Hello hello wam universe i need help! i have been really searching for a guy who is near me while i'm at college to pie me and maybe even pie him, but it just is so hard. I can't really travel so i have to stay in my college town, and i even made a separate grindr for it. Some people want me to explain it somtimes but never wanna follow through on real plans. Any advice?

I assume you've posted some pics of yourself to illustrate what you're after (from the most G-rated example to the most R-rated...or beyond)? I know that sounds really basic, but I think guys sometimes tend to be really visual, and a couple pics often can help guys figure out if they're interested (or not) more quickly than reading about a kink with which they may not be familiar.

I also think that being upfront about what you're looking for in a session is important. Is it just a way of letting off steam? Would you like to jack off in front of the guy afterward? Would you like to jack off together afterward? Would you like to go farther than that?

Even if you're completely upfront, it might take some time. The most important thing, I think, is to remember not to get down on yourself if you don't find someone right away (or even for some time). Not finding a compatible guy doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, the way you look, or what you want; it just means the right guy to help you do it isn't in the same place at the same time as you right now.