I'm interested to hear if anyone has had a meaningful absence, interregum, interval or interlude away from WAM

For example, a honeymoon period in which their interests were confined to conventional sex

TBH, I'm interested to hear how essential it is to have a partner who accomodates this kink

Has it been an optional extra, for you?

#realtalk

My last break was 2012,when I had massive knee surgery. I spent 6 months living at my parents place,while I did rehab. So I couldn't very well browse thru UMD or messygirl.com on their computer

Not really, no. I've had this fetish since 1977 ish......

I once went a whole year without looking at any WAM on the internet.

It began in late 2003, soon after I stumbled across Phoebe's site. I loved it, but a week or so later my PC caught a virus in the form of a pop-up/homepage I couldn't get rid of, which seemed to have appeared as I was leaving her site one time. I had to get the computer guy in, and muttered what I hoped was a plausible explanation about having ended up somewhere I didn't mean to. He seemed to accept it, but I found the whole experience really embarrassing.

Right, I thought, no more internet WAM for me if that's what happens. And I stuck to it for a year. I didn't give in to temptation until late 2004, when I came across this place. Even then, I held my breath the first couple of times I fired up the computer after having visited UMD, in case that horrible pop-up was back. Of course, it wasn't, and I've been here in one way or another ever since.

I need to give a bit of context. First, I didn't go cold turkey on all WAM - I still had my VHS tapes of GYOB, NHP etc - just the internet variety. Second, I didn't, at the time, need much persuading to log off. I was still quite new to messy sites, and have always (long story) been initially hesitant about anything sexually new. Therefore, I was happy with my tapes from TV shows, as that was just slapstick I was interpreting my way, but not entirely comfortable with websites that bluntly said this is a fetish. For example, I could print pictures from the likes of MessyFun and MessyGirl, rip them up a few days later, and then go back to the sites to start the cycle again. So, I listened to the part of my subconscious that said "See? Told you messy websites were a bad idea" after the virus incident.

The postscript is that by the time I'd been lurking on UMD for a while I'd accepted this new, online part of liking WAM - acceptance is usually the sexual stage after uncertainty - and so was comfortable being here. I couldn't imagine taking a year's break now, as I've no reason to feel it's necessary. The break I did take was a product of specific circumstances.

Even so, it did happen, and sometimes I still can't believe it...a whole year? How did I manage that?

Yeah, once. Originally it was going to be 3-5 years but fortunately it turned out to be only 18 months!

I did step away for a few years when I dated a woman who wasn't really into it. Before smart phones and we lived together in a one room apartment. Privacy was somewhat of a luxury.

On a side note, it would be interesting to see ones own usage history throughout the membership here, but I doubt the data even exists or is kept for a long time.

The only real proper interval I've had from WAM was whilst I was doing my GCSE exams - other than that I've never really had to take an interval away from WAM.

My girlfriend is into mess and relatively the same types of mess. I never actually had the intention of telling any girlfriends about my love of mess and as it turned out it was her than told me and then it just went on from there really. It was never going to be an essential that my partner had to have a love of WAM, however that being said I do count myself lucky to have a partner that shares the love of it.

I randomly stopped for about 2 years abuot 10 years ago. Didn't have the urge and nothing messy turned me on. On the off chance I remembered UMD and went to delete my account, looked in for old times sake and slowly got back into it.

No idea why, might be linked to my greysexuality.

The first year of marriage back in 2005 I went cold for a year. The wife didn't know about it, and I was terrified to bring it up. As things in the marriage were never hot and heavy, I started going back within a year and hiding my internet history.

was that at the pleasure of the president by any chance?

Always turned on by it, but great mud only comes in the summer and my favorite spots only seem to open up every few years - so sort of a natural interval.

Even if I stopped browsing the net, my imagination would fill it in for me. So, in short, nope.