So a little bit of background I was raised in a very religious household where sex was not really discussed and porn was of the devil. I discovered wam by accident in my midteens starting with random youtube videos until gradually moving on to sites like this. I was also homeschooled in my early teens so missed out on a lot of sex education which I've had to teach myself over the years.
I mention all this because I find that I often feel a little embarrassment whenever I'm watching non wam porn (especially if it involves penetration) I love it but it still makes me a little uncomfortable. I've also noticed that it takes me longer to climax when watching non wam porn.
I've never had a full on relationship in fact I'm a still virgin and I'm worried about this causing difficulties as not every potential partner will likely have the same interest in wam.
Hey mang, good things come to those who wait...but if u meet someone just take it slow and eventually u have to confide bc u don't wanna hide things from significant others...I have and the relationships failed bc I was a baby and wouldn't pony up....I also was not a fan of b3ing intimate bc I'm somewhat asecusl to a point and now I have a gf of a month and she is super fun n silly so I'm about t0 expose it for the first time...but I shouldn't have waited ...maybe some of the exes would've had fun doin it or just did it bc they want u to be happy. Just wait for the right time but don't hide it forever bc u never know and honesty is the best policy...coming from experience. Good luck hope this helps
When talking about wam, be happy, confident, just share what you like and smile about it.
Nothing puts off a significant other like someone acting all embarrassed and feeling as if they have a weird problem when discussing a turn-on. Just treat it like the happy and fun thing that it is.
I initially came clean about being into wam when my girlfriend asked me if I've ever regretted beating it to something and my answer was some lady getting soaking wet in a dress on a game show. I thought she was going to be hella weirded out between that and the fact that I'm extremely into the maxi dress/Jean jacket combo and instead she found it extremely attractive that I know exactly what I'm into.
Advice: If it bothers you seek a sex and relationship counsellor. google COSRT as a starting point.
No advice as I can't give any as you are you and advice can only come from my personal world. I will say...
Porn isn't real.
Any feelings you have for it are about porn itself, so they don't need to transfer to real life encounters. Talk to your partner about what they want and like Lose the shame around sex as it's not needed. Don't worry about 'getting things wrong' because you can apologise, learn and try again. Don't let fear/anxiety cripple you.
You have time now to get a real sex education, and again, that is NOT porn.
As for WAM: Most partners won't have any interest in WAM. But they will be interested in you, so telling them is the only way they can learn. Trust me, they will have strange little turn-ons too and by telling them, they will tell you about themselves and you'll both be good. If they don't like it, then that's ok as you have lost nothing. If they leave (hard limits) then that's ok too as it's their choice and they were not the person for the real you. Communication and honesty is the key thing in relationships. (FYI, I'm a sex and relationship counsellor).
Love you, too
