hi everyonhe. i'm hoping for some help please. my partner is into messy but i'm not. he doesn't like to be messy himself but likes it if I am and i'm happy ro let him do this and enjoy it as much as he likes so long as it follwos my conditions whic h i've never actually listed out before but this is what i think they are

- feels non-sexual to me (so no nudity, sexy posing et)c
- keeps me activly involved so i don't get bored (sitting still answering questions is BORING)
- doesn't put me too far out of control over what is happening
- preferably mess is edible (eating helps slow me me getting bored)

i ws wondering if anyone had any ideas over whatg we could do please?

we can use anything that doesn't stain a bath and goes down the drain, and doesn't leave a tel-tale smell (shared house)

so far i've tried skewering balloons of custard, milkshake etc over my head
and played with facepaints and liquidss that glow in ultralvioelkt light because i think glowing thigns are pretty

I like this thread.

Perhaps an obstacle course along the lines of double dare would be fun? Being in a shared house would make that difficult though.

If your partner doesn't mind getting his hands messy, a back massage with warm pudding feels fantastic too.

Kudos to you for being so accommodating to your partner's kink!

thanks for the suggestions and yes, doing an obstacle course in a chared house without anyoen notiving would be diffult! i think thats one we;ll have to remember for a few years until we've found soemtwhere wihtout any possibility of anyone else finding out.

Well there are certainly other games the two of you could play.... dice (one die provides the where and the other provides the what) He roles and you accept the results. So maybe 2:5 would be whipped topping:down your legs.

Maybe spend a day with a 'trigger word'.... each time you say it that is another pie you would receive at the end of the day.

Messy twister? That actually could be fun with a group of friends..... no one has to know its a kink.

I know you said 'non-sexual' but I do wonder if simple food play would work? Many couples bring chocolate sauce or whipping topping into the bedroom. Drizzling a little bit on each other and than licking it off. Its doesn't get as crazy and mess as most sploshers would like.... but it might be an option that suits both of you?

How about a 'spontaneous' food fight?

thanks loads for the further suggestions!

sorry i didn't put it in my first post but one of my conidtions i s
- not in public in any wya
i didn't think to put that one in because it ias also one of my parnters ocnditions too

the dice idea is defintieyl something we'll be looking into thatnk you

triggers words iwll just make me stop takling which is no fun for anynoe
messy twiester doe sof course come under the 'nnot in public in any way" conditino.

Play your cards right, or snap with mess occurring if you guess higher/lower wrong or when you get a pair of cards (snap).

I don't understand the "feels nonsexual to me" (but I understand the no nudity)..since you are indulging your bf's fetish, etc....not to be intrusive, but one assumes that you will likely have sex afterwards (or during) the wam session (?)...or, do you just run off and clean up when he's done messing you up? It's cool that you care enough about your bf to indulge him this way, and it seems that your request to "keep me involved" so you don't get bored means that you don't find it enjoyable (or don't anticipate doing so)...if it's you first time doing this, perhaps during it or after it you will discover some sensual/tactile enjoyment from it (and that will solve the boredom problem).

One note: try to keep the wam materials warm or at room temperature (tricky if using plain old whipped cream)...to cold can put a damper on things fast.

good luck!

thanks for all your suggestiongs so far

yes i have done this esveral times alreayd for him and the only enojyment i can get from it is that he really really ilikes it and it makes him happy, and when we use food i get to eat it as we're going along and it stops me getting too bore.d
that doesn't happen when we not using food thourgh. so I get bored.
except when we did the glow-in-ultravioelt-light one, that was really pretty because i like thigns thatglow in the dark. but he doesn't like taht it was dark for all of it beacuse he couldnt' see me propelr.y.

ok so as for "non-sexual" what i mean is no teasing, posing, stripppng, romantic gestrues etc etc. so like if you took the mess away everything i do i could also do at a family gathering with children and granpartnts present and it not be inapproipiate.