I haven't made definite plans, but I've been attending this the past couple years and it's quite fun. I've met a few people from various Discord servers of adult entertainers and the shows and vendors are good.

https://www.exxxoticaexpo.com/

Not much in the way of the WAM department, but I like to represent our little community, and I've met a few who have dabbled or are at least interested in trying it.

There are also ones in Chicago, Miami and DC, but time and location-wise NJ/NYC makes the most sense.