty quickly.
Not looking to trivialise the debate but the comment about post coital tristess put me in mind of Woody Allen who said something like 'Sex and Death..two of the most significant events in anyone's life..and at least after death you don't feel nauseous"
To the OP...I wish you nothing about happiness and hope you find what you need. Everyone is different. For me, I am single again after the end of my 10 year marriage, but I have never felt happier
I kinda hate to say it, but... maybe ol' Woody feels that way because he was having sex with adults at the time.:footinmouth:
us girls on here, we have a good time. take for example ariel and I. we have a blast. we will sometimes go far out and maybe suck a titty, make out, etc. but we are best friends and we dont want things to get weird. so, even getting messy all the time can lead to feelings of "shit, i just dildo'ed myself (which i dont release those in my store so, i apologize, i offer them, though. lol) *shameless plug* but, even still. having that touching with a mans hands, me being a straight female....i want it. i crave it. I find myself sometimes wishing i had a man there to just hold me down and just give me the mess of a lifetime and feel him pull me around and then rub me down with those big, manly hands! so, everyone does it. it is normal. we do sessions with men (no sexual activity) but it really does help ariel and i feel that "mans touch" when we are all messing eachother up. being straight, but like to "play around" with eachother, women.....we really do want that mans touch sometimes. dont get me wrong. i get myself off wamming A LOT but it is always the same. for anything in this world. you will always want more. you will always wanna go further. you gotta find your boundaries and your happy medium to help keep yourself happy with what you have if that makes any sense at all. i hope it does! i wish we got more private sessions because it is so cool to sit on a dudes lap and just pie the crap out of him while he has his hands wrapped around you. wow! even without any sex involved, it is a beautiful thing and so fulfilling! anyway, love yall, and dude, you are not alone and it is perfectly normal.
Love you, too
