It is 9 pm here, soon I will be getting the messages of ppl sayin they are horny and sayin "what will you do to me"....?ugh...

Topics like this have been brought up before. Very sorry, you shouldn't have to deal with continual harassment. This is a small community and everyone should feel safe.

Guys, cat calling doesn't work. It never has. It just makes people feel uncomfortable,and it makes you look really bad. Think about how what you say is going to be received, and treat people with respect.

As a guy who has always been shy when talking to girls, the audacity and crassness of guys who catcall just absolutely confuses me...

My favourites are the ones who have no profile picture, no pictures at all for that matter, no friends, no posts, literally nothing. No effort at all and then without so much as even a hello ask where you are located and if you want to have some fun.

As MM says there is a block function. Maybe update your profile cause it says you wanna make new friends. Maybe a little bit more specific or say please dont message me.

I found a few of these and blocked them like Cinqgirlracer Soug said. You 'Click' on the persons 'Profile' and scroll down to the bottom of the 'page' and on the right hand corner it gives the option to 'Block'. :flag: Report/block user

This has been covered at length by Messmaster on the "Female Wammers" thread within this forum.

The main message: Use Block, and Use the Report fuction.

For Messmaster's concise breakdown which I cannot fault, see this link:
https://umd.net/forums/i/female-wammers-2/start/90#postid_784395

Be nice to each other everyone - WAM is meant to be fun after all!

I have done the above a few times when I was involved defending 2 models over a video request and the guy refused to give up. He first got in contact via email and when this fell through he got on UMD and wrote a forum which has since been deleted. I even had messages from the parties involved and MM over this matter.

Its not acceptable male or female and should be reported. Its about time these people had some respect.

Decorum on the Forum please...

"Hey,you're cute. Can I gargle with your panties? Or do ya wanna watch one of them youtube videos of me taking a poop?"

Set out your boundaries clearly and don't be afraid to enforce them. Block and report. Let people know what you're prepared to talk about/games you'll play/won't play etc.

Try not to respond aggressively (unless it's really witty!) as this is generally counterproductive and, in a lot of cases, exactly what this minority of offenders want you to do! Don't empower them. Ignore.

Avoid taking conversations away from this forum until you REALLY trust someone (would you let them look after your puppy?).

Finally, MM sums up acceptable behaviour by definition in this excerpt from Terms and Privacy below (Respect! That's the secret of acting out your kinky life!)

Exactly. It's not outrageous that people want to sext on an adult site, or that they merely hit you up to chat in the first place. A lot of people on here enjoy that... They do it back and forth all day. That in itself isn't harassment unless you make your position clear and then they don't take the hint.

If you make yourself available on the chat, and especially if you have it set to accept messages from non-friends, and especially if your chat status is "I'm Available," people are gonna say hi. Otherwise, why would you even have the chat turned on?

M

I have been reading these tales of woe with some sadness. We all deserve a place of safety where we can just be ourselves, where we don't have to be constantly 'on'. Some of the postings remind me of when I was driven off Reddit, but that's another story.

Given that some of us guys can be somewhat ignorant (ladies, please restrain yourselves from commenting on 'some' and 'ignorant' ), I hope it's alright if I take another angle and ask (Don't hurt me, come in peace):

1. How should an approach be made?

2. How should I ask for permission to use or repost a photo (for example to Flickr or Deviant Art)?

3. If there's no response to an initial message, should a follow-up ever be sent?

I note in passing that, with only two exceptions, all the persons posting to this thread have friendly and welcoming profiles. Richard Trouso's is neutral. HappyCamper's is unfriendly but given his handle and profile picture, that tone may have been intended tongue in cheek.

Cheers!

Jason

In my life, I have encountered guys who seem to believe that women are objects, rather than human beings. They'll see an attractive woman and say, 'I'd jump that'. Ok, first of all, she isn't a 'that', she's a 'her'. Secondly, why are you thinking you can 'jump' her when obviously there would have to be a time of getting to know one another, feeling safe, etc. before sex would even be a possibility, and assuming there would be a mutual attraction. If, in my mind, I see an attractive woman and think, 'wow, she's hot', I always say it to myself knowing she is a person. She could be a lawyer or hold some high position of importance, and her intelligence may reside in an attractive body, perhaps well-endowed and very pretty. Furthermore, she may dress sexy, with fish-nets, makeup, tight clothing, etc. but still, she is never an object. Looking sexy does NOT mean 'she wants it' or that she's easy. It means she values her appearance and has chosen a 'look' that she likes.

To give an example of the kind of guys out there, I once stumbled onto a church event (on Youtube), where older teenagers were getting pied. One blonde young woman got pied and it was all over her t-shirt, and some guy in the crowd yelled out 'take it off! Show us your tits!'. Remember, this was a church event. I guess in his mind, she was the entertainment, and maybe the only entertainment he was used to was strippers at a bar. At any rate, his comment was EXTREMELY inappropriate and his buddies actually led him away from the event.

Whether one color or another, one gender or another, one species or another, we are all creations here on this planet and deserve to respect one another. Human nature likes to think we are at the top of the food chain, and that man is superior to women. (based on biceps maybe) I have respect for all nature because one mosquito could carry a deadly disease and wipe me out. Nobody is better, especially not one gender over another. Guys who think women are objects need to smarten up. Cat-calling is a way of showing stupidity. Has any guy in history EVER gotten anywhere from cat-calling? I highly doubt it. Try talking. Not about how she looks, but maybe how she feels or thinks about something.