I regularly get asked why I go full clown.

Reason is the fear of going public. Family reaction to someone we know being on Only Fans has put me off.

Has anyone had a negative reaction to going public?

Someone asked me yesterday if I was Female

Yes, I am 100%!

I think it's incredibly sad in the 21st century especially in the UK , in the depth of a financial crises, people can not who they want to be, use whatever skills they, and if someone want to earn extra via only fans, great brilliant.

I'm sorry that you can't feel to go public for fear of what others may think.

I never thought I would post any pics of myself here. Recently I got comfortable enough to post pics disguised with pies! I think that will be the extent of it.

I just keeping thinking of the school run scenario where a fan pops over and says " Patsy loved the salad cream gunging video "

Maybe I'm over reacting. Has any model, especially other females had a negative experience?

I am out to my friends who I trust, and partners etc but not everyone as not everyone needs to know. If people find out I will be honest and then it's up to them how they act from that point on.

The only reason I am not out online is my clients do not need to know about my sex life...as I am a sex/relationship counsellor! But also it can bias opinions on how they act around me and I need them to be fully able to open up.

I think I'm fully out to like 3 people?
Couple people at work know about my other extracurriculars, but that's about it.

Not had any negative responses so far

Tbf I doubt anyone would say anything either as they would likely be too worried about what others would think

I used to be very selective about who I told. Since my divorce, I've been a lot more open with my kink minded friends which has lead to nothing but positive feedback.

It's been a release coming out of the... pantry

Hey Patsy, I went public a year ago with my love of WAM. It wa the best thing I ever did, I love being able to talk and share my experiences and to share my journey. Getting to build friendships has helped me build my confidence and not feel alone & has given me courage to along the way to open up to some friends and family now along the way so it's definitely helps. People are always going to judge and people are always going to say something about something they don't understand and be uneducated at times with it, but you know what that on them do you and be happy! My inbox is always open if you ever need to chat X

A few of my friends know. One of them brought up how she wanted to sell feet pics for some extra cash kinda sarcastically, and I told her to go for it. She's like how would you know?? A short convo later I was showing her one of my messy foot videos and she was super curious to learn more. It was a very fun bonding experience and I was really fortunate to have a friend have a real interest in something I've always been very very self conscious about. Felt good having both of us open up about something most people guard closely.

I had nearly the same experience with a friend. She knew what I was into and asked me out of the blue if there was a market for messy feet vids. I told her, "No... There's two!" because of the crushing crowd

Started posting photos on twitter and UMD earlier this year and nothing happened, the world did not implode, nobody has approached me saying they've seen my gunge pics and I now realise that it's a big fuss about not much.

Mileage might vary depending on what your career is.

I am very Selective with who i tell since i was outed for my kinks and people in some of the non NSFW groups i was in managed to some how find my fetlife page via a google search of my SFW handles even tho i changed my NSFW handles to prevent that link being there and those groups asked their admins to have me removed for no reason. So i have to be careful now.

I started out blurring my pictures or only showing from the back/side and avoided showing my face. Eventually I just said to hell with it and started showing myself. Aside from here I've never shared with anyone. If I was in a relationship, I'd probably let them know about it...but aside from that, I'm not jumping to let people know I'm into getting my hair covered in goo. I'm not really too afraid of anyone finding out, but I don't really feel the need to share either. If someone I know in real life has stumbled across my pics, it's because they were on here, and that means they have the fetish too.

My take is that in an ideal world people should be who they wanna be as long as they're not taking somebody else for a ride.

The difference between, on one hand, people using personas or presenting as a more complete version of "themselves," and on the other hand, a very prominent ex-user who recently skedaddled from the site and created quite a ruckus when doing so, is what I think of as "the intent to deceive." (And that makes the identity verification process tricky but that's a whole nother can of worms.)

So, in that latter case, the problem was that the person manipulated and misled whole sections of the community and shouted down anyone who questioned them.

But for most cases, if you're here, IMHO, be whoever you want to be. As long as nobody is being manipulated, hurt, or dangerously misled, I say lean into whatever identity or persona you feel best fits you, and like minded people will eventually start to come together.

I don't see the problem with keeping it anonymous. And obscuring your face with clown makeup, costumes, wigs, etc, I'd think a lot of us would still think it's great. Sure, you're kind of leading a double life, but depending on your job and the people you work with and what your plans for the future, do you really want all of it out there? And are double lives that bad? Does your grandma really need to know that you swear at other people while you play Call of Duty? Do your rugby pals need to know you have a set of sentimental Hummel figurines?

What you want and enjoy now is not necessarily what you'll want in 5, 20, 40 years. It's easy for some people to say "Have no shame! Do your thang!" But it's your life and you live the consequences, not them. If you happen to be a teacher, or just don't want people to know that "This is my special erotic enjoyment." Yeah. You're entitled to keep as much of it private as you'd like. You just need to be very careful and don't let somebody behind a keyboard push you into something you don't want. What that person wants is not necessarily your own good, nor is it necessarily what others in the community would want either.

It really does all depend on how you feel personally and how those around you will take it. I've always been very open about being into WAM but I had the advantage of an open minded family, and a very small family at that, and equally open minded colleagues, and my social scene is alternative where being open about sexuality and fetishes is more of less normal.

Very different if someone has a large and judgemental family, or is at risk of being sacked if their employer found out, etc.

To echo what others have said, don't let anyone push you into anything you're not comforable with.

My wife and I had a store here and regularly shot videos that included some toplessness. She was working for a high-profile organization here in our small town, and they received a letter in the mail saying that my wife was on 'porn sites' and shouldn't be working there. If they didn't let her go, he'd go to the press. They had no choice but to fire her. We took down the store and have not posted pictures of her since that time, several years ago. Please don't ask her UMD name or the store name, as we obviously are still valuing our privacy after that incident.

It taught me that faces may be recognized and troublemakers can cause trouble if they have enough information and motive to stir up shit.

The Truth always leaves you in the position of needing to balance the privacy of your life versus your choices about how much of yourself you choose to reveal to the world and others. Rest assured that the NSA, etc. know who ALL of us are, along with everyone else ever mentioned in a computer file, and have long since linked everything about you into a profile. So there are few if any "secrets" left. The only question then is one of Who has a need to know in your opinion. But there should not be any pressure on you either way. It is YOUR decision alone and that should be respected either way. But remember that ANY image of you can possibly be searched out by facial recognition software and at a high enough level, just your IP address can be traced back. This originated as DARPAnet, after all. (Not this site; the Internet itself) So perhaps the REAL question becomes, who will honestly *care* one way or the other? "Oh no; Patsy's face was found on an adult themed fetish website! Quick everybody; clutch your pearls. CLUTCH YOUR PEARLS!!!" Now, I don't know you or your circumstances and I do realize that a number of people here may well have Interesting Day Jobs or family situations that they would not be comfortable with this sort of thing becoming public knowledge (or being blackmailed/threatened with such) so again, no judgement if you choose to remain with the clown face- save for the fact that personally, I have almost always had a dislike of clowns dating back to when I was a small child and the Bozo Show, but that's my issue and another story for perhaps another time.

Anyway, do what YOU need to do for YOU and don't sweat it about what other people here or otherwise may try to tell you that they want you to do. You don't have to make that decision or to rationalize it publicly to anyone here. Be who you are, be comfortable with the degree you choose to share or not share with others on a public board, and feel welcome here either way. And as for those who don't agree with your choices? They have a right to disagree. What they do NOT have is the right to make what THEY see as "the better choices" FOR you. That's my two cents worth, anyway. There's been plenty of people come and go here over the years who disagree with me on some of my own choices too, and I'm still here. So don't let anyone chase you away, either. If you choose to stay then be welcome. If you choose to leave, good luck, God bless, and be well wherever you go. Either way, the choice is yours alone to whatever degree YOU decide.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that, how petty. What did that person stand to gain from that? Blows me away how people do this, I remember Ariel and Jayce had similar concerns in their conservative Midwest US town.

Worst that could happen to us is a little embarrassment since my wife is a full-time mom these days, plus we don't look much like how we did in the few videos we have floating around.

Wish I had friends I could casually chat about this stuff with, it's a big part of who I am but I've never met someone besides my wife that I trust enough.